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That's what I was wondering?

Well, I don't know her rationale but his- which I find to be completely ridiculous- is that if the information travels to his parents, his life will be ruined, because his father will make sexual jokes about the girl with him, and his mother will think it's funny to ground him in order to keep him from seeing the girl he likes. I think it's very likely, though, that these reasons are simply excuses and he doesn't want to tell me the real reason. I haven't the first clue what the real one is, though.

Yeah cause all that sounds like BS. I would distance myself from this crap.

Is he a total simpleton?

I wouldn't say he's stupid in the traditional sense- I'm sure his IQ is probably relatively high- but he is ignorant of just about everything. He asked me, and I'm not exaggerating, if the earth's crust was pizza crust in earth science a few years back. The sad part is he wasn't joking.

Her loss mate.

Yeah okay, if that's who's she's interested in then move on and let the two of them discuss what kind of sauce in on the earth's crust.

I mean why not let word get out about it? I mean ball is in your court.
Isn't that what you've wanted?

Problem with that is, she may hate him for it. He's at war, so to speak, with the guy not the girl. He's got to keep it cool so he can remain friends with the girl-if that's what he still wants.

Ah yea I could see that then, I guess it just seems like the other guy's secrecy about the relationship might cause her more pain in the end if it blows up so I dunno.

Honestly Postie, if it turned out a girl I was into was into a spanner like that dick, I'd be over her pretty quickly.
Remain friends and everything, just steer clear.

^ This, pretty much!

I'm not quite over her, but I don't think that's a problem. She'll find out soon enough that she's dealing with a colossal as*hole who also happens to be a dolt, but admittedly puts on a good show. I think she's very intelligent. Hopefully that means she'll be able to see this.

I hope so, too

Oh she will!! Someone can only put on that kind of show for so long. It's only a matter of time before the show is over!

Okay. There has been a major development for me lately.
Last night, she messaged me to tell me (confidentially) that the relationship is bad for her and she is going to break up with other guy on Friday at the chess club.
I've been acquainted with other guy for a few years now, so she asked my advice regarding the situation, which I gave. Then I asked her if I was actually her friend or just an acquaintance of other guy and through him her friend. She said, "of course we're friends lol, that's why I'm going to keep going to the chess club."
I said that that's good, and I was worried that after she broke up with other guy my connection with her would be severed. She said, "not at all. I think after I break up with him I'll be better friends with you than him. It would probably be too awkward to hang out with him. But you'll probably be with him at the chess club so I'll end up being with him anyway." I didn't pick up on this at the time, but perhaps this was a subtle invitation to hang out outside of the chess club?
Then, since it was late, she asked, "Since you're good at science, I have 3 tests tomorrow, do you think I will do badly on them since I'm up this late?" (At this point it was about 12:30- we both get up for school around 6)
I gave her some general psychological information on how lack of sleep effects cognition, and she said she was really worried about the math quiz she had since she wasn't in school when they learned the material. She knows I'm really good at math. Was this a subtle way of asking for help preparing for the math quiz? I offered her some general advice on how to counteract exhaustion (advice I have employed on many occasions), we talked briefly, and she said that she was going to sleep so she doesn't do badly on the tests.
Thoughts?