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05 Oct 2011, 7:07 pm

Fnord wrote:
Like I said before, if you find yourself ticking off each of these items with regard to your wife or girlfriend, then maybe it's time to break it off or seek counseling (or maybe it's all in your head).

It's like the lists in the DSM - the more symptoms a trained mental-health professional finds matching a particular description, the more likely his or her diagnosis will be of a particular illness or syndrome - the more signs that you check off on these lists, the more likely it is that the woman may not quite be the perfect woman for you.

Then again, if you're into being treated badly, then find someone who displays as many of the signs as possible.

"it's all in your head" is another to add on your list.

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.....perfect woman for you.

But, is there such a thing as a "perfect woman" and "perfect man"?



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05 Oct 2011, 7:11 pm

Surfman wrote:
OneStepBeyond wrote:

i could already have accidentally married an unsuitable suitor in the time it'd take me to go through that list


hey, our avatars are strangely similar...

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this is destiny if ever i saw it



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05 Oct 2011, 7:31 pm

:heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:

I have always loved you



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05 Oct 2011, 7:51 pm

Surfman wrote:
:heart: :heart: :heart: :heart: :heart:

I have always loved you


please hold the line whilst i complete a laborious 100-question survey concerning your suitability as a mate to anyone ever



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06 Oct 2011, 1:43 am

Too perfect, and by that I mean seems to be shaping herself into what she thinks you want. That one never ends well.


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11 Oct 2011, 10:01 am

This is the problem that I've been having with women lately. I swap cellphone numbers with women and friend each other on facebook, but I'm the one who's always trying to contact them, and they rarely or never respond back. This is definitely a serious red flag on a woman.



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11 Oct 2011, 10:38 am

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Uses you as a babysitter.


This is the one red-flag I had to contribute, but you've mentioned it.

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11 Oct 2011, 11:04 am

Fnord wrote:
More Red-Flag Woman Signs*:

You may be in the presence of a Red-Flag woman if she:

81. Wants a man that will resolve all of her issues for her.
82. Wants a man that will take all of her abuse without a whimper.
83. Tries to psychoanalyze everyone, including herself, even though she has no formal training in mental health issues.
84. Will never admit she is mistaken, or that she even could be mistaken on any given subject.
85. Can not understand why anyone would believe anything other than what she believes.
86. Would rather be believed that actually tell the truth.
87. Declares or implies that all men have the same foul and undesirable qualities.
88. Has a meltdown whenever someone suggests ways that she could improve herself.
89. Refuses to accept an apology without a lot of bargaining, begging, or self-humiliation from the person making the apology.
90. Becomes angry with you for something that you could do to injure or offend her sometime in the future, but that you have never actually considered doing.
91. Will not answer "Yes", "No", or "I don't know" to a direct question.
92. Answers a direct question with a lengthy, convoluted speech that does not address the question itself.
93. Raises her standards whenever someone manages to meet or exceed her current standards.
94. Assumes that any accident that results in injury or embarrassment to her was actually intentional.
95. Insists that you stop seeing your friends or your family (or both).
96. Implies that your family members or your best friends (or both) are immoral, unethical, or that they are all conspiring against her.
97. Dismisses the favors you do for her by calling into question your motives for doing them.
98. Repeatedly claims that you said something when you did not say it, or that you did not say something when you did.
99. Treats everything you say as assumptions and lies, yet will accept the word of a perfect stranger as truth.
100. Blames you for all of the injury and pain that she causes you.

(*These would actually be numbered 101 through 120 on my original list, where it not for the fact that the original 81 through 100 would likely be considered "sexist" by some.)


Frankly, I found much of 1-80 a bit superficial and over-generalizing. This portion of the list is excellent, imo.


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11 Oct 2011, 11:07 am

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I didn't realize how much I've missed your posts (I've been away), Moog! Love it! :D


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11 Oct 2011, 8:10 pm

I only have one red flag for women.

1. I hate it when they are way to nice 8)



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11 Oct 2011, 8:42 pm

This point came up in Fnord's list, but it's worth repeating.

A woman who says this or any variation on this theme:

"I'm tired of men who play games! No more lies or douchebags!"

It is almost certain that she herself is the one who is into playing games, lying, and being a [female equivalent of a douche bag]. But then the defense mechanisms, denial and projection kick in...



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11 Oct 2011, 8:51 pm

The biggest one for me is hypocrisy. I cannot stand hypocrites.


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11 Oct 2011, 9:21 pm

The ones that are mean and whore-y b*****s.



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11 Oct 2011, 9:27 pm

what would you know? :P


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11 Oct 2011, 9:52 pm

There are no red flags. Men will put up with a lot more from a woman than a woman will from a man.



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11 Oct 2011, 9:57 pm

A hostile woman like this:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igWbih3CiVo[/youtube]


Watch out for:
-Over the top niceness with no actions to back it up
-Nagging you for marriage within weeks of meeting or months.
-Excessive need for attention
-Catty attitude towards women and feels entitled to the most attention
-Insults you, degrades you, picks fights with you.
-Brings up things you did wrong years ago if you mention something she just did
-Refuses to accept responsibility for actions.
-If saying sorry you realize she isn't really as she keeps doing the same mistake over and over.
-Punches you.
-Controlling.
-Blames all abuse she does to you on you as if you started it but you did not.