Dating sites are a terrible way to meet people

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Who wants to date someone who sits on the net all day?
There's this one girl who jogs the beach each day....
happy fit
healthy and happy
and ready to spawn

it takes all sorts

Some are sporty some not

Sporty, fitness addicts will go for same type and net/film/book lovers will go for same too

I'd hate to be with a fitness addict

depends on the corporate leanings
a yoga/surfing/healthy food/sensible shoes
girl would be a blessing for me
over an inner city urbanofile

You're in America? so weather generally a lot warmer and more outdoor activity as a result

In the UK we get a lot of rain and cold weather which encourages staying indoors

Aye. Get cabined up and get some grub and t'ale on t'go.

I'm spending 5-7 hours in the sea every day this last week
Its holidays and women are everywhere at the beach

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I prefer coffee to ale

My ideal scenario would be a log cabin in a picturesque wilderness of ice and snow, with regular snow storms
with a permanently raging log fire in the grate and food supplies for months, loads to read and internet
and any film I wanted to watch.

Gosh!

Seaside holidays are a distant memory to me!

You have to be online a lot to find anyone, but in my case, when I do start dating, I quit looking and spend a lot less time online! At least I meet someone new every 3 or 4 months and have quite a few more on facebook that may want to meet me. I'm not a fitness type either but I do want a woman who enjoys going out to parks, nature trails, canoe trips, just any easy going outdoor activity (and holding hands in public). I probably could have had a lot more dates, but I just can't be around a smoker and don't want anyone with kids! (that eliminates 90% right there). Out of what's left, then there's the ones too religious or expecting guys with lots of money. That's why some of us are lucky to get one date a year!

I actually owe a good chunk of my social life to online dating due to a series of convenient chain-reactions. I met a guy on OKCupid, and though we didn't connect romantically we stayed in touch and eventually went to a gig together where he introduced me to a friend of his, and that friend then invited me to come camp out with her and some other people, and on that camping trip I met my last long-term boyfriend (though we've now split up) as well as some other really lovely people who I'm still in touch with to this day (and I've also met even more people through them, and so on). It's kind of freaky to think that I probably would have never met any of them without the aid of the internet!

As for dating, I've successfully started two casual relationships on there but the majority of my dates, despite being enjoyable, all eventually petered out due to lack of any real chemistry. I prefer meeting people in person because you know right away whether you get along or not!

I gave dating sites a shot, but then they bored me stiffless. Everyone seems to have expectations beyond human reach. Plus everyone's all 'meh'.

To the OP, are you saying that there are more people, in your area (irl) that is suited compared to people that are online in your area?

I have two online friends I met on Omegle. I've never met either of them before, but I was their boyfriend (not at the same time) for a few months each. I think that's far more "natural" than any time I've pursued a girl without the Internet. I've pursued women at school and it always felt forced and sterile. It's also never ended positively. Online dating is a part of our societal evolution. It will one day be considered the "natural" way to meet partners, and duly so.

I'm single currently and plan on finding a wife from the former USSR or East Asia on a dating site.

How is it natural? You haven't met them. You could be "forced and sterile" when you do meet them.

Whenever I've talked to a girl at school, it felt like I was breaking a cosmic rule (and, when they all rejected me, it fit the idea that an offline relationship is inherently doomed to fail). Online, it's like serendipity. My two online friends are some of the nicest people I know.

Eh... I have a love-hate relationship with dating sites.

Being gay, my options are.... well, more limited. It's different in that you go to places where gay men are you meet people through friends. The former involves bars and clubs, usually, which to me are even more embarrassing than dating sites and are also full of stinky old men. There are queer alliances, but the one at my school is so tiny (we're a commuter school) that it's barely worth mentioning. Even if I meet someone there, it could cause drama if we were to break-up and... yeah. It's just not a reasonable option. So, without involving a third party, it's either online dating, gay bars, and gay clubs.

So, that said, meeting people through friends is probably the best way, except for most of my friends are in the sciences and we are as every bit as awkward as the next guy. Plus, one of two things usually happens. The first being that the friends I connect with don't know many gay guys. Anyone else they would know is just "their other gay friend." The other thing that happens is stereotyping. I'm not going to go too far into the queer community's oddisms, but there is an odd fascination with labels. I mention I'm a geek, and boom, they try to connect me with some person who likes Glee. I said geek, not gleek. Doctor Who is more in the right direction, but is that the only thing geeky they watch? And... yeah, half the time, it's just them trying to sell their other gay friend.

So, by the end of the day, dating sites just seem like the lesser of the evils. But, it's full of issues up the wazoo. Most guys I like are either very horny or simply too damn shy. I've taken the initiative in the past, and usually get some sort of response, but the dynamic it creates is one where I'm expected to be the extravert and just... doesn't work. I hold a conversation as well as well as a spaghetti strainer holds water.


The end result is this: I keep it open as an avenue, since after all, something may come out of it. But, ultimately, I expect little of it.