Why DO males take the responsibility for initiating?

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Meh. Please take my last post with a grain of salt.

Why are men responsible for initiating contact?. Because human biology dictates men are attracted to non aggressive women who submit to their interest and women are attracted to men powerful and succesfull enough that they'll give up their independent heart to.
Someday in the future this society will be gone and so will the promotion of "strong modern women" and all other concepts our society uses to obscure uncomfortable facts of nature . care to disagree?

So as an aside are you denying people are born with a same sex attraction?. Human sexuality is pretty much the same world over . Varrying Different cultures have come up with different strategies and concepts for how people should apply it. Those that start applying unhealthy strategies such as ours will experience increasing frustration and chaos until the blowback replaces the culture with a better way or they dissapear. Meanwhile islamic countries if they hold to their values will continue existing for centuries.

I've wondered that for years but I have a legit answer for you my friend.
It is society. Society has molded people into believing this is acceptable and in truth it is not. Society has many men afraid of changing this in fear of being ridiculed. This society perception is believed is caused by the early days when women were mistreated and women retaliated to try to rectified the situation, now it has gone to the other extreme and actually it has been like that for decades now. I think what bugs you about this is the fact that you are more aware of things, probably from struggles and different outlook due to be ASD and you can actually see a deeper issue about this then what appears on the surface. There are actually groups out there that are trying to correct this. Some of these groups are "Masculinest", (I not a big fan of this group though and feel they are too aggressive and somewhat out of line). In truth men are very emotional and we are taught to suppress our emotions in order to "be a man." What I find interesting is that I actually know some women who think this social pressure they put on men is ridiculous as well! This can however be changed by speaking out. Write a blog or joins some groups that are trying to get the word out on this. I feel like if this is corrected there will be a more balance in regards to male/female and bring more peace into the word which could help ease other issue like the economy and political corruption.

Look at it this way: you can either do the choosing, or wait to be chosen. Which sounds like more fun?

In my time on dating sites, I've initiated contact as often as the men have when the man was a reasonably decent match with me. Just because most of the men who *do* initiate contact with me have obviously not bothered to read my profile and/or were scammers doesn't mean it doesn't work both ways.

In real life, I've had only one serious relationship that *I* didn't initiate. Over my lifetime I've also approached plenty of guys who turned me down....and a few of them even told me it was because I didn't wait for them to approach me, like a good little woman should.