how many here, will never get married

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Its less about religion and more about outdated laws that still base themselves on times where religion was more important.

As example in my country, the health insurance that includes your family, includes your children but not your partner, if you are not married to him. An unmarried partner is no family relative and can as example be denied acces to you, when you are in the emergency part of the hospital. You also cant decide, if your partner was braindead in coma, if you wanted the hospital to let him die or plug him to machines to force him to live. If you are a unmarried father it gets even worst, so if you want to travel with your child of your unmarried wife on holiday you better have documents with you that the mother allows you to do so, if not you can get into trouble because you dont have automatic right to be responsible for your child, if you are not married. (You can do that additional, so if you are married you are automatic declared as childfather, but if not, you have to do that by officials.)

Or as example, if you are only partners, and one of the partners dies, then you have no right to inherit any property and even if you inherit something, you have to pay more tayes then you would as married partner. (As example if you are married and your partner dies, you have the full right to inherit the flat you lived in together without taxes.) Or as example, if only one of two maried partners worked until he went in rent, and this partner dies, then the remaining partner is given a part of the rent of the died one. (Widowrent)

So everything would go as well with unmarried partners, but being partners meant in earlier times being married, so many laws still base on it. You can do contracts on your own, but to do so you need additional a lawyer to help you, that costs money again....

That remains me a converstion I had once:

- I don't like marriage.
- Ok, but if the government doesn't know you have a relation with this person, because you didn't stated it officially, you don't have any right in case of accident or illness, neither in case of death, neither have you the chance of sharing taxes or accessing to family assistances.
- Well, then there could be some kind of paper that tells the government I have a serious relationship with my partner. A kind of register.
- Yeap. Indeed, there is. It's called marriage.

That reward would be from you, in the form of an engagement ring.

Yeah, if it was only about a list, it would be wonderful. So I am with my partner for 14 years now, so yes we would love a kind of paper that tells the government of having a serious partnership.

But one, that doesnt lead your relatives to freak out, expect you to do a celebration that forces you to waste lots of money, forces me to be completely exhausted 6 weeks before, because of all the s**t you need to do, and that leads to my French relatives, that I mostly have seen three times of my life, to come to visit us. Hooray.

I dont know, I am with my partner for 14 years. Why is everyone freaking out because of us doing something that wont change anything to us? O_o Do they think, we will behave in any other way the next day, then we did before? At the moment I am simply f****d up with everyone, and everyone is completely excited around me and freaks out and has "lots of wonderful ideas" to mess everything even more up. And everyone expects me to cheer around and be completely excited and cant understand why I am completely f****d up with the topic. As I already told to my partner, I love being married to him. But the celebration of marrying could be thrown into the toilette, if it was for me.

But that doesn't mean that you don't like marriage. It means that you're not very keen of weddings, that is a different thing. Though I don't know if german language separates both concepts.

And remember what happened with Eva Gabrielsson: she has seen nothing from the Millenium series income because they never married.

Im older then most of the posters on this thread..but,,Ill never remarry,,,,married once,,had NO idea what I am or was getting into.I found having someone around all the time and having to be always worried about what I did or said too stress full..Marriage for me was suffocating,, I cannot live with someone in that close a relationship day in and day out..I just turned down an NT that wanted me to eventually move in with him,, I cant handle living with someone and never being able to just be myself...without worrrying about if they liked what i do or not..

If i found someone willing to live in a separate residence with a bf type of relationship,, I might give that ago but no more living together,,also at my age there are financial considerations to consider,,and property.

I wont remarry.

There's an inherit problem with the question of this thread. We're all talking about different things.
Some about marriage as in the legal process, some about religious marriage, some about the weddings and some about living with a partner for the rest of your life.

When people tell me if I would ever get married I usually think of the latter. I frankly don't care much about or the religious thing, I would do it if it pleases my partner, if not, I wouldn't. And yes, I think I like the idea of living with my partner until we get sick of each other or...die. Whatever.

I'm not the sort of person who wants to deal with another person day in and day out. I need my space, and I can't get that if I have a husband around the house. It's just not happening. I'm single, celibate, and very happy.

I most likely will never get married since I'm a heterosexual gal and I see absolutely no advantages yet plenty of disadvantages for a heterosexual gal to marry with the exception of tax breaks. If I ever do get married it'd probably be to an asexual guy as quite possibly his sexual orientation will increase the advantages and eliminate the disadvantages.

I'd rather live the life of a man than get married to a man.

I have to say the idea of marriage as an institution is unappealing, made more so by my probably austistic father's idealisation of the institution from religious ends. The kind of hogwash he says about it gives me an instinctive reaction against it.

I would have no issue with marrying someone if they wanted to and had similar life goals to me, but I'd be perfectly happy without that. I don't really get the attitude of some people that they need to find someone, anyone to marry in order to have a happy life.

In some ways luckily this is all a moot point for me as the chances of my even having a girlfriend, let alone this, are pretty remote.

Face of Boo wants me to marry him. I'm like, "But Boo, I just want to be friends!"

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