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Were you rejected by eHarmony?
I never applied to eHarmony 56%  56%  [ 50 ]
Yes, they rejected me 21%  21%  [ 19 ]
No, they accepted me 22%  22%  [ 20 ]
Total votes : 89

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18 Dec 2010, 7:02 pm

Laz wrote:
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Me n moog

76% match

You are more Compassionate, kinkier, desiring of sex and trusting

I am more scientific

How do you plead?


Just checked, we're 77% - isn't that romantic? :wink:


Well it beats the cross dressing aspie who came onto me at a conferance last year :lol:

my highest match so far on OKCupid is a m-to-f crossdresser. s/he's HOT though! :oops:


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18 Dec 2010, 7:11 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
Laz wrote:
Grisha wrote:
Laz wrote:
Me n moog

76% match

You are more Compassionate, kinkier, desiring of sex and trusting

I am more scientific

How do you plead?


Just checked, we're 77% - isn't that romantic? :wink:


Well it beats the cross dressing aspie who came onto me at a conferance last year :lol:

my highest match so far on OKCupid is a m-to-f crossdresser. s/he's HOT though! :oops:


Ah well mine's a wacky gamer chick who seems a bit too unstable for my liking and a bloody vegetarian to add insult to injury I think within 5 minutes we'd probably be pissed off with each other :twisted:



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18 Dec 2010, 7:14 pm

how much does okcupid spam you?



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18 Dec 2010, 7:27 pm

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how much does okcupid spam you?


Never with ads, e-mail notifications are highy configurable: Not obnoxious at all...



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18 Dec 2010, 7:40 pm

I am on there under my same username but I'm deactivated right now. I had a 42-year old man "stalking" me - he visited my profile every few days, but never tried to contact me. (I am a bi male.) I'm not remotely interested. I was just ignoring it, but it just irritated me that someone would visit that often when I wasn't making any updates. I'm somewhat convinced he's using me to "pleasure himself." My photos are not at all suggestive.

I will probably reactivate when I'm done taking a break, just wonder how others would deal with this? Ignore? Report it? Confront them?



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18 Dec 2010, 7:53 pm

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I am on there under my same username but I'm deactivated right now. I had a 42-year old man "stalking" me - he visited my profile every few days, but never tried to contact me. (I am a bi male.) I'm not remotely interested. I was just ignoring it, but it just irritated me that someone would visit that often when I wasn't making any updates. I'm somewhat convinced he's using me to "pleasure himself." My photos are not at all suggestive.

I will probably reactivate when I'm done taking a break, just wonder how others would deal with this? Ignore? Report it? Confront them?


Just block him. If you go to his profile, there's a button saying "hide this user". Once hidden, he will not be able to see you in his searches any more.

Off-topic: By the way, I like your aspie cartoons. I left a comment on your sticky thread in the General Autism Discussion section.



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18 Dec 2010, 7:59 pm

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Just block him. If you go to his profile, there's a button saying "hide this user". Once hidden, he will not be able to see you in his searches any more.


Are you sure? I thought you could block people from messaging you (which I did) but can you block them from viewing?

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Off-topic: By the way, I like your aspie cartoons. I left a comment on your sticky thread in the General Autism Discussion section.


Thank you, read it!



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19 Dec 2010, 4:55 am

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(hyperlexian is secretly wishing that more people would post their OKCupid usernames because this is fun to compare match percentages. but she also knows that people may not want to expose their identity in a public forum. so feel free to send a PM if you want to indulge her silliness!)

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You all seemed to be having some fun answering the questions and finding out your compatibility so I decided to join in.
hyperlexian 61% Match
67% Friend
30% Enemy
Moog:78% Match
84% Friend
13% Enemy

On a sidenote I only started answering questions yesterday so I havent answered that many yet(121).
Userrname is spongy_wp (spongy was already taken) in case anyone else is also interested.


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19 Dec 2010, 9:25 am

greenturtle74 wrote:
Jono wrote:
Just block him. If you go to his profile, there's a button saying "hide this user". Once hidden, he will not be able to see you in his searches any more.


Are you sure? I thought you could block people from messaging you (which I did) but can you block them from viewing?


