Lonely and feeling undesired--anyone else, and/or advice?

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Only 9 posts to his name and he comes up with PURE GOLD!

Right on, Shelby!

You look perfectly nice and attractive but regardless of that, where men are concerned, you need to develop an individual personality and this will mean that you will always be appealing to men who like individuals - they are in the minority but you can form a far stronger bond with this type of man than the type who just goes for a generic pretty face.

Looks are a double-edged sword in my opinion as if you attract a man with a pretty face he can just as easily go off with a prettier face and may well do so when you get older. So far better to use a combination of looks and personality. A unique personality needs to be the main hook though or you won't be able to hold onto a person as securely.

Developing your own mind and opinions by reading a lot and always looking to absorb new information is the best investment you can make into developing your brain and personality as it will mean you can hold your own in a debate with an intelligent man and not have to resort to stupid girlie giggling and eyelash batting to get attention and he will respect you more for it.
Doing 'girlie' at 60 is going to look pretty sad so better to have some brains in reserve!

Also I would say your face is far more symmetrical and averagely-proportioned than mine so if I've had men chasing after me I'm sure you'll have no problems as you grow older and become more self-confident. The main thing is to value yourself and value your opinion of yourself more than others' opinions of you. It's also about valuing how you are inside as a person more than the outside, which is transient.

Thats not how ugly looks.nothing to be ashamed about at all. I pride myself with people being honest. But if you think.you're ugly you're lying to yourself. Check out YouTube there are actually ugly people.being transformed with makeup.

And you look good by default.

Please stop thinking you're ugly. You're not at all.

And it's quite common around here. I'm 30 and have never had a girlfriend. Never. I'm certainly not ugly, just aspie.

Someone will come along who finds you attractive, I'm sure of it

After seeing your pictures I can assure you that you aren't ugly, in fact I would say that you are actually very attractive. I highly doubt your looks are holding you back at all in terms of dating, I'd guess it's more related to how you present yourself socially. I notice that you sound pretty self-critical in your first post, perhaps that is hindering you somewhat in finding a relationship? Also being approached could be due to expression and body language...if you appear cold or uninterested, even unintentionally, then men will be much less likely to risk approaching.

You are like me. Check out my topic I started a half year ago.

If someone as attractive as you are OP is lonely and undesired that doesn't give much hope for the rest of us.

When I saw your profile pic after you described yourself as ugly, I nearly laughed out loud. You also said you are boring. Does that mean you are totally awesome?

Maybe guys don't approach you because you are too attractive, or maybe you can't tell when they are attracted. The first girl I ever tried to ask out was in junior high, and I was so nervous I just stood there and couldn't say anything. I have avoided conversation and eye contact with her ever since because being around her reminds me of how unbearably awkward I was. She probably thinks I don't like her.

By the way, you are not ugly at all. You are average looking. Your hair is quite nice
A little bit of eye make-up and taking care of your skin should work wonders