Girls, how strict are you when it comes to looks?

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I thought they were all pretty equal (did not check out the men at all, not a good judge)

am I the only person at a dating site who actually checks out the profile, questions and tests? Thing is I was recently messaged by a womon who thought we were pretty "compatible" and we had hundreds of questions in common - in the first four pages I found questions that were deal breakers for me. I asked her about them (the single biggest deal breaker was she was a racist, and yes I am Caucasian - I just can't stand judging people by a silly thing like their heritage). After about 3 messages she quit, I have no idea why.

I learned having a list like this is ridiculous.

I'm a little over where I should be, I thought obesity was the people who weigh 400 pounds? I've seen guys 3 times bigger then me. I'm not sure how to react to the cute face remark. Mixed emotions ranging from embarrassed and happy to fear.

I lost 40 pounds by walking 10 miles a day and doing 400 cal meals. I was still losing weight. I also did crunches and pushups. Now I'm so reclusive and anxiety ridden I don't leave my room much, non the less go outside. I feel like a walk sometimes but the fear is too much I just fear paralyzed. sadly i'll always have some kind of a belly the military knew this so they went off of a ratio thing. Its my darn big rib cage. I've often wondered how It would work I can only imagine a really bad slant and looking like I been starving for years lol. That said I could lose like 4-7 inches of the belly but still would have one. I'd really just like to be 42-40inch and 240 again.

idk about that nor would I like it. I'll place you with the 3 other women to say my face is cute though, the other side is still higher though, but thank for a temporary feeling.

I thought he was one of these three saudi men at first, they were deported too:





Anyway, the women responses to the pic posted by Goggles answer the OP's question.

Dude looks like a dude.

His eyes are too dudeish to be a lady.

Like always, I go by the quote: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but sheer ugliness isn't".

And that's just how it is imo.

if it's true that every individual views beauty totally differently, there wouldn't be any beauty standards for models, beauty pageants, hollywood.... How comes a lot of women find Johnny Depp handsome for example?

Sure, some accuse the "Media" for creating those beauty preferences and imposing them on the crowd, but reality that those preferences weren't created by the media from scratch, they existed in among humans for long, the media just emphasis on what the market wants.

Pay attention to the bold part of the quote.

If you're seen as true ugly, you're seen as true ugly, but the same doesn't apply for pretty because people have preferences in what they find pretty.

Who thinks steven hawking for example is looking like a wet dream, if you take away his personality, mind and possessions?

I got the bold part, but I was saying that if you're seen as handsome by one there's a very high chance to be seen as handsome by the next person too, of course personality might take away this but I am talking first impressions.

Yup, but no one is really hot to everyone of the other (straight) gender.

The opposite on the other hand, tends to go more radical and straightforward if you know what I mean.

Boo, you have clearly misunderstood. Perhaps this is due to a language barrier. I appreciate that English is not your native language (and I'd just like to take this opportunity to compliment you on how well you write it) so perhaps you don't understand what I mean by "dry" lips.

I don't mean dry in the sense of "not wet." I mean dry in the sense of "not moisturised."

Having dry lips is a VERY, VERY big dealbreaker for me indeed. The reason is that I love kissing.

Kissing is extremely important in any relationship. It's not a "minor" thing at all.

Also, it's not about lip "type," in the sense of the type of lips you were born with. Rather, it's about the condition of the lips. You can't help the lips you were born with, but you can do something about the condition of your skin.

I find it extremely unpleasant to be kissing someone who has A. bad breath or B. cracked skin on their lips. Therefore, I am not attracted to people who do not brush their teeth or take proper care of their lips, because I know that being kissed by them would not feel nice.

I have been kissed by someone with cracked lips before, and, believe me, it feels absolutely horrible. It basically feels like some dry scales are spiking into your own soft lip tissue and scratching you.

My dislike of being kissed by someone with dry lips does not make me "shallow." It just means that I have certain minimum standards when it comes to personal grooming in the opposite sex.

Let's put it this way: I would not want to have sex with a man who has cracked skin all over his penis. Equally well, I would not want to kiss a man who has cracked skin all over his lips. It both looks and feels disgusting.

Healthy lips and healthy penis are both major dealbreakers that are not "minor" things at all, because kissing and sex are both major parts of a relationship and in order to enjoy them, the other person's body has to be healthy and well looked-after, so that it feels nice when it makes contact with yours.

Perhaps in your country and culture, taking care of the lips to ensure they look and feel kissable is not seen as a major priority. Or perhaps it's only something that women do, and a man using lip balm would be seen as unmanly. Here, in my country, it isn't like that. More and more men are using lip balms and facial moisturisers. Men who have nasty flaky lips are less likely to get kissed. There are more and more ladies who tend to prefer men who are well-groomed. There's even a word for those kind of men: metrosexual.

I like metrosexual men. That doesn't make me "shallow" or "picky." It just means I like a man who keeps himself clean and well-groomed. I don't think that's really too much to ask!

I know what you mean, I don't think Quasimodo is commonly seen hot unless if there's someone with odd fetish but imagine how extremely that would bd.
It is an extreme example, yes, but it is somehow true for milder degrees.

I think regular hygiene, grooming, exercise and a good presentation are a requirement for all people if they want to get on socially.

Try to hide your special ed traits if you can as they can scare people away or make you appear weird or creepy to the opposite sex which you don't want.

take away ANYONE's personality and mind and I am not going out with them - I don't care how rich or gorgeous they are.

No, you are not the only person who checks all those things out. I think I mentioned before that, due to my slow internet at home, I can read the whole profile before the pictures load. If the profile is great, the pictures have to be truly awful for me to completely lose interest.

It's kind of a moot point for me, though, since I'm not really looking, so I rarely go so far as to read someone's answers to the questions. I browse through profiles in Quickmatch as a way to pass time when I'm bored, and I skip the vast majority of them. The exception is if the dude says something really offensive in his profile, in which case I rate him one star so that hopefully he won't pop up in the rotation again. The rest of the time I spend on there is either moderating reported photos, or reading the scammer messages I receive (about 3 out of 4 messages I receive are from scammers), or reporting the profiles of the scammers who send me those messages.

I do it too but I swear I am the only one. I have yet to message a single women because there is always a deal breaker in her questions: more than 10 partners, racist, hardcore religious/right wing, planning on getting tattoos all over or just a very arrogant, stuck up attitude in her responses. I'm starting to think normal women just don't go online because there is always a deal breaker somewhere in the questions. The few times I have gotten messages I wonder if they even looked at anything other than my height and pictures!