Slight overweightness...kills chances?

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I think it has more to do with the vibe you send off, not that I have a clue to what the right vibe might be. Maybe we don't look like we are interested or we look like we're too interested. Personally I'm comfortable being an "old maid".
If I did put myself back out there I would still probably choose the wrong person or muck up my chances with the right one. Actually, when I realized I might have an ASD, that was what hit me hardest, but I'm okay now.

I don't think weight kills anyone unless they are in the morbidly obese range and that's about over 300. I've lost 60 pounds over the past 4 years and I still have not had any success with any girls in my life so far. I'm in the exact same spot as I was 4 years ago. Why, because of my awful, socially awkward personality that's why. It's not looks that kill, it's personality that kills. I'm 6"2 and weigh 150 now but so far it has not made me anymore likable or appealing. Maybe some shallow girls would like me more, who knows, but those are the ones I avoid anyways.

Well I think the reason weight might be a turnoff to those that it turns off is they rationalize that anyone can lose weight. Which is hypothetically true.

Actually, no . . . one of my online friends is a nutritionist and health consultant, and a good percentage dont get "runner's high" from exercising. Its not that one is being lazy, its that exercise has no level of comfort to us . . . we're addicted to mental challenges, not physical ones. I can attest to this (5' 9", 250 lbs and i despise exercising, but love anything that challenges my mind). Admittedly, the lightest Ive been is 190 lbs, but that was from doing an Atkins thing (hi protein, lo carb), but due to going away for college, my metabolism got screwed up. Luckily, im am internally healthy to an extent and i go for a walk at least twice a day, totaling 40 - 60 min. per day. Ive also been working at a job that requires a lot of physical maneuvering on weekends. I may be a fat 250, but at least im a healthy 250.

As for luck dating, well . . . thats been a shortcoming for almost a decade now.

IMO...
I dont care if she is over weight, I only dislike if she is soo obese that its a obvious health issue. What?!?
My definition of Overweight = weight is proportional to height (quantifiable example is: 66 inch at 170lbs is still attactive).
My Definition of Obese = "She gonna burst if you poked her with a needle!" (example: movie Super Size Me!)

In regards to "obvious health issue".
Obesity can and will cause more undue stress to the person and subsequently cost more for health care and create potential problems with a relationship. Easy ways to avoid this problem unless your just genetically unlucky (have a few in my familly).
~however~
Skinny does not mean you are remotely healthy either! Low body weight can also be signs and symptoms of other more sinister health related issues or drug abuse.

So, again I do not care if a female is overweight, honestly I think they should be soft anyways. Them models on magazines are great eye candy but soo is that Ferarri I probably wont ever be able to afford (yeah I want one, but practically, I cant fit all my friends and their crap in it, so I'll go for that reliable SUV that can fit all my crap and I can count on being there when I want to do something).

~please dont flame about my post, as I could go even further in depth and talk your ear off, thanks aspergers for making me long winded in this subject~

*Bleurgh* I can't STAND any "softness" on my own body (I really, really try to not hate my breasts, though, because I'd rather not lose them to cancer as my mom and some other female relatives did), and I detest it on men's, as well. I like to be able to see every muscle and bit of sinew on a guy's frame (i.e., "manorexic"). Excess flesh on myself or others (male or female) just disgusts me. I'm a perfectionist, unfortunately, and I probably have BDD, so please don't flame me, either.

BTW, I myself am not a "soft" male of any sorts. To be honest Im the lightest weight and potentially smallest (not short, but close) person in my work place. Makes many folks angry at my odd luck.

SLIGHT overweight? thats NO problem, and is even desired by many, even in the west. dunno about in hollywoodized america, but at least here. half the people i know got a gf w _real_ curves and a belly

i also remember from school, MANY a girl with "more meat" on her, who was gorgeous as she was

it comes down to attitude

overweight people tend to be depressed and DEPRESSION = major turnoff.

this summer i saw a FAT girl walk past me, she was huge, but i surprised myself thinking "mmm nice! WAIT... nice!?" BECAUSE she held her head high, she had a self-confident posture, she strutted her fat belly AND her fat boobs she had a nice hairdo, and all in all, her whole person suddenly became sexy

"SLIGHT" overweight should be no major problem...

I have never liked extremely fat girls, but I crave some fat on their body, not all skinny ones, then I would go for a fat one, I have seen pictures of several body shapes, and almost no women look unattractive with a "Hourglass" shape, I have seen that on several women, and I'm INSTANTLY attracted to them, I recommend seeing them for yourself, having a beautiful face and a Hourglass shaped body is an awesome combo<3

A woman can be thin and still have an "hourglass" shape.

I'll bite. I'm in a surly mood tonight.

Do you also have any toothologist friend giving you dental advice?

I have a fairly strict diet, with patches of going to the gym, and I'm certainly thinner than I used to be. However, there are many other means of self improvement possible for those seeking a relationship. You could spend the time you would be at the gym instead improving social skills, picking up a hobby that might help you meet someone, working on your clothing, making yourself more 'cultured' or even spending time on the internet/the real world going out looking for someone. And many other things. Of that list though, I figure eating well and exercising are the most enjoyable so that's my choice.

Personally I like all sizes on girls as long as they aren't terribly obese or so thin I feel like I'd break a bone giving a hug. Looks are a plus for me but personality is the real driver. I want to find a girl who can understand me, as smart as I am (or smarter), and who can put up with me. Unfortunately I'm an obese guy 6'1 260 pounds although I've been hitting the gym and trying to lose weight.

I'm sure I could get a girlfriend if I really tried but I just don't have the self confidence.

I cant tell you about women but as a man I think it is worse because their are quite alot of men that find big women very attractive but that does not work both ways.There is no such thing has female chubby chasers or those attracted to a full figure man while their are is a signifganct amount of men attracted to full figured women.I guess that lack of female chubby chasers is impart due to culture impressision and that weight affects the size of that a special region. where it doesnt affect the womens area.

I don't get it..?

From Merriam-Webster online:

Main Entry: nu·tri·tion·ist
Pronunciation: \-ˈtri-sh(ə-)nist\
Function: noun
Date: 1926

: a specialist in the study of nutrition

also:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nutritionist

a little extra weight won't kill your chances.

but alot of weight sends subconscious warning signs to men that maybe this chick doesn't take care of herself healthwise and leads one to wonder in what other ways. one way to look at it.
although common sense would tell a man that this could also be genetics, and maybe can't be helped. breaking scales is unattractive in any case however. but realistically i think your situation isn't damaging your chances in any kind of horrendous way. good luck.

idk if i even made sense.
but really, we're not so shallow as a group of people to just write people for that. not all of us anyways. not as many as you'd think. in life you will find some shallow ones though, but don't let that unfairly change your opinion on us as a whole just because of some of the more conceited ones. mmaky ?