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20 Jul 2010, 4:10 pm

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almost 8 mo with an aspie i met online. it can work,


how are so many people finding aspies online?


I just used okcupid. I imagine it's about as good as pay sites. I also found a local group of weird people to hang out with in the area. Plus there's fun quizzes to get addicted to :)


hahaha. many people reccomended okcupid to me.

I think i just may....

There are tons of people here in San Francisco, but not many who are intresting enough...


I like it cause people tend to use it for socializing as well, which is how I met my group of friends. We routinely recruit ppl from the site and have cool meet ups at local places once a week.


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20 Jul 2010, 5:02 pm

bewarethebob wrote:
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almost 8 mo with an aspie i met online. it can work,


how are so many people finding aspies online?


I just used okcupid. I imagine it's about as good as pay sites. I also found a local group of weird people to hang out with in the area. Plus there's fun quizzes to get addicted to :)


hahaha. many people reccomended okcupid to me.

I think i just may....

There are tons of people here in San Francisco, but not many who are intresting enough...


You have over 800,000 people in 46.7 square miles. Try living in NH for a while - there's 1,747 square miles in my county, and about 86,000 people.

Stop whining and start looking. :wink:



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20 Jul 2010, 6:05 pm

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I'm an Aspie girl. Hi! >.>

But considering my dad met his 2nd and 3rd wife online, I'm not confident in online dating. They were psychopaths, manipulative, narcissistic, just terrible people. So my introduction to online dating hasn't been kind. I'm afraid that if I were to use it, that I'll only attract the clinically insane. D:


There's plenty just like that IRL too...


Very true. :O

I would just feel better if I knew the person as a friend before dating them. That way I can get a better idea of who they are before jumping in.



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21 Jul 2010, 1:40 am

Sedaka wrote:
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almost 8 mo with an aspie i met online. it can work,


how are so many people finding aspies online?


I just used okcupid. I imagine it's about as good as pay sites. I also found a local group of weird people to hang out with in the area. Plus there's fun quizzes to get addicted to :)


hahaha. many people reccomended okcupid to me.

I think i just may....

There are tons of people here in San Francisco, but not many who are intresting enough...


I like it cause people tend to use it for socializing as well, which is how I met my group of friends. We routinely recruit ppl from the site and have cool meet ups at local places once a week.


well...i just may sign up this weekend!

@JLEE50, Will do, there is bound to be someone here. looking is hard, but i guess easier here than for u there



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13 Dec 2010, 11:24 am

Sedaka wrote:
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almost 8 mo with an aspie i met online. it can work,


how are so many people finding aspies online?


I just used okcupid. I imagine it's about as good as pay sites. I also found a local group of weird people to hang out with in the area. Plus there's fun quizzes to get addicted to :)


Here's something I want to know: How easy is it for you to just go out and meet a complete stranger that you've only talked to online? Isn't that dangerous?



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13 Dec 2010, 2:31 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
Sedaka wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
Sedaka wrote:
almost 8 mo with an aspie i met online. it can work,


how are so many people finding aspies online?


I just used okcupid. I imagine it's about as good as pay sites. I also found a local group of weird people to hang out with in the area. Plus there's fun quizzes to get addicted to :)


Here's something I want to know: How easy is it for you to just go out and meet a complete stranger that you've only talked to online? Isn't that dangerous?


It can be, but usually not.


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13 Dec 2010, 2:34 pm

bewarethebob wrote:
Sedaka wrote:
bewarethebob wrote:
Sedaka wrote:
almost 8 mo with an aspie i met online. it can work,


how are so many people finding aspies online?


I just used okcupid. I imagine it's about as good as pay sites. I also found a local group of weird people to hang out with in the area. Plus there's fun quizzes to get addicted to :)


hahaha. many people reccomended okcupid to me.

I think i just may....

There are tons of people here in San Francisco, but not many who are intresting enough...

You're in the city too?



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13 Dec 2010, 3:41 pm

Here? :D It's kinda hard to say 'cause aspie girl are all different and have different interests. But the sci-fi bookstore seems like a good idea, lots of aspies there for some reason. I should know, i go there all the time.



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13 Dec 2010, 3:56 pm

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Here? :D It's kinda hard to say 'cause aspie girl are all different and have different interests. But the sci-fi bookstore seems like a good idea, lots of aspies there for some reason. I should know, i go there all the time.

I'm not into typical aspie interests such as sci-fi, anime, WoW, Magic, etc.



