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04 Mar 2016, 5:20 pm
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Why a well put together life is a must-be perquisite for wanting a relationship? It is not. 
04 Mar 2016, 5:39 pm
marshall wrote:
MsV wrote:
Don't know if the question has been posed yet, but all the guys longing for dates: is it just for the physical aspects or do you want the emotional aspects? I was just wondering - maybe that has an influence on the way women respond.
Another question: a few responses mentioned not having your life together as a reason for rejection. Relationships are complex. If life itself is already hard, how do you think a relationship would factor into the daily grind?
Not trying to be rude at all, these are genuinely questions from an objective point of view. I'm just trying to understand human nature - men in general. You might think us women are hard to understand, but that works both ways
.
Thanks!
Another question: a few responses mentioned not having your life together as a reason for rejection. Relationships are complex. If life itself is already hard, how do you think a relationship would factor into the daily grind?
Not trying to be rude at all, these are genuinely questions from an objective point of view. I'm just trying to understand human nature - men in general. You might think us women are hard to understand, but that works both ways
. Thanks!
Maybe you should ask a non-aromantic woman. The idea that a relationship will make life harder also seems ridiculous to me. Maybe the problem is our culture makes it that way. People make things hard when they don't have to be. People living in third world slums with no running water still have relationships and families. People have never stopped reproducing because "life is too hard already".
I think isolationism is a first-world invention. It's not natural.
04 Mar 2016, 5:41 pm
04 Mar 2016, 5:47 pm
Darn the captcha thing deleted my reply earlier 
Here's the correct version.
marshall wrote:
MsV wrote:
Don't know if the question has been posed yet, but all the guys longing for dates: is it just for the physical aspects or do you want the emotional aspects? I was just wondering - maybe that has an influence on the way women respond.
Another question: a few responses mentioned not having your life together as a reason for rejection. Relationships are complex. If life itself is already hard, how do you think a relationship would factor into the daily grind?
Not trying to be rude at all, these are genuinely questions from an objective point of view. I'm just trying to understand human nature - men in general. You might think us women are hard to understand, but that works both ways.
Thanks!
Another question: a few responses mentioned not having your life together as a reason for rejection. Relationships are complex. If life itself is already hard, how do you think a relationship would factor into the daily grind?
Not trying to be rude at all, these are genuinely questions from an objective point of view. I'm just trying to understand human nature - men in general. You might think us women are hard to understand, but that works both ways
. Thanks!
Maybe you should ask a non-aromantic woman. The idea that a relationship will make life harder also seems ridiculous to me. Maybe the problem is our culture makes it that way. People make things hard when they don't have to be. People living in third world slums with no running water still have relationships and families. People have never stopped reproducing because "life is too hard already".
I think isolationism is a first-world invention. It's not natural.
I might be aromantic, but being dismissive won't facilitate an attempt at understanding.
First off, those third world 'relationships' are usually pre-arranged and don't usually have much to do with romance. Reproduction under those circumstances isn't always voluntary and doesn't always end well cf. China / India where they kill off the girls to avoid dowries.
My point was that relationships are work, they require communication and compromise. Many relationships fall apart because people aren't willing to put in said work. Those fairy tale idea's of perfection through relationships are just that, fairy tales.
So, if few aspects of a person's life are in order (job - social circle - perspectives for the future), why would that person want to bring another quite unpredictable factor into the situation? That was my question. It's like people having babies to save a marriage. Why not find stability within first and then add the relationship, so you can afford to focus on it. I was simply hoping for any type of clarification. Sadly, received none though.
And yes, some people (e.g. me) prefer isolation in a romantic sense, however I am not isolated. I have a small but amazing group of friends who are loyal and kind. My colleagues are amazing and supportive. My family is wonderful.
Finally, I see you didn't answer the first part of my question. Was this intentional? Or did you answer it in an indirect fashion by referring to reproduction (i.e. the physical aspect)?
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kraftiekortie
Post subject: Re: Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than g
If I just looked merely for the "physical," I wouldn't have gone out with most of my girlfriends.
Something else other than the mere "physical" turns me on.
Post subject: Re: Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than g
If I just looked merely for the "physical," I wouldn't have gone out with most of my girlfriends.
Something else other than the mere "physical" turns me on.
For me it would have to be both as well! But then I would have to be ready to take 'the plunge' first
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04 Mar 2016, 6:34 pm
04 Mar 2016, 6:38 pm
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04 Mar 2016, 6:48 pm
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04 Mar 2016, 6:57 pm
^I believe in Santa and the Spirit of Christmas! 
I've been reading a great book called 'Don't Sweat The Small Stuff In Love.' If there was one book about relationships that I would read on a regular basis, it would be that one. I highly recommend it! 
