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08 Jan 2013, 12:49 pm

LOL.... pity we didn't see eye to eye when you lived within driving distance. :lol:



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08 Jan 2013, 1:55 pm

Well the OP sure has the whole spectrum of opinions to consider, though people have tended to flown to the poles on this one.

- On the one side it is said if she justs sticks a slice of pizza in his mouth with one hand, and grabs his crotch with the other, everything will turn out fine.

- The other side suggests something like turning herself into the police as an Aspie Predator.

Ok, I exaggerate a little, but not by much! 8O While those are at least clear answers, they seem to me to a kind of absolute or extreme thinking which I increasing dislike. There is of course the great grey middle range somewhere between those two where answers are not laid out and are difficult to find. Most likely it is there of course the answers hide.



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08 Jan 2013, 7:46 pm

Toy_Soldier wrote:
Well the OP sure has the whole spectrum of opinions to consider, though people have tended to flown to the poles on this one.

- On the one side it is said if she justs sticks a slice of pizza in his mouth with one hand, and grabs his crotch with the other, everything will turn out fine.

- The other side suggests something like turning herself into the police as an Aspie Predator.

Ok, I exaggerate a little, but not by much! 8O While those are at least clear answers, they seem to me to a kind of absolute or extreme thinking which I increasing dislike. There is of course the great grey middle range somewhere between those two where answers are not laid out and are difficult to find. Most likely it is there of course the answers hide.


How the hell did we go from ideas to seduce a male aspie to women raping men because of feminism?

I sense a Kaz is behind all this...



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08 Jan 2013, 8:24 pm

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Boy this burns me... and people refuse to believe me that certain aspects of feminism have gone too far and are causing irreparable harm to both genders!

It burnt me, it burned your boy... I fear for my two sons!

feminism hasn't created the idea that men can't be raped. :scratch: that idea predated feminism.

Exactly. These ideas (that men are incapable of or unlikely to be taken advantage of sexually) are perpetuated by a patriarchal society, which is exactly what feminism is trying to rectify.



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08 Jan 2013, 8:43 pm

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I am shocked and disgusted that despite somebody saying "no" to you and covering his face, you later grabbed him and kissed him anyway.

That's just WRONG.

No means NO. No is not code for "I'm saying no but I really mean yes." It means NO, regardless of gender or disability.

If this thread was written by a man describing how a girl had said "no" to him yet he forced himself upon her anyway, people would be telling him what a jerk he was. However, apparently everybody seems to think it's perfectly OK for women to force themselves upon men.

It's not. This man is clearly a vulnerable individual and you're preying on him. LEAVE HIM ALONE!


Well said.


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08 Jan 2013, 8:57 pm

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My 14yr old son has to deal with this dynamic a lot. He was even assaulted by a group of older girls over the summer (at the time he was 13, and they ranged from 15 - a week shy of 18 ) at an event sponsored by the school he was enrolled in at the time. The police and CPS took reports but refused to investigate because the girls were minors. Ds isn't really interested in girls yet and was not only saying no but pushing them away and eventually escaped them and ran straight to an older boy in a leadership position for help. The girls said he actually wanted it and that he was just shy and nervous and that's why he said no and fought them (sound similar to this thread at all?). The school initially said they were interested in protecting ds, but after an administrative meeting they decided the girls were the ones in need of protection. They decided that ds was lying because he regretted saying no, and suspended him until he would make an official statement to the police that he was lying. We went to the school board, the press, etc, and everyone assumes that he is incapable of saying no or not wanting any kind of sexual contact simply because he is male.


Boy this burns me... and people refuse to believe me that certain aspects of feminism have gone too far and are causing irreparable harm to both genders!

It burnt me, it burned your boy... I fear for my two sons!


Which aspects of feminism are these, exactly, that state
A. That males have no right to say no
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B. That they're always up for it, and if they say no they're lying?


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08 Jan 2013, 11:10 pm

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We went to the school board, the press, etc, and everyone assumes that he is incapable of saying no or not wanting any kind of sexual contact simply because he is male.


I was inappropriately touched in high school by females several times (I wasn't even able to say no due to the ASD).

People often just laugh when I say it bothered me (yep, because of being that "male" thingy).

The saddest thing is that if I responded in force (the only thing I could do), we know how that would have ended.



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08 Jan 2013, 11:57 pm

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My best advice for seducing an aspie male is get an extra Large pizza and pack of soda/Beer alongside a documentary dvd that goes into scientific/historical detail about sex as well as gifting him a copy of the kama sutra. That is about subtle as it could possible it could get for an aspie male although the pizza and canned drink would be a good indicator of wanting something from him.

Ultimately, make something awesome for him.
This would actually work on me!! :lol:


The pizza and canned drink or the Documentary about sex with a copy of the kama sutra? :roll:
Both!! !


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09 Jan 2013, 12:25 am

Dillogic wrote:
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We went to the school board, the press, etc, and everyone assumes that he is incapable of saying no or not wanting any kind of sexual contact simply because he is male.


I was inappropriately touched in high school by females several times (I wasn't even able to say no due to the ASD).

