Have you ever had a gf/bf?

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immune18
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19 May 2006, 10:25 pm

I've never had a problem with girls, most girls I have fancied I have ended up going out with within the next day, but that was when i was 14,15. Now, I don't know any girls as I was expelled from school, and no girls live in my area, so yeh that sucks.

Lonermutant
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20 May 2006, 3:55 am

ion wrote:

Perhaps you have dyscalculia?
I'm sure the high school can work something out for you.
They do it all the time for dyslexic people. At least here.

When you have graduated high school, just chose something you like that doesn't involve numbers.

Just give it a try at least, ok?

I have severe concentration problems (possible ADD) and I have too low self esteem. On the other side I would never be able to be part of a team.

ion
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21 May 2006, 3:15 am

Lonermutant wrote:

I have severe concentration problems (possible ADD) and I have too low self esteem. On the other side I would never be able to be part of a team.

Me too. I have somewhat fixed the low self esteem by basically ignoring it, but the other two are a big problem of mine as well.
But I have managed so far. I'm sure you will too.

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21 May 2006, 4:28 am

ion wrote:

Lonermutant wrote:

I have severe concentration problems (possible ADD) and I have too low self esteem. On the other side I would never be able to be part of a team.

Me too. I have somewhat fixed the low self esteem by basically ignoring it, but the other two are a big problem of mine as well.
But I have managed so far. I'm sure you will too.

I doubt that. In Norway you need a pretty pathetically easy math exam to get anywhere, or you can just forget going to College. In addition to that I'm basically only interested in history and languages, wich are basically only things you study to become a teacher.

ion
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21 May 2006, 6:59 am

Lonermutant wrote:

I had to take D level math to get into the university, not that I had any use for it, but if you want to reach the goal, you make the effort.
I later decided to study chinese with no particular goal other than for my own interest. Now I've got the possibility to go to china working for some company, or as a teacher, or help out chinese immigrants here. The two latter seems more appealing to me, so I'm aiming for them.
I live in sweden by the way.

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21 May 2006, 10:31 am

ion wrote:

Lonermutant wrote:

I can barely do simple math.
I can never be part of a team.
I have almost smashed phones because they rang at the wrong time.
I go ballistic if people disturb me.
I can't move away from my tiny nazi hometown because I can't go to college, get an ordinary job or be part of a team.

emc
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23 May 2006, 6:16 am

bt1978 wrote:

sweetpraline wrote:

I disagree, it is not easier for female Aspies to date. I am a female and I have approached guys and they literally laughed in my face. I have went to dances and and asked guys to dance. They tell me "No". Yet, five minutes later I see them dancing and having a good time with some other girl.

That's why I wrote in caps "IN GENERAL". I can only judge these things by the Aspies I've actually known online and/or met. It seems to me that every female Aspie over 20 has been or is in a long-term heterosexual relationship, whereas many male Aspies I know struggle with even the elementaries of relationships (e.g., dating, reading non-verbal signals from the opposite sex, etc.)

Remember, SweetP, I did say IN GENERAL.

I agree with SweetP

Because it may appear to be easier for some of us, it is/has not necessarily been easier at all. Dating and reading guys intentions is not easy, but appears easy because guys are hoping we are "easy" (ie want to have sex).

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23 May 2006, 1:25 pm

Had one four-year relationship, which ended exactly half a year ago; the bad thing is, while it was friendship before that, we've only met a couple of times since (she's seeing someone else); besides idly wondering whether I might be part of the spectrum myself, there remains the question whether she is: half of our communication was conducted via email, about the other half in smoky pubs though (I do miss that) - certainly her need for solitude appeared greater than mine, and her social network was only slightly more tightly-knit than mine ... still, those were the best four years of my life, so hell yes, that was worth it

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