Where do i find female aspies online who want a relationship

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No aspie women on the internet??

Hmm... I see plenty here... I'm one and I've seen MANY others.

Like you (heck -- like most all of us) I'm really shy...ESPECIALLY around someone I'm attracted to.. fear of rejection?? Probably because in the past, relationships were with NT's that ran for the hills for one reason or another. One was kind enough to tell me he found me really intimidating b/c i had such a high moral code, liked to talk about deep things all the time, and was much smarter than he was. He didn't feel like he brought anything to the table, despite the qualities I pointed out to him that he had.

I hope to meet a compatible aspie male one day that I click with. I want someone that isn't intimidated because I want to learn about quantum physics, dark matter, or endocrinology. I don't want him to feel like less of a man because I know more about his car than he does. I don't want to be judged because (despite being well-groomed, well-dressed and practicing good hygiene) I don't spend hundreds of dollars a month on fake nails, hair extensions or tanning. Those things creep me out. I'm also not into self-worship that involves daily workouts and incessant conversations about them.

I've been on Aspie Affection and met ONE guy even in my state... and I had to carry ALL the conversation online... if you could CALL it a conversation... It's just as hard for THIS female, as most diagnosed Aspies are younger than me.

Sorry... but even aspie females (who tend to be more outspoken than the males) need to be pursued... to feel like you think we're worth pursuing. If we do the pursuing, it feels too much like being desperate or aggressive.. and we can wonder whether YOU'RE truly attracted or just settling for the low-hanging fruit until something better comes along.. We've been rejected, teased, etc.. just as much as you. I was raised by the "man pursues" rules, and try as I might, they're ingrained. If that means I'm going to be single for a lot longer, so be it. I'm strong enough to wait for what I deserve-- someone who truly appreciates what I have to offer and is willing to stick his neck out to win my affection.

Best of luck to you... but at least from this aspie's perspective, you're going to have to fish if you're going to GET a fish.

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How am I supposed to tell that the woman isn't just settling for me because she just wants a relationship?