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14 Feb 2011, 7:51 pm

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It sounds like you have a lot of healing to do. Have you thought about getting some counseling to reconcile your past? Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, but if your past in causing you to lash out on others, it's going to put a lot of strain on that relationship.


The Psychologists I have seen only wasted my time, they do nothing but ask you questions.
That's what they do to determine how to help.


I spent two years talking to that nutter and she ended up giving me a prescription, like my problems could go away by swallowing a pill. :?



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14 Feb 2011, 7:56 pm

No, but they do make them managable in a lot of cases.



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14 Feb 2011, 7:59 pm

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No, but they do make them managable in a lot of cases.


I looked up the med she gave me, turned out it was a placebo. I never went to see her again after this. A pill that does nothing does just that, nothing. According to her the pill was supposed to make me feel better and less depressed, she said it makes people happy... 8O



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14 Feb 2011, 8:03 pm

Its point is to have a psychological effect on you. Google the placebo effect.

I wouldn't quit after just that though...



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14 Feb 2011, 8:19 pm

But if I know what it is it doesn't work. And now I will probably check everytime because I will always suspect the psy to try and give me placebo meds... :?



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14 Feb 2011, 8:27 pm

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But if I know what it is it doesn't work. And now I will probably check everytime because I will always suspect the psy to try and give me placebo meds... :?


Patients should know what they are taking before taking it. You have to be your own advocate. With that said, if you don't feel that psychotherapy is working, get a different therapist. There are many different therapists and forms of psychotherapy. Some forms are more effective than others, depending on the issues of the individual.



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14 Feb 2011, 11:05 pm

Aspocrat, when you say that your parents don't give you enough money, I don't know what that amount would be relative to your wealth.

But let's say in this instance that your lack of money points you in the direction of finding a minimum-wage job. Maybe that will teach you how it is to be humble if you know the value of having to work and provide for yourself? Or how about placing yourself in the other person's shoes before reacting angrily?

Sorry, I'm not a psychologist. I don't know what else to suggest. Good luck.



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15 Feb 2011, 12:37 am

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But if I know what it is it doesn't work. And now I will probably check everytime because I will always suspect the psy to try and give me placebo meds... :?

I agree, she lied to you which is really stupid.



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15 Feb 2011, 12:44 am

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so I promised to myself that from now on I would be the one who would humiliate and crush people


That's horrible.


I know but that's the way I am. I will always seek vengeance for everything. I had a very difficult childhood, my parents would treat the dog better than they treated me. I would be yelled at most of the day.

Makes sense.
But if a guy bumps into you in the street, well really he didn't mean you harm. Sure if he intended to..well then I'm all for getting even, but don't base your life on that you'll just be bitter.



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15 Feb 2011, 6:39 am

Aspocrat wrote:
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It sounds like you have a lot of healing to do. Have you thought about getting some counseling to reconcile your past? Being in a relationship is a wonderful thing, but if your past in causing you to lash out on others, it's going to put a lot of strain on that relationship.


The Psychologists I have seen only wasted my time, they do nothing but ask you questions.
That's what they do to determine how to help.


I spent two years talking to that nutter and she ended up giving me a prescription, like my problems could go away by swallowing a pill. :?


Psychologists can't help you if you refuse to seek help for your main problem (your depression is just a symptom).

Neither can anyone here help you.



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15 Feb 2011, 10:03 am

Too funny! :)

I don't like feeding trolls but (and this is for the OP)...
The reason everyone hates you is that you are a troll.
The reason you can't find someone...well trolls shouldn't breed.
Keep taking your placebos, it might cure your troll traits.



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15 Feb 2011, 10:21 am

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Most of the people who are turned off by you most likely are NT, so why are you not asking NT's this question? You may find you will get a better answer. :


Problem is NTs do not understand their own motives. And it can also be like getting advice from politicians on how to lie.
Ask what an NT would find in a ideal man, it would point to the majority of aspies, not quite the same in real life.


I see your point..however I think NT's have more of an understanding of their motivations than you think, it's whether or not they are honest about them. A politician knows he's feeding you a line of crap but good luck getting them to admit that. As far as the "ideal" man...women like emotional connection, both of these being operative words. Aspies tend to be logical and straightforward and many have trouble with the kind of connection NT's want. Look at the movie Adam, when they girl decided not to move with him because he "needed her" to help him with daily life. If he wouldn't have said that I would bet she would have went with him. I don't doubt he loved her, in his way, but for her it wasn't enough.

I do want to say however that I'm not speaking about myself here. I love my aspie husband and wouldn't trade him for anyone in the world 8)



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15 Feb 2011, 10:48 am

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Too funny! :)

I don't like feeding trolls but (and this is for the OP)...
The reason everyone hates you is that you are a troll.
The reason you can't find someone...well trolls shouldn't breed.
Keep taking your placebos, it might cure your troll traits.


I am sorry you feel the need to be horrible to me.



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15 Feb 2011, 10:53 am

jackbus01 wrote:
Too funny! :)

I don't like feeding trolls but (and this is for the OP)...
The reason everyone hates you is that you are a troll.
The reason you can't find someone...well trolls shouldn't breed.
Keep taking your placebos, it might cure your troll traits.


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15 Feb 2011, 11:07 am

Sallamandrina wrote:
jackbus01 wrote:
Too funny! :)

I don't like feeding trolls but (and this is for the OP)...
The reason everyone hates you is that you are a troll.
The reason you can't find someone...well trolls shouldn't breed.
Keep taking your placebos, it might cure your troll traits.


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16 Feb 2011, 1:30 pm

Aspie_Chav wrote:
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I abandoned logic long ago. Logic limits you to this tiny little box where only probabilities exist. I have more fun and feel a lot happier outside that box. :)


Jonsi . Logic is vital element of morality. Without it, you have opposing forces believing that justice is on their side. Reminded me of a lady at work who thought it was immoral to buy books from charity shop to sell on. Her response to me was hostile. Fortunately, many NTs in the office had and understanding of the science of money, her arguments were illogical and dangerous.
I function fine morally without it. Maybe it depends on the person?