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Boo, "Stupid" did not mean inaccurate or untrue, as you seem to think. I just meant it's stupid to worry about what a bunch of survey respondents think. Who cares what they think? Not me. Their tastes may be entirely different to the person I end up with. The survey (and all others like them) may be 100% correct, but I still find it stupid in the sense that it's superficial and irrelevant to me personally, and to anyone who has an ounce of confidence and maturity. I'm sure a survey that said 100% of men would like women to walk round naked would be scientifically accurate but I would still find the implication that I should do so to be stupid and I refuse to adapt my clothes, habits, facial expressions or anything else just to please X per cent of the male population.

I am not giving lectures. Just voicing an opinion. My morals and idealism have nothing to do with my age or sexuality and everything to do with life experience and personal beliefs.

JanuaryMan: your picture is very nice. There's something about black and white that instantly makes a photo look more professional, deep and mysterious (to me, anyway. In my opinion). Edit: ooh, I smell another survey possibility here. Do black and white pics make you look more brooding than colour ones?

Last edited by all_white on 02 May 2012, 11:18 am, edited 1 time in total.

This is interesting information but I don't think you should stop smiling because of what other people do or don't do. If you have to be fake to get a girl, what will you have to do to keep her? Will that be fulfilling? Will it even be fun?

I wonder if most women are attracted to "rescue" a guy from his issues. If you're confused, maybe she can help set you straight. It's one of the empowering things we women do. It makes us feel good to put a warm meal in your grumbly tummy. It makes us feel needed when we can ease your pain.

Gawd! How depressing... These stupid emotional issues are most likely the reason more than half of all marriages end in divorce.

@unduki : Yes, while the survey does produce some correlations between what has been successful and unsuccessful for users regarding profile traits and picture styles, it shouldn't determine what you the individual has to do in order to make a quality profile. I find there is nothing to be gained by trying to be too "authentic" or "fake" as either polar opposite ends up (IMO) being "fake". Real people make mistakes, occasionally give quirky facial expressions and stuff and want to attract others. So if you want to put a smile on for the camera do it, if you think there is something to be gained by anti-conforming to a survey, do that, if you just want to see what happens when a camera is in front of you go for it etc. Just do what you like, this is merely a survey about what has worked for others, it's not necessarily a bible to live by. It's more of a "jus' sayin'" survey

@all_white : Thank you