I Have Aspergers, But I'm Not Attracted Guys With Aspergers?

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04 Aug 2013, 8:06 pm

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What's the point of this thread? To
For some soothing balm: I have AS and I find AS traits quite attractive.

How is Mr Wonderful doing :wink:

You really need to get over this fixation with him. He's not into guys. Just accept it and move on with your life.

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04 Aug 2013, 11:32 pm

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Wow, I would think on an Autism/Aspergers support site people would be more compassionate instead of insulting me for being attracted to people different from me. Seriously just because someone has Aspergers doesn't mean their mate has to have it too! I never said guys with Aspergers were losers, I'm friends with guys with Aspergers, but I'm just not attracted to them.

So you're basically saying I should be with a man I don't love!?

agreed look above :roll:

and no I'm not in love with Mr W you are .

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04 Aug 2013, 11:55 pm

Btw I was trying to have a little bit of "fun" with you a bit of a tease, so I guess it must be true aspies are with out humour, unless you feel because of you college education you have the right to look down on me (I get this "vibe" around here particauly so the ones who have their Mommy and Daddy pay for their education) yes I'm envious I will go to hell

Not saying your a warmedy child though I can spot them around here.

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05 Aug 2013, 2:22 am

Says he who failed to spot my joke.

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05 Aug 2013, 2:28 am

Who_Am_I wrote:

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What's the point of this thread? To tell the world that we're unattractive for you?

She is obsessed with men out of her league, like the married one she's stalking.

Op should read my Ugly Girl Entitlement Disorder thread.

The OP is certainly aware that this board is full of involuntary celibate guys who are already struggling in being attractive to NT women, so this thread sounds like "We asssspie women don't like you either, die loserssss" **spitting acid on wounds**

The thing is that the OP didn't like any AS guy before simply because she didn't meet someone with AS she finds attractive yet, it shouldn't be a correlation with AS, I highly doubt she met hundreds of Aspie guys - however labeling them all as "Guys with Asperger" suggests that it's their AS that makes them unattractive for her.

So this is what the thread is all about, it's pouring acid on the wounds of guys here.

ONE person has announced that she is not attracted to AS guys. She isn't speaking for everyone.
Was anyone here really that hung up on whether they got to date StewartMango?

For some soothing balm: I have AS and I find AS traits quite attractive.

I know, you're right, but this thread is like an attempt to invite more female members to agree and say so.

I am not saying she was speaking for everyone, but what this thread's intention probably is or at least how it sounds.

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05 Aug 2013, 2:45 am

I have aspergers, and I find I am attracted to others with aspergers... mainly as in general I feel more comfortable around others on the spectrum. I have dated NTs before, but it's never worked out... also dated people with other MH issues but that's rarely worked out either. In part as I find I try to act more NT myself when I am dating such people as I am so worried about messing things up so I end up not being myself and then the odd meltdown occurs and they can't cope and the relationship ends... I was even engaged to a NT once, but he just couldn't cope with my aspergers and stuff (I have other MH issues too) and so that ended in a fairly dramatic manner.

but in general I don't consider a persons diagnosis in if I am attracted to them or not, I just find that I often am attracted to those with at least traits as I guess I find them easier to be around - even before I know of their diagnosis

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05 Aug 2013, 2:50 am

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Says he who failed to spot my joke.

well I did tell you we don't have a sense of humour :wink:

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05 Aug 2013, 3:00 am

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Seriously just because someone has Aspergers doesn't mean their mate has to have it too!

Since you know this then what's the purpose of this thread?

besides, what this:

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Every guy I ever liked NEVER liked me back and every guy that liked me, I never liked back.
Anyone else have this problem?

Has anything to do with guys with AS? This is a totally separate issue.

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05 Aug 2013, 3:14 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Who_Am_I wrote:

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Tyri0n wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

What's the point of this thread? To tell the world that we're unattractive for you?

She is obsessed with men out of her league, like the married one she's stalking.

Op should read my Ugly Girl Entitlement Disorder thread.

I didn't see it that way. I saw it more as asking "is it ok for me not to be attracted to traits that I myself possess?".
It would be like if I posted a thread asking "I'm overweight, is it ok if I'm only attracted to thin people?" (I'm not only attracted to thin people, and I realise that this thread will strike more nerves here than my proposed one, but I'm speaking of intent, not results.)

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05 Aug 2013, 6:07 am

What a ridiculous conversation here.
It seems all the guys are mad at the OP because she doesn't want to date them.
It's sad when someone comes to a support forum and is attacked when they have an opinion other members don't agree with.
Some of you are making a big deal out of nothing.
WTF

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05 Aug 2013, 6:47 am

lol, The OP's shirtless-avatar reminds of a certain male poster that used to be on here who assumed by default that every AS guy except for him was a f*****g geek of some sort, even though it wasn't true a lot of the time. But he still thought it was nevertheless.

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05 Aug 2013, 9:35 am

StewartMango wrote:

My Aspergers is pretty mild compared to other Aspies. I'm working on improving myself and I see nothing wrong with wanting a guy who doesn't have Aspergers like me. I don't get mad when a white person only wants to be with black guys or a skinny person only wants to be with fat people.
Also a high quality guy would not reject someone for being ugly, maybe for being crazy, but not ugly. High quality guys don't care about good looks.

I hate to break it to you, but almost all guys, especially high quality guys, care about looks.
The difference is with a high quality guy, looks will only get you past the first part (after which the guys who aren't high quality simply don't care about anything more than just looks), not the second most important part, which must be met for you to even be considered to date them. In essence, you just made things much harder for yourself unless you are an exceptionally stunning human being in terms of who you are.

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05 Aug 2013, 9:36 am

Define high quality guy.

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05 Aug 2013, 10:24 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Define high quality guy.

Men who are the most in demand by women (or by men if they are gay).

Any other definition is too subjective to be useful.

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06 Aug 2013, 10:38 am

Tyri0n wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Define high quality guy.

Men who are the most in demand by women (or by men if they are gay).

Any other definition is too subjective to be useful.

Aren't playboys in demand too?

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06 Aug 2013, 4:43 pm

Quality, as in police record? That is about the only thing I can think of. Some couples commit serial crimes they love each other so much, so I doubt there is any defining quality. Peoples opinions differ on dating material as much as people look different from each other in the first place. If you are looking for something popular culture is not in women or men, your actually more likely to get it in my opinion, as long as it isn't and alien or something unreasonable.

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