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15 May 2015, 5:38 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There's no doubt that some people are seen globally unattractive wherever they are, like having some traits which are globally repellent (ie. Obesity), they are less fortunate than my case.

Let's take an extreme example, I am pretty sure that Quasimodo would be seen unattractive globally, from East to West; things wouldn't fluctuate much for him per country.


This picture is from the article you posted in the other thread. I think everyone can predict just by looking at the pictures which people will get most attention on tinder/internet dating (which is mostly based on visual appearance). Both men and women are sort of clones that way. They all had the same profile text but people don't give a s**t about that anyway since self-descriptions are like horoscopes.


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15 May 2015, 5:46 am

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What do you mean? If you don't agree that women look for similar things in their partners then 'men being not much better' means that they're all also very different in their preferences? Or not? Could you please elaborate?


I don't agree that all women are clones that are so stupid that they only like the people that society tells them that they should like.And the last comment came more out from frustration, sorry. Part of me feels like we women on WP constantly have to defend ourselves for some reason and I don't see the men here having to do the same.



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15 May 2015, 5:47 am

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
There's no doubt that some people are seen globally unattractive wherever they are, like having some traits which are globally repellent (ie. Obesity), they are less fortunate than my case.

Let's take an extreme example, I am pretty sure that Quasimodo would be seen unattractive globally, from East to West; things wouldn't fluctuate much for him per country.


This picture is from the article you posted in the other thread. I think everyone can predict just by looking at the pictures which people will get most attention on tinder/internet dating (which is mostly based on visual appearance). Both men and women are sort of clones that way. They all had the same profile text but people don't give a s**t about that anyway since self-descriptions are like horoscopes.


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15 May 2015, 5:56 am

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What do you mean? If you don't agree that women look for similar things in their partners then 'men being not much better' means that they're all also very different in their preferences? Or not? Could you please elaborate?


I don't agree that all women are clones that are so stupid that they only like the people that society tells them that they should like.And the last comment came more out from frustration, sorry. Part of me feels like we women on WP constantly have to defend ourselves for some reason and I don't see the men here having to do the same.


It's because there are much more men on WP than women (I think).

The same goes for men though, in that picture I posted it is pretty easy to predict which of the women are going to get the most attention.



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15 May 2015, 6:04 am

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It's because there are much more men on WP than women (I think).

The same goes for men though, in that picture I posted it is pretty easy to predict which of the women are going to get the most attention.


I think that you are correct.



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15 May 2015, 6:05 am

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I don't agree that all women are clones that are so stupid that they only like the people that society tells them that they should like.And the last comment came more out from frustration, sorry. Part of me feels like we women on WP constantly have to defend ourselves for some reason and I don't see the men here having to do the same.

Sure, not all people are the same, but it's silly to say that everyone is unique and that there's someone for everyone. Some people are screwed. Even kind, clean, well dressed people may end up single, forever.



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15 May 2015, 6:13 am

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Sure, not all people are the same, but it's silly to say that everyone is unique and that there's someone for everyone. Some people are screwed. Even kind, clean, well dressed people may end up single, forever.


That is always possible, but why?

Is it because they don't try hard enough?
Because they go after the wrong people?
Maybe they don't recognize when someone is interested in them?

There really can be a lot of reasons for it. I doubt that anyone is really screwed, I think there is a chance that they are simply doing certain mistakes...
And I think that maybe certain people think that they want someone in their life, but it is more from thinking that they need someone, because they see that other people are in relationships. So more from social pressure or so…



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15 May 2015, 6:23 am

How would you know if you really want (or need?) a relationship or not if you've never been in one?



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15 May 2015, 6:29 am

Bondkatten wrote:
314pe wrote:
Sure, not all people are the same, but it's silly to say that everyone is unique and that there's someone for everyone. Some people are screwed. Even kind, clean, well dressed people may end up single, forever.


That is always possible, but why?

Is it because they don't try hard enough?
Because they go after the wrong people?
Maybe they don't recognize when someone is interested in them?

