14 Mar 2013, 8:41 pm
14 Mar 2013, 9:14 pm
14 Mar 2013, 10:44 pm
If they're being rude in asking, one could retort with, "I'm single because you're too ugly for me to ask out."
14 Mar 2013, 10:49 pm
15 Mar 2013, 1:38 am
The_Face_of_Boo
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15 Mar 2013, 2:27 am
15 Mar 2013, 3:38 am
15 Mar 2013, 3:50 am
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Vectorspace wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
I am single because I am ugly.
I don't know about that, but my observations are:
- Even girls that would, by the usual standards, qualify as "not so attractive", do often have boyfriends.
- When guys refer to girls as "ugly", it's usually due to their behavior, sometimes also for their clothing style, but rarely due to their body.
I saw her pic, she is gorgeous.
But your second point isn't very true, guys aren't that ideal, not at all.
ps: and no, don't pm me about her pic. I would ignore you.
I knew she was
Because my theory re attractive people having all the advantages and attractiveness being what everyone wants is invariably disputed mainly by the attractive people as they are the main beneficiaries of it so they're not going to want to trash a system that's suiting them very nicely! They live in a delusional bubble whereby they think others are generally benign and aren't all over them just for how they look (when they are really)
I think they can't accept this because their identity is strongly fused with how they look and it would probably cause some kind of psychological meltdown if they knew the extent to which other peoples' interest in them was all about their looks and little else.
The looks would need to vanish overnight for them to realise it - something which rarely happens so they never get to experience their world becoming very different without the luxury of their looks.
But she made a whole thread saying that guys hardly approach her - so your assumption is unsound. I've made a wrong assumption too in that thread back then.
Yes but that's another common phenomenon of attractive people - men don't want to get the knock-back that they think is inevitable and some men develop a real dislike of attractive women as they feel not good enough and that they are always being rejected by attractive women. This can breed hatred.
I resent attractive people myself and I'm female and less aggressive than the average man so take my annoyance with them and quadruple it. So that if I were very attractive I'd be feeling a bit nervous as they will be a target for disaffected males far more than the likes of me.
I get low-level derision which doesn't threaten my life. Good lookers get a knife in the guts as 'If I can't have her no one can'
It's another downside of good looks - more attention yes but often of the worst kind ie the 'I'm going to kill you' attention!
So she's probably safest being single
Also, I bet some men approach but they're not up to her 'standard' so she rejects them
15 Mar 2013, 4:06 am
Kaufmancab51
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15 Mar 2013, 11:29 am
15 Mar 2013, 11:46 am
15 Mar 2013, 11:51 am
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Vectorspace wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
I am single because I am ugly.
I don't know about that, but my observations are:
- Even girls that would, by the usual standards, qualify as "not so attractive", do often have boyfriends.
- When guys refer to girls as "ugly", it's usually due to their behavior, sometimes also for their clothing style, but rarely due to their body.
I saw her pic, she is gorgeous.
But your second point isn't very true, guys aren't that ideal, not at all.
ps: and no, don't pm me about her pic. I would ignore you.
I knew she was
Because my theory re attractive people having all the advantages and attractiveness being what everyone wants is invariably disputed mainly by the attractive people as they are the main beneficiaries of it so they're not going to want to trash a system that's suiting them very nicely! They live in a delusional bubble whereby they think others are generally benign and aren't all over them just for how they look (when they are really)
I think they can't accept this because their identity is strongly fused with how they look and it would probably cause some kind of psychological meltdown if they knew the extent to which other peoples' interest in them was all about their looks and little else.
The looks would need to vanish overnight for them to realise it - something which rarely happens so they never get to experience their world becoming very different without the luxury of their looks.
But she made a whole thread saying that guys hardly approach her - so your assumption is unsound. I've made a wrong assumption too in that thread back then.
Yes but that's another common phenomenon of attractive people - men don't want to get the knock-back that they think is inevitable and some men develop a real dislike of attractive women as they feel not good enough and that they are always being rejected by attractive women. This can breed hatred.
I resent attractive people myself and I'm female and less aggressive than the average man so take my annoyance with them and quadruple it. So that if I were very attractive I'd be feeling a bit nervous as they will be a target for disaffected males far more than the likes of me.
I get low-level derision which doesn't threaten my life. Good lookers get a knife in the guts as 'If I can't have her no one can'
It's another downside of good looks - more attention yes but often of the worst kind ie the 'I'm going to kill you' attention!
