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14 Mar 2013, 5:00 pm

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And excess body fat does affect personality in, almost always, a negative way. Increased body fat increases estrogen levels (fact) & that is why even overweight males can act like fat b*****s. Crude language aside, I'm being completely serious & factual here.

and unsurprisingly, there are absolutely no facts behind your supposedly factual statement that overweight men "act like b*****s" because of increased estrogen. you might want to try actually researching the topic as it is quite enlightening.

I realize this isn't a link to a scientific study & is a mens magazine, and nor do I care enough to google any up and debate this further, but here's the first link that came up in a google search:

http://ca.askmen.com/sports/foodcourt_1 ... _well.html

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2. Fat cells secrete extra estrogen
Carrying a few extra pounds may also wreak havoc on your hormonal balance, leading to a variety of illnesses and health risks. Estrogen, the classified "female hormone," is a fat-storing hormone that is also naturally present in small amounts in men. But when you gain weight, estrogen levels rise and other health problems ensue.

Although estrogen is necessary in men, as it regulates a healthy libido, improves brain function (especially memory) and protects the heart, when the levels are too high, testosterone levels are reduced, and many men experience fatigue, muscle tone loss, decreased sexual function, and in some cases, enlarged prostates. In other words, there are no good side effects to increased estrogen levels in men.

Read more: http://ca.askmen.com/sports/foodcourt_1 ... z2NYPSbLoW

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14 Mar 2013, 5:16 pm

I don't like girls who are too skinny. I don't think being real skinny is attractive. I like girls who are just about right.

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14 Mar 2013, 7:23 pm

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none of that has anything to do with mood, i.e. men becoming "bitchy", so your point doesn't hold water. i asked specifically for evidence of hat an you can't provide it because... it doesn't exist.

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14 Mar 2013, 7:49 pm

Hyperlexian, I understand where you're coming from because I'm naturally very thin and am tired of being demonized or called "anorexic" because of it.

I'm a healthy weight for my body frame, eat plenty, etc, and I'm sick of people equating thin with anorexia.

Honestly, I have NEVER heard anyone being put down for being a little overweight but am constantly hearing how thin people should "eat a sandwich". Well, excuse me for being thin. This might have to do with where I live (in Kansas). Most people here are overweight so it's the norm. So a person like me is considered an anorexic freak. I don't tell other people how to eat or anything so they should shut the hell up. They don't have a right to tell me how to eat. Some b***h at work shoved candy in my face and told me to eat it. If I told her to eat salad because she is fat, I'd probably be fired.

Someone will probably say, "thin people are NEVER demonized" but that's false. It happens where I live.

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14 Mar 2013, 7:52 pm

MCalavera wrote:

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It does, to an extent. I think whether or not someone takes care of themselves is reflective of their personality as well. But a lot of girls who have curves are still athletic and healthy and take really good care of themselves. That's attractive. Some really thin girls are attractive too.

I won't do obese or very overweight though. It is usually indicative of someone who has poor self-discipline, and poor self-esteem, and my father would probably disallow me from continuing in that relationship (my father was a fitness instructor and a professional athlete). I don't always follow what he says, but I will if it makes sense.

Key word is "usually". You can't say this is the case for all obese people.

You're right. A lot of it is cultural too. At risk of stereotyping, I think there are tons of black women who may qualify as "overweight" who nevertheless look gorgeous and have amazing personalities; there are tons and tons of them. I would not hesitate to date someone like that. But the same BMI on a white or Asian woman is more likely to look gross and go with a dumpy personality. Thus, I think a lot of the strong correlation between being overweight and having a bad personality is cultural rather than just as matter of the weight itself. But I still won't do obese in any case.

