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27 Feb 2011, 11:52 pm

I've always been happiest when I'm single it seems. Lately I've been wanting a relationship again (I'm dating someone casually but we aren't serious/in love/etc), but I'm perfectly content right now.


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28 Feb 2011, 1:02 am

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I'm dating someone casually but we aren't serious/in love/etc

You sane people confuse me. :roll:



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28 Feb 2011, 1:09 am

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astaut wrote:
I'm dating someone casually but we aren't serious/in love/etc

You sane people confuse me. :roll:


:huh:


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28 Feb 2011, 3:42 am

astaut wrote:
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astaut wrote:
I'm dating someone casually but we aren't serious/in love/etc

You sane people confuse me. :roll:


:huh:

Yep, that's the correct emotion. "Dating casually" seems an oxymoron; isn't the whole point of dating for you people, to attempt to start a relationship? Or are you just 14 years old? :P



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28 Feb 2011, 4:27 am

I just don't get dating. I find it to be a horrendous process of meeting people.

I would much rather know people without the pre-text that I may potentially be in intimate contact with them in the not too distant future. I'd much rather talk to someone under the pre-text of friendship and mutual interest.

How on earth do people ever couple with such a bizzare ritual as dating? I don't get it, its not a human way of speaking to people. I feel sorry for those of you that live in cultures that have it as your only means of meeting members of the opposite sex and/or partners. I find it a constant agonising anxious ridden maze of complex puzzles and second guessing everything you do and say that impairs me from being able to function as a human being.


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28 Feb 2011, 4:29 am

dunbots wrote:
astaut wrote:
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astaut wrote:
I'm dating someone casually but we aren't serious/in love/etc

You sane people confuse me. :roll:


:huh:

Yep, that's the correct emotion. "Dating casually" seems an oxymoron; isn't the whole point of dating for you people, to attempt to start a relationship? Or are you just 14 years old? :P

From what I gather she is 19.

As an aside I dont think it has anything to do with age, as long as its clear to both members that it isnt serious from the start.

I believe most relationships nowadays start this way. For example telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


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28 Feb 2011, 4:30 am

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telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


Or that your possibly mental?


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28 Feb 2011, 4:37 am

Laz wrote:
I just don't get dating. I find it to be a horrendous process of meeting people.

I would much rather know people without the pre-text that I may potentially be in intimate contact with them in the not too distant future. I'd much rather talk to someone under the pre-text of friendship and mutual interest.

How on earth do people ever couple with such a bizzare ritual as dating? I don't get it, its not a human way of speaking to people. I feel sorry for those of you that live in cultures that have it as your only means of meeting members of the opposite sex and/or partners. I find it a constant agonising anxious ridden maze of complex puzzles and second guessing everything you do and say that impairs me from being able to function as a human being.


I don't get it either. There's just so much effort wasted in trying to impress someone, trying to follow all the unwritten rules and not being yourself. None of the dating I ever did lead to a relationship and none of the relationship I had started with dating.



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28 Feb 2011, 11:24 am

There is no point trying to understand - most people are just irrational.



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28 Feb 2011, 11:41 am

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telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


Or that your possibly mental?

Sorry Im unable to understand your post, could you explain it a bit further?.


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28 Feb 2011, 12:05 pm

spongy wrote:
Laz wrote:
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telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


Or that your possibly mental?

Sorry Im unable to understand your post, could you explain it a bit further?.


I could, normally I'd have to charge but i'll let you off this time.

It would imply that you are over needy/bearing a potential bunny-boiler/stalker or that you have severe insecurities that would manifest in the relationship later on. Basically its a great big red light saying something like that too early on in a relationship.


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28 Feb 2011, 12:22 pm

keira wrote:
Laz wrote:
I just don't get dating. I find it to be a horrendous process of meeting people.

I would much rather know people without the pre-text that I may potentially be in intimate contact with them in the not too distant future. I'd much rather talk to someone under the pre-text of friendship and mutual interest.

How on earth do people ever couple with such a bizzare ritual as dating? I don't get it, its not a human way of speaking to people. I feel sorry for those of you that live in cultures that have it as your only means of meeting members of the opposite sex and/or partners. I find it a constant agonising anxious ridden maze of complex puzzles and second guessing everything you do and say that impairs me from being able to function as a human being.


I don't get it either. There's just so much effort wasted in trying to impress someone, trying to follow all the unwritten rules and not being yourself. None of the dating I ever did lead to a relationship and none of the relationship I had started with dating.


Glad to know other people find that to be the case as well. Its a strange ritual to say the least.


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28 Feb 2011, 12:26 pm

Laz wrote:
spongy wrote:
Laz wrote:
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telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


Or that your possibly mental?

Sorry Im unable to understand your post, could you explain it a bit further?.


I could, normally I'd have to charge but i'll let you off this time.

It would imply that you are over needy/bearing a potential bunny-boiler/stalker or that you have severe insecurities that would manifest in the relationship later on. Basically its a great big red light saying something like that too early on in a relationship.

Thanks.

I had heard something similar before but I didnt completely understand this reasoning fully.


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28 Feb 2011, 1:16 pm

Laz wrote:
I just don't get dating. I find it to be a horrendous process of meeting people.

I would much rather know people without the pre-text that I may potentially be in intimate contact with them in the not too distant future. I'd much rather talk to someone under the pre-text of friendship and mutual interest.

How on earth do people ever couple with such a bizzare ritual as dating? I don't get it, its not a human way of speaking to people. I feel sorry for those of you that live in cultures that have it as your only means of meeting members of the opposite sex and/or partners. I find it a constant agonising anxious ridden maze of complex puzzles and second guessing everything you do and say that impairs me from being able to function as a human being.



I feel your pain, Laz. Sometimes I wish it was as simple as two people having mutual attraction and admiration for each other, getting together, then agreeing to make a go for a relationship.

"I like you.You like me. How about it?"

I think there would be less pressure to be "onstage" in this scenario. I mean, I don't want blowdry my hair all the time, you know? Erm, does that make sense? :shrug:



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28 Feb 2011, 2:17 pm

I haven't given up just yet... Joined a couple of dating sites to see if being online would help :) i'm hoping i am better at chatting girls up over the internet... I really do suck in person :cry:



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28 Feb 2011, 2:59 pm

Laz wrote:
spongy wrote:
Laz wrote:
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telling someone you love them should be considered a good thing, however if its done too soon you will scare your partner because it shows that you are way too involved in the relationship.


Or that your possibly mental?

Sorry Im unable to understand your post, could you explain it a bit further?.


I could, normally I'd have to charge but i'll let you off this time.

It would imply that you are over needy/bearing a potential bunny-boiler/stalker or that you have severe insecurities that would manifest in the relationship later on. Basically its a great big red light saying something like that too early on in a relationship.


True, but sometimes you can really have strong feelings for someone at first sight, or in the early stages of knowing them. I guess you have to keep them under your hat until later.


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