People often just laugh when I say it bothered me (yep, because of being that "male" thingy).

The saddest thing is that if I responded in force (the only thing I could do), we know how that would have ended.
The worst part is an aspie guy having a boner and somehow girls are able to see it, then laugh at it, particularly when he is wearing a swimsuit...

yup, happened to me


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09 Jan 2013, 12:56 am

My advice here would be the Hammer tbh.

Clearly your first advances were to complete shock and "zomg what do i do?!".

Just talk with him and clearly state that you like him and make it clear you'd progress things at a pace he'd be comfortable.

As another poster mentioned, No hints, No flirting, just make him see your feelings without any doubt or worry in his mind.



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09 Jan 2013, 2:45 am

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My best advice for seducing an aspie male is get an extra Large pizza and pack of soda/Beer alongside a documentary dvd that goes into scientific/historical detail about sex as well as gifting him a copy of the kama sutra. That is about subtle as it could possible it could get for an aspie male although the pizza and canned drink would be a good indicator of wanting something from him.

Ultimately, make something awesome for him.
This would actually work on me!! :lol:


The pizza and canned drink or the Documentary about sex with a copy of the kama sutra? :roll:
Both!! !


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This proves how much I know about other guys especially about aspie guys (much to my dismay). We are curious! We like to learn things that we find intriguing or new to us!
We also like food (Fastest way to a guy's heart, Cook for him or buy him an awesome meal. Also the fastest way to legally kill your husband is to feed him really unhealthy artery clogging foods).

The best way to get into male aspie's bed is asking this question: "Would you like to by my first?". I would say about 70% of male aspies under the age of 25 are virgins so there is a pretty high chance of it gonna be his first time too. Saying "I would like to share it with someone sweet as you.." may help if you say it in a sweet gentle way. This way would hit him like a bag full of bricks or a giant fluffy pillow but he would get the point of it though.

Or at least act like a puppy wanting affection, EG. wanting to cuddle, Excuse: "Its cold in here and your warm" while brushing your bosom against his chest.



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09 Jan 2013, 7:11 am

Dillogic wrote:
I was inappropriately touched in high school by females several times (I wasn't even able to say no due to the ASD).

People often just laugh when I say it bothered me (yep, because of being that "male" thingy).

The saddest thing is that if I responded in force (the only thing I could do), we know how that would have ended.


Same here...was harassed, but teachers took that as "she likes you". I know what her intentions were (to wind me up).


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09 Jan 2013, 7:48 am

Who_Am_I wrote:
Which aspects of feminism are these, exactly, that state
A. That males have no right to say no
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B. That they're always up for it, and if they say no they're lying?


What our boy here is referring to is the fact that there are a lot of feminazis out there that (alongside perfectly heterosexual men, as Hyperlexian pointed out) make men out to be these sex fiends, most of which can barely contain their impulses to rape women, let alone consciously decline one of...shall we say "shaggable" quality. If you'd like an example of such a feminist, look up some of Femitheist's stuff, it can be quite ghastly at points. She's a good example of just how far feminazi misandry can go.

BlueMax, it pays to fully think every potentially dangerous sentiment like that through before expressing it, yea?



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09 Jan 2013, 12:35 pm

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BlueMax, it pays to fully think every potentially dangerous sentiment like that through before expressing it, yea?


Some thing just don't need to be explained in lengthy detail... we were talking about a school automatically siding with girls, no matter what the accusation. A boy was being attacked by girls, then attacked AGAIN by the school AND court systems when he came to them for help. Does that really need more explanation? It's messed up and nothing more needs to be said, other than they need to change from their one-sided favoritism.

...and I just looked up Femitheist - she's actually proposing KILLING ALL MEN down to only 1-10% of the human population for the purpose of "world peace". Holy crap on a stick! 8O You wonder why we men feel threatened?? Oy.... Oh well.. we're wandering too far off topic anyway. :eew:
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Someone else made this gem of her... I genuinely feel sick from her toxic hatred...



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09 Jan 2013, 2:34 pm

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...and I just looked up Femitheist - she's actually proposing KILLING ALL MEN down to only 1-10% of the human population for the purpose of "world peace". Holy crap on a stick! 8O You wonder why we men feel threatened?? Oy.... Oh well.. we're wandering too far off topic anyway. :eew:
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Someone else made this gem of her... I genuinely feel sick from her toxic hatred...


And you just know that there are men who are pathetic enough to put up with someone like her.

I see being with someone like that as no different from any other kinds of emotional abuser, if the level of hatred she exhibits is that deep.

Still, there are lots of men who think that women should be breeding machines only. Some of them have an imaginary friend to agree with them and encourage them in their thoughts, and to brutalise women, especially those ladies who have the sheer effrontery to disagree.



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09 Jan 2013, 2:48 pm

All right! :evil: get off the topic of feminism and get on topic


Quit trying to make this a rapist Succubi hunt or witch hunt.

Agapemi is being nice to an aspie male. I say we give her ideas for the lucky guy (even though he is locked up tighter than Obama's private bank account)