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Aspie men more cool then normal men,if they have confidence?
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NO! 60%  60%  [ 52 ]
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29 Apr 2014, 10:41 pm

"If you ask most women about their "perfect man", they'll actually describe another woman." ~Mark Gungor~

He has a point, too; many traits valued by a great deal of women are often far more common in other women than men, by default. Most guys today are raised to bury their feelings, and never back down from a fight for any reason. Lots of women are raised to believe that a man who truly loves them will magically know their deepest thoughts, no communication needed. Its an illusion on both sides, because real love is about commitment in the face of hardship, not avoiding pain entirely.


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29 Apr 2014, 11:48 pm

Nope, and to be honest I'm just fine with it. I wouldn't want to date a woman who couldn't stand an aspie, because I sure as hell can't be a cocky, macho douchebag, and even if I had the ability to act like one, I still wouldn't want to. It's just not who I am.



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30 Apr 2014, 12:17 am

What women say they want and what they actually date tend to often be completely different. Guys do it too, though.



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30 Apr 2014, 9:40 am

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30 Apr 2014, 9:41 am

Aspergers men are definitely not every woman's dream.

Why?

Because a lot of them are really REALLY bad at communicating. When there is an argument they are much more prone to anxiety attacks and withdrawal. They are prone to 'falling silent' because of mind blindeness or because of feeling overwhelmed.
They also find it harder to take the initiative, and do things spontaneously. These are exactly the things most NT women love.


How the f**k are AS men every woman's dream. That's like saying Beyonce is every nazi's dream girl.



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30 Apr 2014, 11:37 am

Cafeaulait wrote:
Because a lot of them are really REALLY bad at communicating.

You sure it's only for behavioral reasons?

A lot of us men struggle with women because we're just not physically attractive enough.

End of story.



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30 Apr 2014, 12:14 pm

Uprising wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
Because a lot of them are really REALLY bad at communicating.

You sure it's only for behavioral reasons?

A lot of us men struggle with women because we're just not physically attractive enough.

End of story.


That was not the question.

End of story.



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30 Apr 2014, 12:40 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
Uprising wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
Because a lot of them are really REALLY bad at communicating.

You sure it's only for behavioral reasons?

A lot of us men struggle with women because we're just not physically attractive enough.

End of story.


That was not the question.

End of story.

No you're right, but it was a hidden determining fact though.



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30 Apr 2014, 1:01 pm

Let me ask Mario, Hey Mario are Aspie men what NT women secretly want? [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRQUtH9yU5g[/youtube]


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30 Apr 2014, 4:08 pm

Cafeaulait wrote:
How the f**k are AS men every woman's dream. That's like saying Beyonce is every nazi's dream girl.

The analogy would suggest cognitive dissonance, which I don't think it is what you are going for. :P

Anyway the answer to the OP is obviously no. I'm not sure how this thread justified 5 pages of posts.



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30 Apr 2014, 5:28 pm

I don't think any sane, grounded, intelligent women with a heart of gold and a moral compass that actually works would be remotely interested in any of the men who post on here. But it seems i am an exception where ever i may tread and this board is no different.



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30 Apr 2014, 8:06 pm

DukeJanTheGrey wrote:
I don't think any sane, grounded, intelligent women with a heart of gold and a moral compass that actually works would be remotely interested in any of the men who post on here. But it seems i am an exception where ever i may tread and this board is no different.


Are you saying we're a bunch of pigs? :pig: :P



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30 Apr 2014, 10:11 pm

Thank you for adding "If they have confidence" on the poll. I'd love to date an Aspie guy but the ones I meet seem to have little or no self-confidence. When you're as ambitious as I am it's really hard to fight that contrast.