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12 Jan 2012, 6:19 am

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Do men prefer a very dim woman who just puts out?

Should I hid the fact that I am academically bright in order to find a partner for sex and going out on dates?

It just seems to me that the thicker you are more successful you are romantically so should I play dumb?

Also how do I dumb it down convincingly?


NOooooooo. Don't do that. You'd have to show your smarts eventually and he won't love you anymore because he'll feel intimidated or something. Seriously, don't bother pretending to be dumb. It's actually a turn off for a lot of guys, from what the ones I know tell me anyway. :/



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12 Jan 2012, 6:40 am

Erisad wrote:
bumble wrote:
Do men prefer a very dim woman who just puts out?

Should I hid the fact that I am academically bright in order to find a partner for sex and going out on dates?

It just seems to me that the thicker you are more successful you are romantically so should I play dumb?

Also how do I dumb it down convincingly?


NOooooooo. Don't do that. You'd have to show your smarts eventually and he won't love you anymore because he'll feel intimidated or something. Seriously, don't bother pretending to be dumb. It's actually a turn off for a lot of guys, from what the ones I know tell me anyway. :/

shes looking for sex. When doing that guys could not care less if shes mensa smart or a mensa (hispanic slang for someone dumb)



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12 Jan 2012, 6:40 am

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I agree as well. I dislike when people try to display their intelligence like a badge, but I thought I was the only one. If someone is intelligent, I'd want them to show it by being a sensible guy/girl.


Nah, I'd say most people don't like know-it-alls.

Not sure if this is a know-it-all attitude but my 2nd girlfriend refused to consider my input in the relationship a lot of times when making relationship or other decisions that affected me & when I tried having a discussion with her about that; she told me that I did not understand & then she talked about how smart she was. I'd rather be with a girl who's extremely stupid than a girl who believes that she's so much smarter than me that she should not listen & consider my input in our relationship.


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12 Jan 2012, 6:45 am

MXH wrote:
Erisad wrote:
bumble wrote:
Do men prefer a very dim woman who just puts out?

Should I hid the fact that I am academically bright in order to find a partner for sex and going out on dates?

It just seems to me that the thicker you are more successful you are romantically so should I play dumb?

Also how do I dumb it down convincingly?


NOooooooo. Don't do that. You'd have to show your smarts eventually and he won't love you anymore because he'll feel intimidated or something. Seriously, don't bother pretending to be dumb. It's actually a turn off for a lot of guys, from what the ones I know tell me anyway. :/

shes looking for sex. When doing that guys could not care less if shes mensa smart or a mensa (hispanic slang for someone dumb)


Oh. I didn't see that part. In which case, carry on.



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12 Jan 2012, 6:47 am

:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.



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12 Jan 2012, 7:25 am

emlion wrote:
:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.

This might be the first time i hear a woman say men are individuals. Ill forever cherish this moment



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12 Jan 2012, 7:41 am

MXH wrote:
emlion wrote:
:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.

This might be the first time i hear a woman say men are individuals. Ill forever cherish this moment

I guess you got plagued by the NT-world for a way too long time.



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12 Jan 2012, 9:06 am

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MXH wrote:
emlion wrote:
:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.

This might be the first time i hear a woman say men are individuals. Ill forever cherish this moment

I guess you got plagued by the NT-world for a way too long time.

no, you just missed my joke



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12 Jan 2012, 3:16 pm

nick007 wrote:
smudge wrote:
Bun wrote:
I agree as well. I dislike when people try to display their intelligence like a badge, but I thought I was the only one. If someone is intelligent, I'd want them to show it by being a sensible guy/girl.


Nah, I'd say most people don't like know-it-alls.

Not sure if this is a know-it-all attitude but my 2nd girlfriend refused to consider my input in the relationship a lot of times when making relationship or other decisions that affected me & when I tried having a discussion with her about that; she told me that I did not understand & then she talked about how smart she was. I'd rather be with a girl who's extremely stupid than a girl who believes that she's so much smarter than me that she should not listen & consider my input in our relationship.


It sounds it. I've dated know-it-alls and am completely turned off by them, because they make out your input is worthless compared to theirs, or they make hints that you're stupid. It's really arrogant. Stay away from them.



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14 Jan 2012, 12:46 am

MXH wrote:
emlion wrote:
:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.

This might be the first time i hear a woman say men are individuals. Ill forever cherish this moment


Its a trap!! !


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14 Jan 2012, 6:36 am

For the most part, dumb people like to date other dumb people, smart people like to date other smart people.


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14 Jan 2012, 7:18 am

Erisad wrote:
It's actually a turn off for a lot of guys, from what the ones I know tell me anyway. :/


Unless they're just looking for sex, then they don't mind too much (though they'll speak disparagingly of them later).



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14 Jan 2012, 7:30 am

emlion wrote:
:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.


Variation exists, but I don't think humans as a species is that varied, nothing is.

No, you won't get 1000 varied responses, far less than that.

We all share the same DNA structure and common elite ancestors after all .



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14 Jan 2012, 7:58 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
emlion wrote:
:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.

No, you won't get 1000 varied responses, far less than that.

Really? I didn't say greatly varied, but I doubt any person has the exact same ideal requirements as another in regards to a partner.
Different levels of 'smart' for example, or different sized hips etc etc. all varied and perceived differently.



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14 Jan 2012, 8:14 am

emlion wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
emlion wrote:
:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.

No, you won't get 1000 varied responses, far less than that.

Really? I didn't say greatly varied, but I doubt any person has the exact same ideal requirements as another in regards to a partner.
Different levels of 'smart' for example, or different sized hips etc etc. all varied and perceived differently.


The thread was not about the ideal requirements, but just about the smart vs dumb thing.



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14 Jan 2012, 8:17 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
emlion wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
emlion wrote:
:roll: 'men' as a whole do not exist in the sense they all like one thing.
this is all pointless conjecture.
you ask 1000 men, you'll get 1000 varied responses.

No, you won't get 1000 varied responses, far less than that.

Really? I didn't say greatly varied, but I doubt any person has the exact same ideal requirements as another in regards to a partner.
Different levels of 'smart' for example, or different sized hips etc etc. all varied and perceived differently.


The thread was not about the ideal requirements, but just about the smart vs dumb thing.


Ok then; the idea of 'smart'/'dumb' varies from person to person.
I might think an IQ (for example) of 100 is 'smart' where as you might think an IQ of 140 is 'smart'
or, I might think creative is 'smart' and you might think logical is 'smart' - all unique to each person.
Well, that's how I see it anyway.