My Aspie girl's a tricky one :p...

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Sean, "I'd hit it," from a guy's point of view isn't a compliment. "I'd hit it" means exactly that...that the guy would have raw sex with her. You just totally shoot yourself in the foot by condoning that and admitting to saying the same thing yourself. Women aren't an "it" or a "that."

I don't know why we're arguing with this teenager anyway. He should be worried about the guy in Indiana or whatever state that's actually having sex with her while he's busy bragging about her.

I'm pretty neutral on this, I them we can give Seanmw the benefit of the doubt on this. I think it is human nature to attention seek to some extent. I think some of the comments are more than a little hypocritical. I am bemused at HopeGrows point after the game set and match remark.

I think there are too many people just trying to make a point. It is perfectly possible for people to mess up once an a while, it doesn't men they should be crucified for it. Seanmw will learn from his mistakes.

Whilst objectification is a valid point, I also think you can potentially masturbate too fetishise pretty much anything. You can control what goes on in someone else's head.

Evidently your opinion of her isn't much better.

No, that's a slam on him, not her. Why would a girl like that want some long distance boyfriend on the other side of the country? You mean to tell me she's spending her free time online with that clown?

I generally agree with you. However that doesn't mean that you can't use it to meet people. I just think that you cannot make an informed judgement until you actually meet up, and even that takes time. Everyone I have met webside and been different from the perceived on-line persona. It is not the medium that is at fault it is people propensity to fill in the gaps. it is the same if someone tried to hookup with a prisoner.

Actually it is known as a backhanded remark. Obviously it has implications for her, considering she is spending time on line for whatever reason.

Don't get me wrong I have had this discussion with him before, but sometimes you just go to let people find out for themselves.

Internet relationships turning out ok is not impossible, it is just very rare, and there are a lot of potential issues.
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The OP's intention, consciously or subconsciously, is to brag. When some of us suggest that there's nothing to brag about, he gets his panties in a bind. There's a simple solution, how about not making these validation threads to begin with? You might be thinking "Why not just ignore them"...but once an opinion (his opinion) is out there, it's going to open up the floodgates.

This isn't the first time the OP has made a thread like this and it ended up with such results.

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No s**t Sherlock. Bragging is entirely subjective, so saying there is nothing to brag about it moot. If he feels proud then he is.

There so many people doing the old pop psychology "just doing it for attention". When in really they are no better.

You think there is no attention seeking aspect to forming relationships? Yes of course some people are more introverted, but none of this stuff is selfless Mother Teresa.

If you think my comments are hypocritical, it's because you didn't understand my "game, set, and match" comment to DavidM. That comment was absolutely intended to convey my opinion that Seanmw objectified his gf by posting that pic, and DavidM responded by treating her like an object with his, "I'd so do her," comment.

To your point that Seanmw can learn from his mistakes, I agree. However, his response didn't convey enlightenment, did it? IMO, it conveyed just the opposite: entrenchment. If you'd like to give Seanmw the benefit of the doubt (whatever that means), have at it. But he's made it clear that he embraces and engages in a pattern of behavior that I find truly objectionable - so that doesn't leave a whole lot of doubt in my mind. Explaining that to him isn't tantamount to a crucifixion.

Is she even aware that you call her your girlfriend?

you say that yet Ive read you post about wanting to sleep with hookers so you could get a 'hotter' girl. Thats just as crap.

Well that is hardly clear is it? Especially the bit about being surprised to hear yourself saying it. Sounds more like U-Turn to me, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

But is it likely to change his behaviour taking that tact, that is the question. Also I think it is important to make a distinction between the things you found objectionable and what is harmful. You could have entirely go the wrong end of the still and read into things in your own way. If you are talking about the pics, how do you know he doesn't have permission to post them, and how do you know they haven't already consensually been in public domain? These kind of picture like or or not are common place on social networks. Goofy or selacious, that is subjective. What DavidM said was sleazy but not out of character in these circles, from my understanding.

Playing devil's advocate is uncomfortable have to admit as Seanmw messed up in my view, however he doesn't desive a which hunt form people who are no better than him.

I'm not perfect. And when guys are sexually frustrated, I mean really sexually frustrated, they'll consider anything. In fact, I remember making a post a few months ago complaining about not getting easy sex. But the next day I apologized, and meant it sincerely and haven't complained since.

It makes me depressed that such a happy thread, started out of someone's love for another human being, causes massive arguments.

It was started to brag and get validation.

Unless you can actually prove that, you have no grounds for stating it as fact.