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So it wasn't someone you'd just met then, as you implied

You sound like the kind of aspie who has a group of friends you socialise regularly with, like the average NT

I have the person I live with and a partner (if I have one) plus one or two people I communicate with online

And ironically I seem to have more success with the opposite sex than you

I'd say this was due to intelligence

Intelligence can beat social opportunity

Where did I imply this? You seem to read into stuff that isn't there. First the nastiness thing, now this.



No pain no gain. You don't find the girl of your dreams by sitting at your computer all day unless you're lucky.



That doesn't really explain all of the brilliant nerds I do research with who suck with the ladies. Bear in mind I don't have any issues getting laid every once and a while (drunken club rats aren't exactly difficult to pull), it's getting one to stick around that's hard.

You said something about not being about to bring up the chest hair subject with a person you'd only just met

And being a 'brilliant nerd' isn't necessarily the right kind of adaptive intelligence that is needed

It's all very well being able to work out complex mathematical and physics problems but applying knowledge to solve a practical problem in a common sense way is often a skill this type of person lacks

You don't have to eat it (necessarily). You just have to have it splattered all over your face whilst the man grunts with the tube.

I've never understood what's the big deal to men about that 'act'. It seems very anti-social to me and not loving at all.

Negative, I said I wouldn't be able to bring it up with a girl I wasn't going out with. Twice, to be precise (and to rhyme!).



I guess so, I can't really comment. Not a superstar at navigating the social world, not hopeless either.

you look cool

Appearance is totally not an issue for you...

Someone has probably already said this (can't be bothered to check), but you need to keep your hair cleaner. It looks greasy in those photos. Is it hair gel??

And I think it would be better to either grow some proper stubble for a rough, sexy look, or be totally clean shaven. In-between doesn't work so well.

And try to be more confident.

Aside from those things, you are conventionally attractive and you look good.

Beeswax, to be specific. Pristine stuff. Unfortunately, hair having product in it precludes it from being clean...at least until you wash it out.



Girls will be affected by this? I'll definitely keep that in mind, I just tend to keep it neat until it starts to get a bit lengthy.....then shave it all off and do it all over again. If there's specific periods of the "cycle" that it'll look worse, perhaps I should consider a proper beard trimmer to keep it at a constant length (or just keep it shaved).



I'm not very good at expressing my emotions via facial expressions. Feeling confident and looking confident usually coincide, but not for some of us on the spectrum. Anything in specific that made me appear to lack confidence?

Thanks for the feedback, in any case.

Beeswax, to be specific. Pristine stuff. Unfortunately, hair having product in it precludes it from being clean...at least until you wash it out.

Well okay, if that keeps your hair healthy then obviously keep using it. If you're that keen at being really attractive to women though, I would say experiment with different hair styles. Like just free and ruffled, no wax/gel; I find that attractive.


Girls will be affected by this? I'll definitely keep that in mind, I just tend to keep it neat until it starts to get a bit lengthy.....then shave it all off and do it all over again. If there's specific periods of the "cycle" that it'll look worse, perhaps I should consider a proper beard trimmer to keep it at a constant length (or just keep it shaved).

Again, you could experiment. Personally, the ''bumfluff'' look on ANY guy I don't like. I like a bit more growth or clean-shaven. I think other women like this too. But honestly, it's nitpicking here, because you look completely fine and perfectly attractive. It's just you did ask for feedback.



I'm not very good at expressing my emotions via facial expressions. Feeling confident and looking confident usually coincide, but not for some of us on the spectrum. Anything in specific that made me appear to lack confidence?

Well, I guess it's because I know you're autistic, I can kind of tell there's an awkwardness there. I guess just try to be relaxed and sure of your appearance? And for photos, look more directly at the camera? I really don't know for sure.




Thanks for the feedback, in any case.

You're welcome, but don't be too worried, you look great!