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03 Mar 2016, 8:07 am

I've always heard we have an easier time because we have all the p**** and half the money.


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03 Mar 2016, 2:47 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Because it's a social norm that society has created, which has not died off yet...that guys ask girls out.

Now let the raging at the whole female sex begin, because somehow we're all directly responsible for something that became a norm long ago....at least seems how these questions usually go.


Let us men joke without the drama. :|


It was meant to be more satirical than serious....too much I guess, though not sure where you got that the comment had anything to do with joking I see nothing wrong with people doing that. I guess I feel this question and arguments it sometimes provokes is like beating a dead horse.


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03 Mar 2016, 2:51 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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Because it's a social norm that society has created, which has not died off yet...that guys ask girls out.
I actually prefer it that way.


A lot of guys do seem to prefer that, most I know IRL like asking girls out...though most probably wouldn't be put off by a girl asking them out but they enjoy asking girls out.


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03 Mar 2016, 2:55 pm

I don't believe I've ever met a guy who would prefer that a girl ask HIM out.



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03 Mar 2016, 3:26 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Because it's a social norm that society has created, which has not died off yet...that guys ask girls out.
I actually prefer it that way.


A lot of guys do seem to prefer that, most I know IRL like asking girls out...though most probably wouldn't be put off by a girl asking them out but they enjoy asking girls out.

I don't see how it's fun to be rejected over and over again so I would certainly prefer a girl to ask me out, but that's not going to happen.



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03 Mar 2016, 4:25 pm

Girls can get pregnant, so girls are naturally more cautious in choosing a mate. Guys can bounce around girls nutting and leaving.



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03 Mar 2016, 4:54 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I don't believe I've ever met a guy who would prefer that a girl ask HIM out.


so your saying most guys are against, turned off by girls who make the first move, ask them out first? why is that?



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03 Mar 2016, 6:20 pm

Some guys are turned off because they don't feel like a "man" unless they make the first move. I don't think this is as common as it once was.

I would say most guys, actually, would be just stunned to be asked out by a woman. I don't think they would mind it, necessarily. They would be tongue-tied, though LOL

In all my 55 years of existence, I was asked out by a woman exactly ONCE. And that was when I was 17. She wanted me to become a Jesus Freak like her. Another time, a woman grabbed me and forced me into her apartment. I've had a couple of woman get aggressive with me sexually. Otherwise, I've always made the first move, and that was expected.



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03 Mar 2016, 8:09 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I would say most guys, actually, would be just stunned to be asked out by a woman. I don't think they would mind it, necessarily. They would be tongue-tied, though LOL

I've found it tends to work pretty well (as long as he's interested). Yeah, a guy can get a bit flustered by the attention but so do girls, and that's all part of the fun of it.



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03 Mar 2016, 10:40 pm

I'd expect it to be some kind of prank at best, or a way to lure me somewhere so someone can beat me up and rob me without raising the attention of any nosy third party.


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04 Mar 2016, 7:22 am

I wouldn't even know what to think if a girl asked me out. It'd be so difficult to contemplate that my brain would probably just break. I'd immediately shoot her down, and freaking bail. Change numbers, shut down my social network accounts, move house, then go hide in some hole for a month all the while trying to compute exactly how someone became interested in me.

So yeah, total emotional meltdown. I hope to God nobody ever asks me out, especially not someone I fancy - that'd be even worse.



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04 Mar 2016, 8:04 am

Sabreclaw wrote:
I wouldn't even know what to think if a girl asked me out. It'd be so difficult to contemplate that my brain would probably just break. I'd immediately shoot her down, and freaking bail. Change numbers, shut down my social network accounts, move house, then go hide in some hole for a month all the while trying to compute exactly how someone became interested in me.

So yeah, total emotional meltdown. I hope to God nobody ever asks me out, especially not someone I fancy - that'd be even worse.



Hi, Boo's sister here, would you go out with me?



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04 Mar 2016, 11:06 am

Don't know if the question has been posed yet, but all the guys longing for dates: is it just for the physical aspects or do you want the emotional aspects? I was just wondering - maybe that has an influence on the way women respond.

Another question: a few responses mentioned not having your life together as a reason for rejection. Relationships are complex. If life itself is already hard, how do you think a relationship would factor into the daily grind?

Not trying to be rude at all, these are genuinely questions from an objective point of view. I'm just trying to understand human nature - men in general. You might think us women are hard to understand, but that works both ways ;).

Thanks!



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04 Mar 2016, 11:24 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
I wouldn't even know what to think if a girl asked me out. It'd be so difficult to contemplate that my brain would probably just break. I'd immediately shoot her down, and freaking bail. Change numbers, shut down my social network accounts, move house, then go hide in some hole for a month all the while trying to compute exactly how someone became interested in me.

So yeah, total emotional meltdown. I hope to God nobody ever asks me out, especially not someone I fancy - that'd be even worse.



Hi, Boo's sister here, would you go out with me?


You have a very nasty sense of humor, lol.



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04 Mar 2016, 2:34 pm

MsV wrote:
Don't know if the question has been posed yet, but all the guys longing for dates: is it just for the physical aspects or do you want the emotional aspects? I was just wondering - maybe that has an influence on the way women respond.

Another question: a few responses mentioned not having your life together as a reason for rejection. Relationships are complex. If life itself is already hard, how do you think a relationship would factor into the daily grind?

Not trying to be rude at all, these are genuinely questions from an objective point of view. I'm just trying to understand human nature - men in general. You might think us women are hard to understand, but that works both ways ;).

Thanks!

Maybe you should ask a non-aromantic woman. The idea that a relationship will make life harder also seems ridiculous to me. Maybe the problem is our culture makes it that way. People make things hard when they don't have to be. People living in third world slums with no running water still have relationships and families. People have never stopped reproducing because "life is too hard already". :roll:

I think isolationism is a first-world invention. It's not natural.



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04 Mar 2016, 4:58 pm

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The idea that a relationship will make life harder also seems ridiculous to me.

Au contraire ... relationships are difficult, even between compatible people. They can indeed make life harder. Your reaction is an example of the false assumption that many men here make; that a relationship will bring them happiness.