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15 Mar 2013, 4:25 am

From my oppinion its less about body shape and more about abilities. So my partner is a bit rounder, but there is no problem to it with our interests. So we can do hiking, drive bicycle and so on without problems. In the opposite I have a normal female girlfriend, that I really like to talk with, but doing things with her is really complicated, because she really avoids every movement she can, so if you meet with her in summer all you can do is sit and talk, while outside there is so fine weather that is actually pushing you to go outside and have some movement. Or when we meet we always have to care for, not to meet at a friend who lives in the third level of a house without an elevator and so on... Even normal walking for an hour is not possible for her, and she never does anything with swimming or else, because she dont want someone to see her body, not even her friends. (There would be enough empty bath places around here.) So I really like her, but this sometimes really, really sucks. Having a partner like her, I couldnt stand, because during summer I always had to decide between enjoying time with my partner and sitting at home or doing something outside.

So I dont care for body measures, as long as they dont dominate hobbies and free time.

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15 Mar 2013, 6:58 am

kouzoku wrote:

yes, it makes no sense to me when people are demonised for being thin either. there is no excuse for body shaming like that! i don't have a personal oar in the water - i am at my healthiest weight i have ever been (i have been at both ends of the weight spectrum, from very thin to very obese, and now i am metabolically healthy and happy with myself), but it bothers me that it has become "ok" to assume bad things about entire groups of people (big or small) just because they are not the attractive ideal in some people's eyes. it's kinda sick.

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15 Mar 2013, 7:20 am

cakey wrote:

Yes, I belive Wolfheart has an obsession for health and fitness, sounds similar to my BF. I'm vegan and all but I'm not super fit, I'm very normal in the weight range and belive in light exercise for fitness. Either way I do think not wanting a girl for eating white pasta is a bit too much. Although I rarely eat pasta, sometimes I might crave it and cook up some white pasta with some nice sauce. As long as a person works out and all, then there shouldn't be an issue. It reminds me of extreme raw vegans who only date other raw vegans.

A girl who eats and cooks white pasta is a +1 for me :lol:

, I love pasta.

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15 Mar 2013, 10:31 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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A girl who eats and cooks white pasta is a +1 for me :lol:

, I love pasta.

I love my carbonara

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15 Mar 2013, 10:38 am

It's not pasta that makes you fat, it's usually what you put on it. I eat a load of pasta, it's one of my favourite foods, and I'm not considered overweight.

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15 Mar 2013, 1:00 pm

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It's not pasta that makes you fat, it's usually what you put on it. I eat a load of pasta, it's one of my favourite foods, and I'm not considered overweight.

There is truth in that... Also balance in general is important. Myself, I love pasta carbonara, doughnuts etc. every now and then, but my overall diet is healthy-ish and I'm on the skinny end of normal weight.

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15 Mar 2013, 2:28 pm

Size does matter to me in terms of attraction. I don't like really obese guys or emaciated-looking guys either. I prefer guys who are lean and.or muscular.

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13 Jul 2014, 3:56 pm

I always liked "well-fed", say overweight, girls more than others, I don't know why but assume it's just cute. This goes so far that some may not be attractive to me anymore if they loose weight.

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13 Jul 2014, 4:35 pm

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I'm most attracted to thicker men. Not exactly fat, just... thick. Don't get me wrong, I do like muscular athletic guys, but I like functional muscles and not pumped window-dressing-in-short-sleeves (ew!). Working man vs. Gym rat.
I tend to like masculine women too, but I also love a little waist. So that one's kind of confusing. I like all the signs of femininity (little waist, smooth skin, etc etc) but prefer it in a package topped by short hair and a lifestyle that somehow involves a truck.

What's the difference? A muscle will grow when resistance is applied to it. It doesn't matter if you lift weights, or lift logs, muscle will grow. There is no such thing as a none functional muscle, just like there is no such thing as a none function bone, or organ.

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13 Jul 2014, 4:54 pm

Kurgan wrote:

I don't care if a girl is slightly chubby or slightly skinny. With that being said, I could never date an anorectic or an obese girl.

This.

However, I would never judge a couple by either one's weight

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13 Jul 2014, 6:14 pm

I don't understand what difference weight and shape make, especially for boys who have no choice in what girl they get to be with.

Anyway, I like chubby and fat girls the most... probably because chubby faces are incredibly cute and in some countries like China and Vietnam, being tall and/or fat is a sign that you are rich and prosperous.

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