How many people here are polyamorous?

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Looking through this thread, seems there are more women than men who are polyamorous.....

Hmmm...and I thought it was mostly a guy thing to want to have many partners...

The only relationships I am interested in participating in are non-monogamous ones, because I do not have the energy to sustain a full-time relationship, nor do I expect others to be satisfied with the little I can offer. There must be a huge amount of people with disabilities who would love a little attention, but get NONE simply because they cannot manage a full-time relationship. Yet people with disabilities have gifts to offer to others like themselves and also to able people, even if they cannot do so on a 24/7 basis. For some people who have no love and no relationships, I believe that spreading the love around, in the form of fully consensual part-time, shared, or mini- relationships could be a blessing.

I have heard that there is an overlap between these two groups of people, in that some who participate in swinging also form close emotional relationships with other swingers or belong to poly families. They have been called "swollies."

I would love to have a maid, so yeah, I'd be non-monogamous for that reason alone...

Although I am transitioning from female to male, I still feel emotionally quite female. My reason for preferring polyamory to monogamy is not related to sex but to honesty. Many people have more than one partner at some time in their life, and this often results in cheating and lying in so-called monogamous relationships. I believe that dishonesty and secrecy are extremely harmful to relationships. If a relationship is polyamorous, partners can be open with each other and form inclusive friendships with all concerned. While there is often the issue of jealousy, it is something that, if faced openly, can be worked through and lead to psychological growth.

It seems appealing, I'd love to try it, but I'll probably never even be able to find one relationship.

poly too...

Already the thought disgusts me.

And i'm sure that some people who do this arent bad people.....However, would not want to be friends with those kind of people.
I dont know why, it just sickens me out, i think it's wrong.
I mean if your partners are ok with it good for you.

But i would stay miles away from such kind of things

An acquaintance of mine put it this way: "Lying has no place in any relationship: married, not married, poly, open, whatever. I don't care how many partners you have. As long as they know about each other, and everyone is communicating. Hormones aren't an excuse for lying."

I for one, though couldn't be in a poly relationship.

With all the communication, emotional, and emotional comprehension issues, I would love to be poly but it's just not feasible for me in this life. I enjoy sex and relationships a great deal, and don't feel that 'possessiveness'/'loyalty' should be an issue. There are poly communities in certain areas, but there are other things I find off-putting about them (I'm a person from a specific class, nationality and milieu, just won't fit in and don't want to shoehorn myself into something like that. Like, I prefer multicultural partners who are familiar with my upbringing and lifestyle, who aren't hipsters.) Also, it would make me feel awkward in the community of people in my financial services career.

You know, I was just talking about open relationships with my boyfriend. We were talking about whether it would ever become a possibility. What really trips me up not just about the autism / alexithymia / multitasking thing, is that it would expose me and him to 'dating' again. 'Dating' is so fraught with all the body image crap, and I know I'm not a 7 or even a 5 appearance-wise. Same with BF. Nor do I have the sensory / exec. function capacity to do the feminine grooming like leg shaving. Likewise, we don't fit in to hipster / geek / urbanite communities. We're cheap beer drinking, inner city blue collar types. No 'artsy' inclination at ALL. Sure, we can hook up and have sex. But what about the relationship when we want to go to McDonalds and they want to go to some vegan ritzy crud?

So it's a tough question of whether I'm 'poly'.

I don't believe in relationships, even though I may want one years down the road. I guess it's because I'll get bored of the woman I'm with after a relatively short period of time or the relationship will fail on my part.

I have no interest in polyamory, but I don't care what other people do.

I met a pretty cool polyamorous chick a while back and it's starting to look like she and I might start something and I'm currently in an open relationship with another girl. Initially I was relunctant, but a string of dating crap this past year has slowly turned me towards the lifestyle.

I was only diagnosed within the last year and have just in the past 6 months learned how to functionally enter the dating scene. I'm still figuring myself out and I'm not even 30 yet so why should I be worrying about settling down? I want romance, passion, intimacy, etc (I thrive on it) but I'm in no shape for codependency at the moment. It might not be a long term thing, but for now it seems like something I need.

I think the biggest aspect of the lifestyle that might appeal to aspies is the emphasis on honesty and straightforwardness. Both girls know about my AS and appreciate my bluntness and are similarly direct with me.