Casual Sex, Yes Or No?

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Depends if you want a kid or not, I mean some are mad to do Unprotected Sex and concede in a few days rather than waiting a couple of hours.
Wait, are we talking about the stupid one where you still have your clothes on and doing the sexy? That sucks... No pun intended.

When I was 16: Yes.
Today: No.

Something must have changed during the last years.

Yes to casual sex in general.

It happens not to be what I'm looking for at the moment though.

I do not think that casual sex is wrong so long that it is mutual. i have had many lovers over the past 2 years and there have been no complications with it.

if it is not something you are into then dont do it. it doesnt mean that you can condemn the whole act of casual sex as being wrong.

Nothing wrong with it at all. I have trouble maintaining relationships so a majority of my sexual experiences have been casual sex. I do desire more, but casual sex is far better than no sex.

I agree and for the many Aspies who have difficulties getting into relationships I think the term casual sex is kind of irrelevant . For the sexually experienced perhaps they have the choice of having casual sex but many with AS don't have casual sex as an option.

There's nothing actually stopping me having casual sex but i just don't feel its the way i naturally am. I'm ok with other people being like that, im ok with most girls being like that, everyone is free to live their life, just it's not for me. Unless it's with someone that means something to me i'll probably never have sex again, I've turned it down the last couple of times its been offered and i find my ability to say no is getting stronger rather than weaker as time goes by. i can't see many situations coming along where i'd actually accept non relationship sex ever again tbh.

So that's a no. And a no for anyone that i could ever be interested in.

No,
It sucks to hurt other people. I may not agree with the norms of monogamy or even understand why its the norm, but I don't want to make someone cry or get vengeful because of my actions.

No: because it's gross.

Not specifically against it if its all that's available, just that its far from optimal IMO.

Stick summat on't th'end of it!

Couple things:
1) Autistic = monster, not up for months of chase and several times the price (time + beer + clothing) for highly mediocre sex.
2) One person masturbating vs. two people masturbating. If you pen yourself a big check every month for a kid that you never had because you can't asexually produce, its a moot point and at worst you're racking up some bank fees.
3) You meet someone who's exactly what you've wanted but end up feeling something that all the guy tramps used to say all the time "She's too good for me" and its another weight on your shoulders and one where you can't un-tag yourself. Annoying if she finds out but bad enough that its hung around your own self-esteem like a lead weight.

The funny thing is, if you can find at least one monogamous relationship with sex once or twice a week, you're learning what you need to, you're not spending exorbitant amounts of money or effort to seal the deal nearly each individual time, and the best part - sterling quality, the psychological energy is on point. You've got someone who you can think about and feel warm and fuzzy all day, not be watching your phone with anxiety hoping she doesn't call or that you gave her your real name or number by accident.

I don't see a problem with it.

Although sex can be love-making, sometimes two people can just really WANT each other. And as long as they can keep it at just that, then why not? [assuming it's not cheating of course ]

HALLELUJAH.

Define "casual." Some people classify all non-marital sex as "casual." Which was always a bit confusing to me. Isn't it really more "casual" with the old battleaxe than when you are new and a little nervous about each other?

I wish I was the sort of person who can have sex with some one I don't particularly care about, because they seem so emotionally self contained and independent, but I'm not. I don't beat myself up about it though.

For me to even get remotely excited about the notion she'd have to be both a prolific tease and brat with that sort of gremlin-like personality that a lot of dull-side bar-girls have; that turn-on-by-annoyance sort of appeal.

Even then, it would have to be all her doing the chasing. Places where I could even possibly run into that a) I get bored senseless within 5 minutes if I'm there by myself, b) If I'm there with friends I guarantee I'll slip, say something intelligent, and have my cover blown for the rest of the night - essentially ruling out even the remote possibility of that, even if I had wanted it to begin with (which is.....maybe three or four times a year and half the time just when I'm at work or on lunch break?).