Fnord wrote:
More Red-Flag Woman Signs*:
You may be in the presence of a Red-Flag woman if she:
81. Wants a man that will resolve all of her issues for her.
82. Wants a man that will take all of her abuse without a whimper.
83. Tries to psychoanalyze everyone, including herself, even though she has no formal training in mental health issues.
84. Will never admit she is mistaken, or that she even could be mistaken on any given subject.
85. Can not understand why anyone would believe anything other than what she believes.
86. Would rather be believed that actually tell the truth.
87. Declares or implies that all men have the same foul and undesirable qualities.
88. Has a meltdown whenever someone suggests ways that she could improve herself.
89. Refuses to accept an apology without a lot of bargaining, begging, or self-humiliation from the person making the apology.
90. Becomes angry with you for something that you could do to injure or offend her sometime in the future, but that you have never actually considered doing.
91. Will not answer "Yes", "No", or "I don't know" to a direct question.
92. Answers a direct question with a lengthy, convoluted speech that does not address the question itself.
93. Raises her standards whenever someone manages to meet or exceed her current standards.
94. Assumes that any accident that results in injury or embarrassment to her was actually intentional.
95. Insists that you stop seeing your friends or your family (or both).
96. Implies that your family members or your best friends (or both) are immoral, unethical, or that they are all conspiring against her.
97. Dismisses the favors you do for her by calling into question your motives for doing them.
98. Repeatedly claims that you said something when you did not say it, or that you did not say something when you did.
99. Treats everything you say as assumptions and lies, yet will accept the word of a perfect stranger as truth.
100. Blames you for all of the injury and pain that she causes you.
(*These would actually be numbered 101 through 120 on my original list, where it not for the fact that the original 81 through 100 would likely be considered "sexist" by some.)
Frankly, I found much of 1-80 a bit superficial and over-generalizing. This portion of the list is excellent, imo.
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Previously Certified Curmudgeon. License expired May 04, 2011
Now downgraded to merely difficult.