What does your ideal fantasy partner look like?

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It doesn't really matter much to me, but I tend to be attracted most to blonde-haired girls.

i don't even care anymore as long as she's not overweight and has a nice smile. if she has a similar sense of humor and likes spontaneous stuff then i'm all about her.

The Harold Ramis (in Ghostbusters) or Anthony Rapp (in Rent) type. Smart, "nerdy", passionate about what he does, etc.

Gorgeous eyes.

Fun, smart, and, a unique spunk. That's pretty important, being oneself. Not like "Everone look how different I am!!" different...just, certain of self and individuality.

I've always been attracted to people like Janeane Garofalo, Christina Ricci, Thora Birch, Jaimie Alexander, Ellen Page, and so on. I also love the role Kate Winslet played in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

Ideal Fantasy Woman: A little taller than me - say 5'4ish - long dark hair - possibly curly or wavy - and pale skin - or dark in an exotic, eastern way. Glasses, nice full lips, curvy with nice big boobs and ass. She'd have a quirky fashion sense and wear sexy, colourful underwear. She'd be into literature, comics, anime and maybe something like philosophy. Her profession would be something like librarian, doctor, lecturer, comedian or musician. She'd be creatively minded and have a hobby like painting, photography or maybe something a little unusual like origami or knitting.

Ideal Fantasy Man: Not as fussy about looks when it comes to guys. He has to be fiercely intelligent, really witty and funny, masculine - good driver, can jump over small walls, open jars, get spiders, make love all night long - but also in touch with his emotions and his "feminine side" - self-aware, supportive, not afraid to admit he's wrong. If I had to suggest some physical attributes...glasses again, tall, slightly shorter than shoulder length hair - probably also dark and wavy. But anything really, it'd more about what he's like as a person. He'd dress in the sort of suit that a college lecturers wear and be an educated man. Could be a music teacher, a mathematical genius, an academic or doctor - maybe a shrink. He'd have some unusual and geeky hobby, maybe something sciencey.

^^ Sounds like my description as well.

As far as a male partner goes I've notice lately I'm not too picky, esthetically speaking.

As for a female partner:
Golden-red to deep Auburn, or strawberry blond hair
Hazel or blue eyes
about 5'6
muscular(lean not female body builder)
long legs
averrage-ish or smaller breasts
pale soft lips

Already have them: no need for wishing.

My male friend/lover and I:




My female friend/lover and I (she's on the left)

Be wary and careful when creating "shopping list" traits. These lists are often based in some remote fancy and not in reality and they can get you into situations not so easy to get out of or fix.


Judiciously, what matters most to me and anyone I think is the following. It is not specific and not limited to one look or culture:


1. Good health - toned or in shape body, which doesn't mean rake thin. It means that no one area or areas are overly layered with shapeless padding. Physical stamina also helps the spirit and the libido.

2. Self-Confidence. Confidence in who they are and self-directed. Self-assured with little need to seek external validation.
Personal quiet confidence is vitally important to relationships. insecurity and defensives kills relationships.

3. Hygiene and "Beauty Care". I like being granola, but it doesn't mean letting it all go. Every sort of culture either had less body hair, or modified themselves to some degree. Tribal societies worldwide use perfumes and body beautifying rituals. It is not inhuman to paint your self, adorn yourself, or scrape (old tool) shave yourself and create something very appealing. Nothing is more inviting then a smooth, evenly toned body and hair that smells of some nice fragrance.

4. Sexual dimorphism: women should exhibit a womanly shape. Rounded breasts that and bottoms that beckon fertility are a no-brainer. Feminine facial features. The opposite would hold true for the male qualities straight women would seek: strong V shaped upper body. I prefer women with their hips 10-25% wider than their shoulders, with nice moderate to noticeable sized breasts, while many women prefer men with shoulders that are noticeably wider than the man's waist and hips.