How does a man attract a woman

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This is the only thing I can say now in regards to your AA response to my comment.

You are your spirit and you have never lost it. You just choose to ignore it like everyone else does from time to time.

Okay I guess I understand but I still will have the thought in the back of my mind.

How do you know they are lying? I mean aspies usually misinterpret things. At least I do I generally think everyone is lying and sometimes I get upset and tell them they are a liar. I mean I am extremely direct and sometimes unfiltered. And I will not apologize to anyone for speaking my mind. I am a true persona and I stick to my guns. I mean maybe that means people will hate me but I obviously don't care because I continue to do it. Some people just need to be disrespected to learn that they need manners.

No you are right. I need to go back and stop saying I know what is wrong and doing nothing about it. It just gets to the point where you want to manage your own life. DO you know what it is like when you have to rely upon a higher power and an AA group I start to feel like I am not a man. I mean I grew up thinking real men handle their problems without emotion and without tears. DO no not show you hurt but hurt them instead. It is a really bad attitude that I have and I feel that running away crying shows weakness. If you put them in their place then you feel superior. I know it is a totally twisted and almost NT way to act because I have many NT traits. I used to lie, cheat, and steal to get what I want. It is what practicing drug addicts and alcoholics do. You take someone's wallet and then you help them look for it. It is so wrong and I felt so much guilt but I felt that I take what I thought waqs mine. What's yours is mine. I even tried to stel girlfriends form people. I am not saying this because I am proud of it. I had to drink to dal with all the pain I was dishing out. I know what pain and I am a pro at inflicting it.

It is a horrible way to live.

I think what Mr.Bogan is saying is that there is always some level of conformity, even while seeking an unconformist lifestyle. To identify yourself as a member of any group can be taken as a measure of conformity. I would almost argue that it's necessary to be able to find that common ground with other people.

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I guess i don't know they are lying.. i think ive just applied the fact id be totally uninterested to other peoples scenairios... but most of the time it sounds bs

And I will not apologize to anyone for speaking my mind. I am a true persona and I stick to my guns. I mean maybe that means people will hate me but I obviously don't care because I continue to do it. - see if you don't care that people will hate you...
use that EXACT same thought process when talking to girls..
rejection is nothing

Dude if you're skinny you should start training to increase your vertical jump. I'm naturally muscular (after I took the fat off) and it sucks because I wish I was 130lbs because it'd make life so much easier to increase my vertical jump. I'd also be able to do a zillion pullups, handstand pushups, all kinds of cool stuff.

I don't see why you limit yourself to a subculture. But whatever floats your boat.

Oh I just made the point he was critical of a certain group that was conforming, when he is conforming to a too.

We are social animals so conforming is a natural thing for us to do to fit within a certain group. So yeah I think you are right.

Okay I see. I mean in a way I do conform to what punk ideals are and some of the fashion. I do not consider myself necessarily in the scene itself I mean I used to be was in a band supported bands at shows stuff like that.

I mean I want to go back unfortunately there is one punk aspect I can no longer do and that is drugs and alcohol plus the fact that shows can be a problem where are some stupid idiots wo start fights with people. I nevee was or am into the whole punk holier than thou a=I am better than you stuff. I mean I guess maybe I can sometimes get that way mainly because I get annoyed with society at times and their odd expectations.

Anyways sometimes I have a hard seeing a point until I am more calm and yes conforming is something everyone does. COnforming not necessarily to society at all but a certain group. Nothing wrong with some level of conformity. I mean you do have to act punk to be accepted as wone of them/ Honestly I think it is stupid you should like anyone and not hate someone just because they are not like you. I know sometimes I do judge otheres well I did on here. I think everyone judges others at times its human nature.

I guess In was being bull headed before. I am stubborn at times. Guess it is the German in me. lol, I am Irish too so I have a short fuse and seem to always like to fight. I know these are kind of stereotypes but I think they are somewhat common with these nationalities. I mean seriously I think every Irish person has gotten into a brawl at a wake. I mean the Irish are fighters adnt ehy are good at holding grudges : the English! Oh yeah I am also English. Does that mean the Irish in me hates the English. And I am Scottish as well. Yeah I am a mixed breed. I am Polish and Norwegian as well. A regular Euro Mutt.

Anyways I am just an American really. I mean I still have Irish pride. Too bad I cannot drink on St. Paddy's Day, I went Ireland beautiful place. We went to Dublin mainly and I was drinking hard in those days. I mean I was always drinking in the pubs. We spent most of our time in pubs. I was only 18 but it was legal so I drank as much as I good. It was mostly a blur.

Sorry my typing is getting realy bad. I do it too fast. and with two fingers! lol.

I've got that streak about me which I don't like.

No worries.

Just be yourself punkguy378, you are very interesting and awesome.

My sister went through a goth phase in high school. She didn't wear her white pancake makeup to school one day, and her "friends" shunned her for it. Go figure.

As for attracting women, after you get yourself sorted it'll happen. Think Field of Dreams....if you build it(you) they will come.

Thanks. I think you and most people on here are interesting. We all have problems we just need to learn to listen to others. At least I do. lol. Only can speak for myself. If anyone said life was easy they lied! lol.

Yeah I like some of the clothing of goths especially vinyl stuff. Also I have some of those "monster boots" if you know what I mean. They are platform (4") and patent leather. They are seriously awesome and would probably hurt if you kicked somebody. Some girls do that wearing these just as a joke kick their friends lightly though. I want a girl to kick me with boots like that just playing around though. (just not in "that" area though) I even like latex too and have some. Yeah it is a little weird but very interesting and it feels really weird when you wear it. I love it. I mean some people think it is gross because it doesn;t breath but if a woman has that and sweats I think it is hot. Honestly latex is not necessarily goth its fetish but these styles sometimes intermingle in goth and even industrial styles. I just think shiny stuff is hot and not just on other people. I like wearing just as much.

Yeah field of dreams is right.

I need to go to some of those fetish shows. I mean then I can get all dressed up in latex. I mean even at some goth club. I am actually kind of shy though and I feel self-conscious trying to work on that.

Honestly I do not really care for the makeup of goths though like I would never use makeup I don't think.

I mean I have started to realize I am a kind of a freak in a good way. Nothing wrong with it. It is very interesting to me. It is my life. I mean my own insecurity someties gets in the way or I shy away from going out in weird clothes. It is hard when everyone stares either in a good way or bad way. I am never sure if they like it or are creeped out.

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If Kevin Costner can do it, so can anyone.