Do aspie men want advice from aspie women?

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Why would males with Aspergers want to listen to advice from females who are ideologically opposed to us? Asperger males are well aware of their lack of social skills and we are used to spending a lot of our time alone. It is not like we do not know how to talk to people, we just do not like talking about things we are not interested in.

A lot of well intended threads of females trying to offer males advice has resulted in nasty arguments.

I think that it's good to get advice from multiple people and see if there are any patterns in the advice. That said, it doesn't mean people will take advice.

Aspie females are different than NT Females, and if an AS male is looking to date an NT female, advice from an AS female might not be on the mark. Of course, AS Males also need to understand that NT females have different needs. The NT female probably isn't going to want a "friendship marriage" as much as the AS female might. By that I mean a non-sexual relationship or lots of time alone.

As for stereotypes, when people encounter the same thing over and over, it's hard not to stereotype behavior.

I'd like to be given advice from a female aspie. (Either I haven't seen any posts or I haven't fished around too much in this sub-forum)

You know, there is a "sad" truth out there... sometimes you have to sacrifice a bit of your time and interests to talk with people.

All of us wish a partner exactly like us, but it's very difficult. You'll find someone with her own tastes, preferences, etc. and sometimes you'll have to talk about things you don't care. She'll have to do the same too. All the relationships are this way.

Some of us don't know how to talk to people.

a lot of people only want to surround themselves with similarly minded people.
why?.
Because in paper its easier to deal with people that wont dissagree with you.

however theres an interesting concept i came accross recently: sometimes critique is far more helpfull than flattery.

what does this mean?
i could surround myself with likeminded people. this however wont change the views of those that dissagree and quite oftenly people do a lot of growth when being questioned in a non threatening manner.

im leading a bible group in a few weeks.
i couldnt care less about religión (they know that) and im scared of leading people . however i learn a lot from discussing things with them and i cant run away from leading tasks forever

or want to.