Is religious belief that important to you in a relationship?

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Religion wasn't an issue as long as there were no arguments or disrespect about it. I've been around a couple people who I couldn't even say what I thought without them making fun of me and claiming I was stupid. That's not cool. I wouldn't want a partner who does that. But I prefer someone who believes similarly to me, just the same as I want someone who votes similarly to me and has a sociological view similar to mine. There's a level of compatibility there that has to be functional, not just us overlooking or not talking about certain subjects. I think if I had those kinds of differences with someone, it would be a matter of overlooking things I disagree with or just avoiding certain subjects.

I'm pretty tolerant of what other people believe who aren't my partner. My friends are all over the place. The only people I don't keep company with are the bigots. I'm very bigoted of bigots, I admit, and I actually cut someone out (who I had A TON in common with and we got along so well) because she didn't believe gay people had a right to marry in this country based on her Roman Catholic beliefs. That's like taking a dump on my carpet every time you visit and expecting me to overlook that because we love artisan baking and have lots of kids and so on. But her being Roman Catholic and thinking my Eucharist was unconsecrated didn't bother me. For my partner, I like that we're on the same page. It took a while to get there. When we met, I was Roman Catholic and he was Campbellite (Church of Christ). We're now both Episcopalian.

So I guess I'll be one of the few Christians on here who actually says it does matter and I don't think I could date an atheist or agnostic or baptist or muslim or jewish person or buddhist or pagan or whatever. I have dated many people of different religions in the past and it was all cool (except for the Buddhist who spent our entire date trying to sell me on the benefits of being Buddhist and actually said a great thing was that you didn't need to proselytize.) but I just don't think I'd do that again if I was looking for a serious relationship and not just a hook-up or fling.

And, no matter what anyone tells you about biblical Scripture, a couple can be "unequally yoked". St. Paul was referring to a very specific type of people and clergy. If people are going to lend credibility to St. Paul for that notion, they should understand that St. Paul wrote more generally and stated that if one spouse was a believer, they could "cover" the non-believing spouse. In essence, if you're married, your believing spouse gets a pass to heaven that's +1 Guest. I kid you not. It's in there. And it says that the believing spouse needs to be extra cool and caring for their non-believing spouse so maybe they see how awesome it is to be Christian and may convert on their own. I'm paraphrasing, of course, but that's really the message. So Christians do not have to be all stingy like me. They can very easily have spouses who subscribe to different beliefs. If you ever hear anyone say the "unequally yoked" thing, don't believe it... unless you're clergy, then it does kinda apply to you... but you should already know about that then.

I am a Christian (Lutheran to be specific), but I don't require a partner to be of a specific faith, nor do I try to convert people. All I do is assure those of starkly different religious views that I am not an ultra-fundamentalist nutjob.

I fully support the rights of women and the LGBT community, and understand that there are circumstances in which a woman may need an abortion.

However, I may not be compatible with some faiths, or even other Christian denominations (if you read my posts in the Adult forum, you'll know why). Also, many of the people who have similar interests as me tend to be classified as hipster or bohemian, although I don't consider myself to be one.

I'm a Secular Humanist but I have some conservative traditional morel values that are more common with religious. One of the rezones I'm a Secular Humanist is because I believe in being respectful of others beliefs & not pushing your beliefs on anyone. If my potential partern can accept that; I can accept her beliefs. If I have to go to church 1ce as week with her; that's fine but I won'[t confess my sins to a priest, get in line for Eucharist, make the sing of the cross, or pray

No, but attitude towards other religion is.

I've said yes before but I changed it to something more realistic.

Religion isn't that much of an issue, compared to other stuff.

I just don't want to have to use phrases like "Get a job" or "stop being asexual".

Not at all, I've dated both a Mormon and an Atheist.