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The_Face_of_Boo
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24 Jul 2015, 3:17 am
Outrider wrote:
@Sly: The majority of females I am attracted to are 'out of shape'. Some are slightly overweight medically.
Right now I am attracted to an average-sized woman but she admits that she does not exercise and eats unhealthily.
To say she is 'fit' or 'athletic' is a medical and scientific lie.
And no I don't think sir in my humble opinion that it's 'offensive' to consider her in these regards.
It's just true for me.
I am lean and average or possibly slightly fit teenage guy at my school. Low body fat and decent muscles. Most females I've been attracted to have just been out of shape. I'm always the more active, athletic one, etc. The females that are 'out-of-shape' are either slightly overweight, or if they are average sized then they don't exercise or eat healthy and are a bit sluggish. I've noticed I've always been attracted to slow walkers when I myself jog or even run to classes.
They have flaws but I like it.
Why is it such a bad thing to accept the facts?
Societies standards aren't always right but they are certainly a good guide line.
If we totally ignored societies standards none of us here would even have a 'disability' or diagnosis for Aspergers/Autism at all.
By societies standards we have poorer social development than the average person, and all the other symptoms of the disorder.
The fact is yes our Autistic Spectrum Disorders are an officially real medical condition with real existing problems and issues and to simply ignore it would mean we wouldn't have any support, we wouldn't have this website, etc.
By societies standards an overweight person has more body fat and more likely to succumb to multiple diseases than the average person, and all the other symptoms of the condition.
Just like being overweight or obese is an officially real medical condition with real existing problems and issues (overweight and obese people are more likely to have diabetes, heart disease, stroke, muscle and posture issues, etc.).
I think maybe we should try and shift the focus of this topic back onto the OP instead of continuing to argue about this whole 'mediocre' thing.
I'd like to agree to disagree with anyone who disagrees wth me.
Right now I am attracted to an average-sized woman but she admits that she does not exercise and eats unhealthily.
To say she is 'fit' or 'athletic' is a medical and scientific lie.
And no I don't think sir in my humble opinion that it's 'offensive' to consider her in these regards.
It's just true for me.
I am lean and average or possibly slightly fit teenage guy at my school. Low body fat and decent muscles. Most females I've been attracted to have just been out of shape. I'm always the more active, athletic one, etc. The females that are 'out-of-shape' are either slightly overweight, or if they are average sized then they don't exercise or eat healthy and are a bit sluggish. I've noticed I've always been attracted to slow walkers when I myself jog or even run to classes.
They have flaws but I like it.
Why is it such a bad thing to accept the facts?
Societies standards aren't always right but they are certainly a good guide line.
If we totally ignored societies standards none of us here would even have a 'disability' or diagnosis for Aspergers/Autism at all.
By societies standards we have poorer social development than the average person, and all the other symptoms of the disorder.
The fact is yes our Autistic Spectrum Disorders are an officially real medical condition with real existing problems and issues and to simply ignore it would mean we wouldn't have any support, we wouldn't have this website, etc.
By societies standards an overweight person has more body fat and more likely to succumb to multiple diseases than the average person, and all the other symptoms of the condition.
Just like being overweight or obese is an officially real medical condition with real existing problems and issues (overweight and obese people are more likely to have diabetes, heart disease, stroke, muscle and posture issues, etc.).
I think maybe we should try and shift the focus of this topic back onto the OP instead of continuing to argue about this whole 'mediocre' thing.
I'd like to agree to disagree with anyone who disagrees wth me.
athletic is a different body type. you can be overweight and be athletic or underweight and athletic. same with fit.
women who play larcross come to mind. just as men who hit the gym alot and build tons of muscle are overweight.
by society standards people with as are inferior and losers. but I don't think that's true I think plenty of aspies are great people.
see you can use aspergers as a bad thing or you can view it as good people who are differnt'
the word used int his thread would be like calling aspies ret*d. in fact it use to be ok and normal to do so. that is what this is.
if we go by that most the worlds population is overwieght but others a difference between overwieght and obese or they would just be one word not two words with different meanings.
what is good and what is not very good is up to each person to decide, he used the word that means not very good, so he doesn't see them as good. I would not want to be with a woman who sees me as a lessor man. I want to be with a woman who thinks I'm fantastic and the best thing to happen to her. women I would imagine want the same. to see them as lessor then other women sounds like one is just settling for what they can have instead of what they want and could love.
friend: so thats your boyfirend do you love him
her:oh him hes ok, not very good though.
boytfirend: not very good,
24 Jul 2015, 3:19 am
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24 Jul 2015, 3:39 am
sly279 wrote:
yes. provided we are compatible and I find them kinda attractive(face). I find most women have pretty faces.
So you are aware of the fact that their body is skinny, but still could value them for other things!
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I guess we'd just be limited to no cuddling have have to use lots of padding blankets.
Why no cuddling? And what did you mean about blankets?
sly279 wrote:
he used the word that means not very good, so he doesn't see them as good.
That is not correct because, as I and Outrider have explained a gogillion times, he uses that word to refer to their body, not to the person as a whole. To refer to these women he actually used the word "amazing".
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24 Jul 2015, 3:46 am
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Peacesells wrote:
sly279 wrote:
yes. provided we are compatible and I find them kinda attractive(face). I find most women have pretty faces.
So you are aware of the fact that their body is skinny, but still could value them for other things!
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I guess we'd just be limited to no cuddling have have to use lots of padding blankets.
Why no cuddling? And what did you mean about blankets?
sly279 wrote:
he used the word that means not very good, so he doesn't see them as good.
That is not correct because, as I and Outrider have explained a gogillion times, he uses that word to refer to their body, not to the person as a whole. To refer to these women he actually used the word "amazing".
I would and do not label them with a negative meaning word to describe their body. skinny is not a negative word it is in fact what many strive for.
have you ever cuddled a skinny woman? I'ved cuddled 3 women. more fat equal more comfy. the skinny one was not comfy and was complaining of pain from cuddling. I would assume its like fingers vs legs. or suppos funny bone . if you get hit where theres less fat it hurts more. well apparenlty when you have less fat body to body contact hurts some. while with a average ladies it was comfortable for both of us. the blanets would be for padding placed between us.
well most people live inside their bodies and view the bodies as them so insulting their bodies is the same as insulting them, ie like insulting their personality. . I hope they stumble on to this site when they trying to get help to be in a relationship with him then get upset by how hw called them. that's the point it hurts to be referred to as that. why can't other aspies see how this would hurt them if it happen tot hem and then see that it would hurt others and do onto others as you want done to you. golden rule and all that.
I know we supposedly lack empathy and perhaps some do more then others. but we always fighting to say we don't but this is a empathy case. you may not see it but word usage hurts peoples feelings. things have meanings its why you don't give a first date a red rose. but a pink rose.
you don't call someone you care about mediocre. people aren't things. you can call things mediocre.
this beer is meh
Beth is meh.
the beer won't care. Beth will be hurt.
I personaly don't even do it in private or with others. I never want to hurt people nor will I see people as not verry good.
going have to agree to disagree, you won't presuade me from this point I've been explained saying things can hurt people and one must be careful. I try my best. I was mearly pointing out as i think others did, that the women would be hurt if they read this.
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