20 Jun 2009, 9:15 pm
20 Jun 2009, 10:54 pm
Saspie wrote:
There are plenty of "how to" sites on the internet in regards to sex. You do not have to go into a relationship terrible at sex.
Ever heard of the phrase "easier said than done"?
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I am sure there are some women who would be understanding of your inexperience. Perhaps not if you waited until after sleeping with them to spring that news on them but if you are upfront I would think you would have a better chance. I had sex with one guy who was just awful (the only bad lay I've had) and did not tell me at the time he was a virgin. If he had told me, things would have been different as I would have known why he was bad in bed. Though, not all virgins are bad.
Oh I would tell her the news before I got to it... but i wouldn't be doing it until I was sure she wouldn't leave me over a bad time... and if she tried to jump me, I would probably bring it up then as a reason to hold off a bit...
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Ok so you are inexperienced. Everyone was there at one point. That does not automatically equate to "terrible in bed". Why do you just fumble around like an idiot? If you have *no idea* what you are doing, you really should read up on sex and foreplay advice so you have an idea of what to do. You should also be asking the person you are with for feedback. Attitude is a big thing when it comes to sex and if you keep thinking you are going to be bad and put no time into learning about sex (even before you have it) or asking the other person what they want you probably will be terrible.
Most of the advice I've seen online was written either by creepy men and looks too simple and probably doesn't work, or by self-centered women that looks even more demanding than the sex it's supposed to precede... The only resource that doesn't look like it has a bias is wikipedia, and then that would end up like this:
As for the attitude, I want to learn more, but I'm a person who learns through doing, and I can't do it to learn if the woman is going to leave me because i'm bad in bed...
