Aspie men and the "L" word?

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A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.

MrXxx I think I need to re-read your post several times before I get it. I think I know what you mean. Yes, I agree that it needs to be a mutual agreement, on what I said, but assuming both people don't lie, then if one says something the other doesn't like, they will manifest this at the time.

It's called DENIAL.

But love is blind?

Infatuation is blind. Real love is not.

sometimes guys think with the smaller brain down there

Denial, is a lie onto oneself. Still a lie.

aspieman and surfmike, if you are taking about sex, why don't you look for just sex? I hear there are plenty of women that don't mind that.

Aspiemike, I think when you like to hang out, talk, and have sex with someone, and you are sure it's because you only want to do those things with that person exclusively, it means you like that person at that given moment. Doesn't exclude that potentially you might like doing al those things with someone else in the future. There is nothing special or unique to those circumstances, because it is what all couples like doing because they are human.

I'll try to answer you this time

How do you normally behave when you love someone?
clingy
Is it easy for you to declare that love to your object of affection?
first time knowing the person? no I'm not sure if she is a sex object or a person I want to talk to, or both
Do you need to be absolutely sure?
oh yes
Or do you never say it, even if you feel it, as that would compromise you in some way?
I am afraid of saying it but it does take a while to make sure. Would be a no then
Are you afraid of it?
yes
Or moreover, do any of you feel they know they cannot love?
I'm unsure if I will only think of her as a sex object and not give her what she needs in return
And would you ie and tell someone you love them just to get them off your back (if they ask you)?
yes, to say it would make her happy, making her happy makes me happy by getting her of my back, like coercion

Thanks Stalk.

I just thought I hadn't answered my own questions, so let me do it, even because I am curious to know what I will answer:

How do you normally behave when you love someone?

I think about them all the time, but know I don't want to be with them all the time or I would end up hating them.

Is it easy for you to declare that love to your object of affection?

No. Not in words anyway. In actions? Oh yes. Absolutely.

Do you need to be absolutely sure?

Yes. If I am not sure I won't.

Or do you never say it, even if you feel it, as that would compromise you in some way?

If I said it it would have to be explained that it was at that given moment and not all the time. Like when I hate. It's a temporary and situational emotion.

Are you afraid of it?

Very much so.

Or moreover, do any of you feel they know they cannot love?

I am not sure if I can, because I don't understand that in romantic love, I want to kiss and cuddle mostly, and don't see things like going out to a bar and talking as pleasurable. I see it as a chore, and people say that if you love someone you like doing everything with them (but not all of the time). I don't like doing everything with my bf. My needs are quite basic with him. I do love talking to him, but it has to have physical contact too or it's a waste of time.

And would you lie and tell someone you love them just to get them off your back (if they ask you)?

I would never be able to do that. I am against lies. Makes me feel sick when I have to lie about something.