Yes, if you use the hide feature. If you want to stop them from messaging, you can blacklist them. On the other hand, if you hide them, they will not be able to search for you and they won't be shown to you but they will appear in your hidden tab.



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19 Dec 2010, 11:31 am

Interesting but I guess not specifically all that telling either:

laz: 43% match, 68% friend, 38% enemy
hyperlexian: 74% match, 64% friend, 13% enemy
moog: 76% match, 84% friend, 18% enemy
spongy: 74% match, 82% friend, 17% enemy



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19 Dec 2010, 11:55 am

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Interesting but I guess not specifically all that telling either:

laz: 43% match, 68% friend, 38% enemy
hyperlexian: 74% match, 64% friend, 13% enemy
moog: 76% match, 84% friend, 18% enemy
spongy: 74% match, 82% friend, 17% enemy


What about me? Lost-in-OC?

My guess is about 50%, maybe lower - I guess we'll have to be "just friends" :wink:



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19 Dec 2010, 12:28 pm

I had a hard time finding even the names that I did, didn't mean to leave anyone out though.

.....kinda surprised I'm doing this but...

abductedbyaudio (after the Kodwo Eshun essay by that name)

...also yes, my front profile pic is BAD. Hopefully I'll come up with some better ones to replace it.


On another note the more I look at this I'm wondering if Alex should contact OKCupid and see if they are willing to do a WrongplanetSubCupid or something like that, they might love the idea for access to organizing niche communities. I might be jumping in a little quick on that, but, I'm sorry - Aspie Affections has none of this and the best part Alex wouldn't have to change a thing I don't think.



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19 Dec 2010, 12:41 pm

techstepgenr8tion wrote:
I had a hard time finding even the names that I did, didn't mean to leave anyone out though.

.....kinda surprised I'm doing this but...

abductedbyaudio (after the Kodwo Eshun essay by that name)

...also yes, my front profile pic is BAD. Hopefully I'll come up with some better ones to replace it.


On another note the more I look at this I'm wondering if Alex should contact OKCupid and see if they are willing to do a WrongplanetSubCupid or something like that, they might love the idea for access to organizing niche communities. I might be jumping in a little quick on that, but, I'm sorry - Aspie Affections has none of this and the best part Alex wouldn't
have to change a thing I don't think.


Excellent idea on the WP/OKC thing.

Barring that, I wonder if a "guerilla" approach might work: publicizing a unique keyword that Aspies could put into their OKC profile to facilitate searches, kind of lame, but it would certainly improve on AA in its present form.

BTW we are 58%, pretty darn close to my prediction, no?



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19 Dec 2010, 12:51 pm

*gulp* i'm shocked by how cute everyone looks in their pictures! 8O you know who you are. wow.

on a side note, i convinced husband to join, and we are a 89% match (thank goodness it was not too low). interestingly, there are a couple of women who i get a 95% match with, and he gets a 92% or 93% match with those same girls! so both of us match more closely with these hot... bisexual... girls... than with each other! :oops:

he told me he didn't mind if i put up his username too: borealbooks

lastly, can i just say that in my opinion online dating is really sexist, in the way that men are expected to contact women first? i find this absurd and old-fashioned and completely unfair. it must suck if you are a shy male. /rant


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19 Dec 2010, 1:08 pm

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lastly, can i just say that in my opinion online dating is really sexist, in the way that men are expected to contact women first? i find this absurd and old-fashioned and completely unfair. it must suck if you are a shy male. /rant

Hasn't been my experience. Usually they contact me first but, admittedly, its not the ones I had in mind all the time. I think women are more likely to reach out and touch a guy *if* they know that no one's looking to judge them, well, save a face on a computer that they'll just as likely never see if he rejects them or turns out to be kinda crazy anyway.



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lastly, can i just say that in my opinion online dating is really sexist, in the way that men are expected to contact women first? i find this absurd and old-fashioned and completely unfair. it must suck if you are a shy male. /rant


Yes, it truly does suck, but it's not like you will go to prison if a woman contacts a guy first, I wish that women would have a set of metaphorical balls and contact me first if they're so inclined.

I promise I won't tell anyone! :wink: