How can I tell my girlfriend she is fat?

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Frankly, I'm confused about what men consider "over-weight."

One guy's "fat chick" is another guy's "curvy girl."

I'm perceived to be thin by most people, but, to some dudes, I'm "fat" because I weigh more than 100 pounds. On Facebook, whenever some chick has an unpopular opinion, dudes seem to immediately attack her weight regardless of whether or not she's obese.

Those “dudes” have a very distorted view of things.

Well....cyberdad has to check his eyes, he probably meant curvy...but those were certainly not overweight, not in their times and not even in our times, no offense cyberdad.

Yes describing them as overweight is an exaggeration.

Yes I did insert a caveat that this "was my perception" which translates to my view "not representative of all males"...

I grew up in a family of skinny people and so my perception was coming from a teen who equated average weight with what I grew up believing as normal

Despite my family/media I found I was infact more attracted to "women who I perceived were slightly overweight but (as correctly pointed out) were just on the curvy side that's all

Also my perception of weight was relating to objectification of the female body which essentially what most heterosexual males do of females whether consciously or unconsciously.

The other aspect which is weight equating to health risks (which I think is what some here are getting confused about) Doctors have a middle weight/fat ratio which is considered ideal but data suggests this varies with individuals so what is "ideal" is a bit difficult to pin point exactly

Really I always hear them talk about how fat Americans are and how we eat too much and too many treats and how there’s sugar in all our food.

Yeah, that too.

For a long time American companies have advertised their products, particularly food, here with a 'this is big enough to feed an American so it will feed your whole family for a month' type slogans. I think that's a big part of why the rest of the world thinks you're big.
My Dad is really critical about weight but when he visited the US he was surprised, he didn't think people were bigger at all. He visited Sanfrancisco, is that typical?

People tend to be about the fittest and healthiest in the coastal cities of California. Obesity rates are regional, for sure. Theres a large part of middle America & the South that's, well, Larger.