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15 May 2013, 10:04 pm

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I envy the ultra-high-functioning aspies who can naturally do this with no troubles, as though it was the easiest thing in the world.


I know. Us low functioning aspie ( or mid function aspies) eat alone. Oh well. could be worst.

at least when alone, cannot piss anybody off.



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15 May 2013, 10:05 pm

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You just gotta put yourself out there.

I just am not tough enough to take all that failure and rejection. I just ain't got it.



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15 May 2013, 10:09 pm

auntblabby wrote:
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You just gotta put yourself out there.

I just am not tough enough to take all that failure and rejection. I just ain't got it.


I can understand that... I really can... I am just incredibly stubborn and refuse to be defeated by my own weakness and fear... which leads to some issues on its own.


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15 May 2013, 10:21 pm

Feralucce wrote:
billiscool wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
I envy the ultra-high-functioning aspies who can naturally do this with no troubles, as though it was the easiest thing in the world.


I know. Us low functioning aspie ( or mid function aspies) eat alone. Oh well. could be worst.


You just gotta put yourself out there.


I do. I talk to the ladies all the time. Talking to the ladies is easy. making friends with the ladies is easy.
But getting one to date me, that's a whole another level.

us ''nice eccentric/weird autism'' we don't date, we just make friends, and that all we can reach too.



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15 May 2013, 10:25 pm

Generally, I believe two or more people can do consensually whatever they want that only affects them, and if they feel comfortable being part of a relationship with more than two partners, and actually like it, then there is nothing wrong about that.


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15 May 2013, 10:26 pm

billiscool wrote:
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billiscool wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
I envy the ultra-high-functioning aspies who can naturally do this with no troubles, as though it was the easiest thing in the world.


I know. Us low functioning aspie ( or mid function aspies) eat alone. Oh well. could be worst.


You just gotta put yourself out there.


I do. I talk to the ladies all the time. Talking to the ladies is easy. making friends with the ladies is easy.
But getting one to date me, that's a whole another level.

us ''nice eccentric/weird autism'' we don't date, we just make friends, and that all we can reach too.


If they are willing to be friends with you, that's a great start. You probably just don't know how to flirt properly. Get one of your friends to teach you flirting lessons. That's what finally did it for me. I got great lessons from a lesbian friend of mine--someone who had been on both sides of the aisle-- and never looked back.



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15 May 2013, 10:28 pm

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us ''nice eccentric/weird autism'' we don't date, we just make friends, and that all we can reach too.

hey, at least you can make friends and not an ever-growing list of enemies. be thankful of that. be thankful that not everything that issues forth from your lips pisses people off royal. that is why i'm a hermit.



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15 May 2013, 10:47 pm

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us ''nice eccentric/weird autism'' we don't date, we just make friends, and that all we can reach too.


You have obviously not read my blog or seen my Vlog... I... well... I am weirder than most. It is a combination of aspieness, crippling social anxiety, and religious preference (I am Erisian, a follower of the grecco-roman goddess of mischief and chaos)... add that to a series of head injuries and I am a severely odd little duck...


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16 May 2013, 1:16 am

I tried it. I'm not cut out for it.

My experience reminded me of a conversation I once heard about the Quran. It says a man may have as many wives as he can treat equally--some say this allows polygamy; others say it forbids it since two or more wives will never truly be treated in an equal way. The latter makes a great deal of sense to me.



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16 May 2013, 11:37 am

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I've seen it work. My friend recently did a workshop in Portland about poly relationships, just informing people and talking about it. If he is still doing them when I move there I think I might attend. I'm curious, but I don't know if I could be a part of it. I mean I don't feel like I could commit to one person, or ten people, but at the same time I sleep with some of my friends, and my friendships are similar enough to my relationships I've had, just no commitment to spending x-amount of time together.

I don't know. When I've been in a relationship, I've been pretty clear that I don't expect monogamy. I don't know. I find it all very confusing.


Was it a guy who sometimes goes by the name Jenner by chance? He lives in that area and is very involved in the scene. He's poly and also into some edgeplay.


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16 May 2013, 11:47 am

Feralucce wrote:
billiscool wrote:
us ''nice eccentric/weird autism'' we don't date, we just make friends, and that all we can reach too.


You have obviously not read my blog or seen my Vlog... I... well... I am weirder than most. It is a combination of aspieness, crippling social anxiety, and religious preference (I am Erisian, a follower of the grecco-roman goddess of mischief and chaos)... add that to a series of head injuries and I am a severely odd little duck...


I think being weird both limits my dating pool, but opens it up at the same time to an exclusive club of other weirdos. :lol:

Theoretically, as yet.


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16 May 2013, 11:51 am

auntblabby wrote:
billiscool wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
I envy the ultra-high-functioning aspies who can naturally do this with no troubles, as though it was the easiest thing in the world.


I know. Us low functioning aspie ( or mid function aspies) eat alone. Oh well. could be worst.

at least when alone, cannot piss anybody off.


People who are pissed off by someone as benevolent and kind as you deserve to be pissed off. They're practically pissing themselves off.


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16 May 2013, 12:09 pm

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People who are pissed off by someone as benevolent and kind as you deserve to be pissed off. They're practically pissing themselves off.


Seconded... though your avatar pic confuses and makes me a bit uncomfortable for some reason I cannot fathom... you are just the awesome


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16 May 2013, 12:21 pm

OliveOilMom wrote:
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I've seen it work. My friend recently did a workshop in Portland about poly relationships, just informing people and talking about it. If he is still doing them when I move there I think I might attend. I'm curious, but I don't know if I could be a part of it. I mean I don't feel like I could commit to one person, or ten people, but at the same time I sleep with some of my friends, and my friendships are similar enough to my relationships I've had, just no commitment to spending x-amount of time together.

I don't know. When I've been in a relationship, I've been pretty clear that I don't expect monogamy. I don't know. I find it all very confusing.


Was it a guy who sometimes goes by the name Jenner by chance? He lives in that area and is very involved in the scene. He's poly and also into some edgeplay.

No, his name is Dave, he goes by Dav Oh. You're on my facebook friends, you can find him on there, he's listed as Dav Oh.
He's total eye-candy, too. His girlfriend is really beautiful too. I hope I get to hang out with them AS SOON as I get up there. :D


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16 May 2013, 12:22 pm

Feralucce wrote:
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People who are pissed off by someone as benevolent and kind as you deserve to be pissed off. They're practically pissing themselves off.


Seconded... though your avatar pic confuses and makes me a bit uncomfortable for some reason I cannot fathom... you are just the awesome


It's supposed to be Einstein as a mouse. I used to have cute avatars of cute animals, then I just went down the arty/disturbing route, much to OliveOilMom's dismay.


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16 May 2013, 12:31 pm

pudding... the compliment applies to you... I caught that... The comment about the avatar... was for auntblabby...

pudding, you know i adore you... if not... you do know...


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