So she's probably safest being single
Also, I bet some men approach but they're not up to her 'standard' so she rejects them
You resent attractive people?
Yeah because if you happen to be born with nice hair, good eyes, full lips, you must be a total b***h, right? Is that your logic?
And doesn't everyone have the right to reject people? I don't find everyone on this planet attractive, may I? Because I bet you don't either.
I've only rejected a boy once in my whole entire life. Simply because he looked like my little brother and I am not attracted to my little brother.
15 Mar 2013, 12:00 pm
15 Mar 2013, 12:04 pm
Cafeaulait wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Vectorspace wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
I am single because I am ugly.
I don't know about that, but my observations are:
- Even girls that would, by the usual standards, qualify as "not so attractive", do often have boyfriends.
- When guys refer to girls as "ugly", it's usually due to their behavior, sometimes also for their clothing style, but rarely due to their body.
I saw her pic, she is gorgeous.
But your second point isn't very true, guys aren't that ideal, not at all.
ps: and no, don't pm me about her pic. I would ignore you.
I knew she was
Because my theory re attractive people having all the advantages and attractiveness being what everyone wants is invariably disputed mainly by the attractive people as they are the main beneficiaries of it so they're not going to want to trash a system that's suiting them very nicely! They live in a delusional bubble whereby they think others are generally benign and aren't all over them just for how they look (when they are really)
I think they can't accept this because their identity is strongly fused with how they look and it would probably cause some kind of psychological meltdown if they knew the extent to which other peoples' interest in them was all about their looks and little else.
The looks would need to vanish overnight for them to realise it - something which rarely happens so they never get to experience their world becoming very different without the luxury of their looks.
But she made a whole thread saying that guys hardly approach her - so your assumption is unsound. I've made a wrong assumption too in that thread back then.
Yes but that's another common phenomenon of attractive people - men don't want to get the knock-back that they think is inevitable and some men develop a real dislike of attractive women as they feel not good enough and that they are always being rejected by attractive women. This can breed hatred.
I resent attractive people myself and I'm female and less aggressive than the average man so take my annoyance with them and quadruple it. So that if I were very attractive I'd be feeling a bit nervous as they will be a target for disaffected males far more than the likes of me.
I get low-level derision which doesn't threaten my life. Good lookers get a knife in the guts as 'If I can't have her no one can'
It's another downside of good looks - more attention yes but often of the worst kind ie the 'I'm going to kill you' attention!
So she's probably safest being single
Also, I bet some men approach but they're not up to her 'standard' so she rejects them
You resent attractive people?
Yeah because if you happen to be born with nice hair, good eyes, full lips, you must be a total b***h, right? Is that your logic?And doesn't everyone have the right to reject people? I don't find everyone on this planet attractive, may I? Because I bet you don't either.
I've only rejected a boy once in my whole entire life. Simply because he looked like my little brother and I am not attracted to my little brother.
Not always a b***h but often having a sense of entitlement that's glaringly obvious and will tend to be disliked
Attractive people might be more valued generally by society but they have no more inherent value than anyone else
I don't like being around them as all the fawning and sycophancy that occurs whatever stupid things they say or do annoys me greatly
It's like an insult to a person's intelligence
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15 Mar 2013, 12:09 pm
15 Mar 2013, 12:13 pm
spongy wrote:
That upsets you?
My parents have had this friend since I was born.
Last time they were over we were having lunch and their female friend asked me if I had a partner. When I replied that I did she went silent and we just waited for someone else to come up with a new topic.
She wasnt expecting a yes reply so I keep wondering why a family friend would do that
My parents have had this friend since I was born.
Last time they were over we were having lunch and their female friend asked me if I had a partner. When I replied that I did she went silent and we just waited for someone else to come up with a new topic.
She wasnt expecting a yes reply so I keep wondering why a family friend would do that
Surprise?
Perhaps she had a small-minded view of you as someone who wouldn't be likely to have a girlfriend and asked you to put you on the spot and make you feel uncomfortable so when you said yes it ruined her game?
You should have said back to her 'Do you?'
Just because someone is a 'family friend' does not mean they have your best intentions to heart
People are always looking for ways to undermine others to make themselves feel better and many people pick on the
'easy target' ie people with an ASD are often more vulnerable and sensitive than average and therefore easy targets
I'd love to have seen her crestfallen look!
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