There really can be a lot of reasons for it. I doubt that anyone is really screwed, I think there is a chance that they are simply doing certain mistakes...
And I think that maybe certain people think that they want someone in their life, but it is more from thinking that they need someone, because they see that other people are in relationships. So more from social pressure or so…


it's not just social pressure, it's loneliness plus surplus of testosterone...they're genetically predisposed to breed, and get little or no chance to do so. I've met some of those "screwed" ones, they're my best friends...and they try harder than anyone else I know.



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15 May 2015, 6:31 am

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My friend is far from being a Quasimodo, and neither you or sly look like hunchbacks. Regular guys, nothing wrong with either of you from what I could see. :)

Exactly. It's annoying when someone posts their picture on WP and thinks he's ugly, but still looks WAY better than I do.



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15 May 2015, 6:54 am

I'm not sure how important looks are in the real world. I see plenty of not-so-good-looking people with relationships.



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15 May 2015, 6:54 am

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314pe wrote:
Sure, not all people are the same, but it's silly to say that everyone is unique and that there's someone for everyone. Some people are screwed. Even kind, clean, well dressed people may end up single, forever.


That is always possible, but why?

Is it because they don't try hard enough?
Because they go after the wrong people?
Maybe they don't recognize when someone is interested in them?

There really can be a lot of reasons for it. I doubt that anyone is really screwed, I think there is a chance that they are simply doing certain mistakes...
And I think that maybe certain people think that they want someone in their life, but it is more from thinking that they need someone, because they see that other people are in relationships. So more from social pressure or so…


Or because...viewtopic.php?f=6&t=285005&start=105 (janissy post).



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15 May 2015, 7:36 am

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Don't agree? Prove it, show me numbers!

I am showing you real numbers showing how collectively-minded women are in regard of what they find attractive (when it comes to looks at least - but that's pretty significant element and you know that), and you still question this? I mean come on, 60%-70% out of each 100 in Meghreb and Asian countries and Mexico and pathetically zeros to one-hand-digits in Germany, Ukraine and Sweden?

How doesn't that prove that women in each of these countries have some kind of a consensus in what they find attractive?

You have to come up with a better argument than that rather than just denying it or referring to yourself.


You are forgetting on significant factor and that is that only a certain type of women/men will go on Tinder or whatever... I would never do and I think a lot of other people would also never do it. So how can you possibly get to the truth when your study is based on only a certain type of people/women?


You can find all the types of women there.

They are pretty much representative.



And what is the percentage of usage of these sites in these countries? That also matters...



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15 May 2015, 7:45 am

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How would you know if you really want (or need?) a relationship or not if you've never been in one?


That is true, and I think because of the lack of experience that it becomes more important to certain people. Because you have no actual experience you paint up an ideal in your head that might be difficult for anyone to fulfill. But I think there are no simple universal rules on this topic. Life is complicated and so is love and relationships.

I also think that society puts to much value on relationships, like you are somehow a better person for not being single. It's total BS...



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15 May 2015, 7:54 am

Booyakasha wrote:
it's not just social pressure, it's loneliness plus surplus of testosterone...they're genetically predisposed to breed, and get little or no chance to do so. I've met some of those "screwed" ones, they're my best friends...and they try harder than anyone else I know.


It's sad if people that need and want relationships don't manage to get one. I didn't say that I think that people are screwed. I think that society can be very unfair and cold at times, and if people are rejected just because they are not the ideal, then that sucks. But who wants to be liked by those kinds of people? I would have chosen a solitary life if my choice would have been between that kind of a jerk or being alone.



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15 May 2015, 7:57 am

Bondkatten wrote:
Booyakasha wrote:
it's not just social pressure, it's loneliness plus surplus of testosterone...they're genetically predisposed to breed, and get little or no chance to do so. I've met some of those "screwed" ones, they're my best friends...and they try harder than anyone else I know.


It's sad if people that need and want relationships don't manage to get one. I didn't say that I think that people are screwed. I think that society can be very unfair and cold at times, and if people are rejected just because they are not the ideal, then that sucks. But who wants to be liked by those kinds of people? I would have chosen a solitary life if my choice would have been between that kind of a jerk or being alone.


Again, that's because you are a woman. Your main goal in life is acquiring and maintaining social status, dating a low-status, ugly, embittered man such as myself wouldn't give you any status so you'd rather be on your own. Man don't work that way. :roll: