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09 Feb 2015, 11:34 pm

People who abuse their own children shouldn't be having kids. Imagine your own parents saying bad stuff about you, that stuff traumatizes you. And you could end up in a bad situation where you want to kill yourself. I dont know what its like but its never good to be having abusive parents.

Some people arne't fit for being parents. It's just our human nature to want to reproduce but many dont have the maturity or commitment to raise a child.

thats how I see it.



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10 Feb 2015, 4:52 am

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Sly, a lot can happen even in six months. When I turned 27, I was unemployed and thought the odds of me ever getting a girlfriend were pretty slim. Now I'm 27 & 1/2 and I have a well paid job and a girlfriend who adores me.

Just because someone has never been in a relationship at 27, that doesn't mean it's too late. There are tons of people here on WP who had their first serious relationship after 27. kraftiekortie , Proffessorjohn and auntblabby to name a few.

You remind me so much of me only six months ago. Just hang in there buddy. Even for six months. Your life can change in only six months. I know because it happened to me. If a dork like me can get a girlfriend there's hope for anyone.



2 years ago I'd believe that but not now. whole work hard and you're succeed is a lie. you learned stuff that helped you find a good job. I learned stuff that didn't and came with a load of debt.

you have a gf? isn't it just like the 3rd date? o.O

if I remember right kraftiekortie had relationships/sex pre 27. don't know who professorjohn is.

my only hope now is to get a job buy some more guns and games in my last 3-8 years. guns will have a higher resale value for the family after I'm gone then games though or any tech. guess theres aslo the gym maybe but construction is real slow and probably won't be able to afford it due to a down payment of like 200. I don't even know if i'll like it.

you've been quite lucky and are more intelligent.



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10 Feb 2015, 4:53 am

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Like I said, the outlook is bleak and I don't think anyone can blame you for feeling desperate.

Sad part is that in a not-so-distant past, there was a place for men like us; the plain, average Joes who, while lacking in charisma and social graces, were at least competent and functional enough to follow orders and perform relatively simple tasks. We'd get a decent job, a home, and an average-looking, but dedicated wife to keep us company and warm our beds at night. Now look at us...



oh yes the 1940s-50s good times indeed. minus the missing tech.



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10 Feb 2015, 9:09 am

sly279 wrote:
Gauldoth wrote:
Like I said, the outlook is bleak and I don't think anyone can blame you for feeling desperate.

Sad part is that in a not-so-distant past, there was a place for men like us; the plain, average Joes who, while lacking in charisma and social graces, were at least competent and functional enough to follow orders and perform relatively simple tasks. We'd get a decent job, a home, and an average-looking, but dedicated wife to keep us company and warm our beds at night. Now look at us...



oh yes the 1940s-50s good times indeed. minus the missing tech.



maybe the tech is the problem...



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10 Feb 2015, 4:36 pm

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2 years ago I'd believe that but not now. whole work hard and you're succeed is a lie.
Well if you can change your mind in 2 years you can change your mind again in another 2 years, right?
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you learned stuff that helped you find a good job.
Not quite. I learned stuff after I got the job. Much like my previous job they provide on-the-job training.
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you have a gf? isn't it just like the 3rd date? o.O
You're right but she refers to herself as my girlfriend, declares her love for me frequently and says she'll help and support me with my problems (aspergers, depression, etc). Maybe you're right and it's too early to say she's my girlfriend but I think it still counts. Something about the way she keeps on sending my text messages with her first name followed by my last name. I think she's trying to tell me something with those.


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10 Feb 2015, 6:42 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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2 years ago I'd believe that but not now. whole work hard and you're succeed is a lie.
Well if you can change your mind in 2 years you can change your mind again in another 2 years, right?
sly279 wrote:
you learned stuff that helped you find a good job.
Not quite. I learned stuff after I got the job. Much like my previous job they provide on-the-job training.
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you have a gf? isn't it just like the 3rd date? o.O
You're right but she refers to herself as my girlfriend, declares her love for me frequently and says she'll help and support me with my problems (aspergers, depression, etc). Maybe you're right and it's too early to say she's my girlfriend but I think it still counts. Something about the way she keeps on sending my text messages with her first name followed by my last name. I think she's trying to tell me something with those.



idk

we don't really have stuff like that here . wasn't it a agency whose purpose is to hire people like us and train them to do the job. here they expect you to come pretrained to do the job or they won't hire you. no such agency like yours seems to exist here in this money is all that matters nation.

if shes calling her your gf I guess its so. last bit about the name sounds kinda creepy to me. and I get super clingly like that, but depends on conversations outside of the dates and time from start to now i guess. that and I suppose women can get away with that stuff.



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10 Feb 2015, 6:43 pm

SwissPagan wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Gauldoth wrote:
Like I said, the outlook is bleak and I don't think anyone can blame you for feeling desperate.