04 Mar 2016, 9:46 pm
05 Mar 2016, 1:55 am
05 Mar 2016, 3:44 am
MsV wrote:
Darn the captcha thing deleted my reply earlier Here's the correct version.
Maybe you should ask a non-aromantic woman. The idea that a relationship will make life harder also seems ridiculous to me. Maybe the problem is our culture makes it that way. People make things hard when they don't have to be. People living in third world slums with no running water still have relationships and families. People have never stopped reproducing because "life is too hard already".
I think isolationism is a first-world invention. It's not natural.
I might be aromantic, but being dismissive won't facilitate an attempt at understanding.
First off, those third world 'relationships' are usually pre-arranged and don't usually have much to do with romance. Reproduction under those circumstances isn't always voluntary and doesn't always end well cf. China / India where they kill off the girls to avoid dowries.
My point was that relationships are work, they require communication and compromise. Many relationships fall apart because people aren't willing to put in said work. Those fairy tale idea's of perfection through relationships are just that, fairy tales.
So, if few aspects of a person's life are in order (job - social circle - perspectives for the future), why would that person want to bring another quite unpredictable factor into the situation? That was my question. It's like people having babies to save a marriage. Why not find stability within first and then add the relationship, so you can afford to focus on it. I was simply hoping for any type of clarification. Sadly, received none though.
And yes, some people (e.g. me) prefer isolation in a romantic sense, however I am not isolated. I have a small but amazing group of friends who are loyal and kind. My colleagues are amazing and supportive. My family is wonderful.
Finally, I see you didn't answer the first part of my question. Was this intentional? Or did you answer it in an indirect fashion by referring to reproduction (i.e. the physical aspect)?
For me it would have to be both as well! But then I would have to be ready to take 'the plunge' first
Here's the correct version. marshall wrote:
MsV wrote:
Don't know if the question has been posed yet, but all the guys longing for dates: is it just for the physical aspects or do you want the emotional aspects? I was just wondering - maybe that has an influence on the way women respond.
Another question: a few responses mentioned not having your life together as a reason for rejection. Relationships are complex. If life itself is already hard, how do you think a relationship would factor into the daily grind?
Not trying to be rude at all, these are genuinely questions from an objective point of view. I'm just trying to understand human nature - men in general. You might think us women are hard to understand, but that works both ways.
Thanks!
Another question: a few responses mentioned not having your life together as a reason for rejection. Relationships are complex. If life itself is already hard, how do you think a relationship would factor into the daily grind?
Not trying to be rude at all, these are genuinely questions from an objective point of view. I'm just trying to understand human nature - men in general. You might think us women are hard to understand, but that works both ways
. Thanks!
Maybe you should ask a non-aromantic woman. The idea that a relationship will make life harder also seems ridiculous to me. Maybe the problem is our culture makes it that way. People make things hard when they don't have to be. People living in third world slums with no running water still have relationships and families. People have never stopped reproducing because "life is too hard already".
I think isolationism is a first-world invention. It's not natural.
I might be aromantic, but being dismissive won't facilitate an attempt at understanding.
First off, those third world 'relationships' are usually pre-arranged and don't usually have much to do with romance. Reproduction under those circumstances isn't always voluntary and doesn't always end well cf. China / India where they kill off the girls to avoid dowries.
My point was that relationships are work, they require communication and compromise. Many relationships fall apart because people aren't willing to put in said work. Those fairy tale idea's of perfection through relationships are just that, fairy tales.
So, if few aspects of a person's life are in order (job - social circle - perspectives for the future), why would that person want to bring another quite unpredictable factor into the situation? That was my question. It's like people having babies to save a marriage. Why not find stability within first and then add the relationship, so you can afford to focus on it. I was simply hoping for any type of clarification. Sadly, received none though.
And yes, some people (e.g. me) prefer isolation in a romantic sense, however I am not isolated. I have a small but amazing group of friends who are loyal and kind. My colleagues are amazing and supportive. My family is wonderful.
Finally, I see you didn't answer the first part of my question. Was this intentional? Or did you answer it in an indirect fashion by referring to reproduction (i.e. the physical aspect)?
Quote:
kraftiekortie
Post subject: Re: Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than g
If I just looked merely for the "physical," I wouldn't have gone out with most of my girlfriends.
Something else other than the mere "physical" turns me on.
Post subject: Re: Why is it girls have an easier time getting dates than g
If I just looked merely for the "physical," I wouldn't have gone out with most of my girlfriends.
Something else other than the mere "physical" turns me on.
For me it would have to be both as well! But then I would have to be ready to take 'the plunge' first
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05 Mar 2016, 9:30 am
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05 Mar 2016, 9:41 am
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