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14 Dec 2010, 3:54 am

While it takes less effort to find other aspies online it's generally not that hard to find them in real life either. I find aspies everywhere (btw Mr. SW Ohio is devoid of aspies/girls in general, even there. I lived in SW Ohio for a time, I know). Nearly all my friends are other aspie girls or ADD girls (with a few guys mixed in) that I just happened across. Anyway, finding other aspies is as easy as knowing what to look for and then looking for it.

Where to find us? Er...libraries? Most of my aspie girlfriends have a thing for libraries. A lot of them also have a thing for hiking. Of course...those are things I enjoy so it makes sense that the other aspies I hang out with would like those too. I'm sure whatever your interest, you can find other aspies to share it with you somewhere and logistically speaking at least a quarter of those will be girls...right? Or is my math off again?

But, anyhow, good luck with your endeavors online dating or not.

On an off-topic note: I was reading your blog Bob (can I call you that?) and I find it rather intriguing. I really like the way you write. Oh, and nice hat.



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15 Dec 2010, 12:39 am

Kiran wrote:
Here? :D It's kinda hard to say 'cause aspie girl are all different and have different interests. But the sci-fi bookstore seems like a good idea, lots of aspies there for some reason. I should know, i go there all the time.


i hit one up in the mission district every so often



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15 Dec 2010, 12:39 am

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While it takes less effort to find other aspies online it's generally not that hard to find them in real life either. I find aspies everywhere (btw Mr. SW Ohio is devoid of aspies/girls in general, even there. I lived in SW Ohio for a time, I know). Nearly all my friends are other aspie girls or ADD girls (with a few guys mixed in) that I just happened across. Anyway, finding other aspies is as easy as knowing what to look for and then looking for it.

Where to find us? Er...libraries? Most of my aspie girlfriends have a thing for libraries. A lot of them also have a thing for hiking. Of course...those are things I enjoy so it makes sense that the other aspies I hang out with would like those too. I'm sure whatever your interest, you can find other aspies to share it with you somewhere and logistically speaking at least a quarter of those will be girls...right? Or is my math off again?

But, anyhow, good luck with your endeavors online dating or not.

On an off-topic note: I was reading your blog Bob (can I call you that?) and I find it rather intriguing. I really like the way you write. Oh, and nice hat.


Thanks rhapsody. Sure, you can call me bob online, My name is actually nic. Thank you. thats very kind of you to say. sorry its been so down lately, its been rough these last few months



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18 Dec 2010, 8:59 pm

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I am referring to the fact that the percentage of people on the spectrum who are asexual is higher than that of NTs.

And you can't tell an asexual person to stop being asexual.



I don't know that anyone is really a true asexual. I have no interest in about 99.999% of men myself but there are some I'd go for.

Personally I am willing to bet that it just takes a certain person with a certain type of phermone scent + physical attributes + personality to switch on those attraction circuits.



Well, with an asexual, that number is 100%. No sexual attraction. To anyone. Ever.

"You just haven't found the right person" is something that used to be said to gays. :roll:


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18 Dec 2010, 9:06 pm

One thought I have is finding aspie girls at knitting groups. A lot of female aspies are crafty (<--hehe) and knitting is going through a huge revival at the moment. Almost every city has multiple groups that meet weekly or fortnightly in cafes and pubs to knit and chat. There is a website, www.ravelry.com, where members can find info on and organise these things. There are several groups in my local area, and there are many lovely women who attend them regularly. So if the idea of picking up a hobby (and a useful one when it comes to gifts for friends and family) like knitting appeals, I'd give that a shot. I myself would be going to my local group whenever possible, but unfortunately a couple of the women who attend religiously irritate me to no end. :) And trust me - yes, there aren't many men (but there are some!), but if you want to be beset by a group of nice women who would love to help out a beginner, then, give it a whirl.



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21 Dec 2010, 8:59 pm

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One thought I have is finding aspie girls at knitting groups. A lot of female aspies are crafty (<--hehe) and knitting is going through a huge revival at the moment. Almost every city has multiple groups that meet weekly or fortnightly in cafes and pubs to knit and chat. There is a website, www.ravelry.com, where members can find info on and organise these things. There are several groups in my local area, and there are many lovely women who attend them regularly. So if the idea of picking up a hobby (and a useful one when it comes to gifts for friends and family) like knitting appeals, I'd give that a shot. I myself would be going to my local group whenever possible, but unfortunately a couple of the women who attend religiously irritate me to no end. :) And trust me - yes, there aren't many men (but there are some!), but if you want to be beset by a group of nice women who would love to help out a beginner, then, give it a whirl.


intresting notion. ill look into it.