Sad part is that in a not-so-distant past, there was a place for men like us; the plain, average Joes who, while lacking in charisma and social graces, were at least competent and functional enough to follow orders and perform relatively simple tasks. We'd get a decent job, a home, and an average-looking, but dedicated wife to keep us company and warm our beds at night. Now look at us...



oh yes the 1940s-50s good times indeed. minus the missing tech.



maybe the tech is the problem...


yeah but I do love my tech. just installed a tb hdd in my ps4. and I'd go crazy for a while without my phone and tablet.



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10 Feb 2015, 11:48 pm

sly279 wrote:
SwissPagan wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Gauldoth wrote:
Like I said, the outlook is bleak and I don't think anyone can blame you for feeling desperate.

Sad part is that in a not-so-distant past, there was a place for men like us; the plain, average Joes who, while lacking in charisma and social graces, were at least competent and functional enough to follow orders and perform relatively simple tasks. We'd get a decent job, a home, and an average-looking, but dedicated wife to keep us company and warm our beds at night. Now look at us...



oh yes the 1940s-50s good times indeed. minus the missing tech.

maybe the tech is the problem...


yeah but I do love my tech. just installed a tb hdd in my ps4. and I'd go crazy for a while without my phone and tablet.

yeah... but I get the feeling my muse, and focus was better back in the days before i had fast internet.
maybe the tech is the problem...



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11 Feb 2015, 12:06 am

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if I remember right kraftiekortie had relationships/sex pre 27. don't know who professorjohn is.
Sex, yes. Relationships, not quite. I don't think flings with girls found on the subway count as proper relationships. Proffesorjohn didn't have relationships until he was older yet now he's married with a daughter.


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11 Feb 2015, 12:43 am

sly279 wrote:
you've been quite lucky and are more intelligent.
I've been quite lucky but I'm not sure about intelligent. My good luck has helped counter my unintelligent choises in life. One of my dumbest decisions was when I thought I'd try early retirement. I thought it would make me happy but it made me miserable. I get what I want but I don't always want things that are good for me.

The moral of the story is; be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.


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11 Feb 2015, 1:14 am

When I was 19, I got engaged to a girl. Lived with her at 20, broke up at 21. She didn't end up too good. Big mistake. I was too young.

Had my first lover at 17. She later became an artist. Was more into heavy metal then, though.

After 21 until about 28, had lots of flings. Starting at 28, had a few steady girlfriends. Got married at 34. No kids.



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11 Feb 2015, 2:10 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
if I remember right kraftiekortie had relationships/sex pre 27. don't know who professorjohn is.
Sex, yes. Relationships, not quite. I don't think flings with girls found on the subway count as proper relationships. Proffesorjohn didn't have relationships until he was older yet now he's married with a daughter.


It's experience which i lack and is held against me.

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sly279 wrote:
you've been quite lucky and are more intelligent.
I've been quite lucky but I'm not sure about intelligent. My good luck has helped counter my unintelligent choises in life. One of my dumbest decisions was when I thought I'd try early retirement. I thought it would make me happy but it made me miserable. I get what I want but I don't always want things that are good for me.

The moral of the story is; be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.


i have memory problems which limit me on what I can do. so anything requiring retention of 2-4 years of knowledge is out . I am having hard time remembering what I learned in 2 7 hour classes 3 months ago :(



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11 Feb 2015, 3:28 am

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When I was 19, I got engaged to a girl. Lived with her at 20, broke up at 21. She didn't end up too good. Big mistake. I was too young.

Had my first lover at 17. She later became an artist. Was more into heavy metal then, though.

After 21 until about 28, had lots of flings. Starting at 28, had a few steady girlfriends. Got married at 34. No kids.
I stand corrected.


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It's experience which i lack and is held against me.
That won't necessarily be held against you. I was lacking in experience but my gf says she knows about aspergers and she knows she's my first and she said she would show me patience and understanding. That goes to show that if you can find one of the nice ones she won't be worried about your lack of experience.
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last bit about the name sounds kinda creepy to me. and I get super clingy like that
Yeah, she kind of clingy. e.g. I found it a bit off-putting when she was saying my Temazepam sleeping pills are bad for me and she kept on trying to make me promise I would never take them again. In fact she's obsessed with my health. That really is kind of creepy 8O


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11 Feb 2015, 6:33 am

It's normal for a woman to be concerned about a man's health.

Call that the "nurturing" instinct.



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11 Feb 2015, 7:37 am

Yeah. That's what it must be. Just a little while ago she told me off through text when she found out I only ate a fun-sized chocolate bar for dinner. It was similar last night. She keeps saying I'm not eating enough.


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Yeah. That's what it must be. Just a little while ago she told me off through text when she found out I only ate a fun-sized chocolate bar for dinner. It was similar last night. She keeps saying I'm not eating enough.


I tell my boyfriend this as well. He is really skinny and for his health I encourage him to eat more.