Getting a girlfriend feels like an impossible task

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I'm not sure what you mean.

Homo, hetero, both???

Some time ago you said you're gay, if I remember it right.

I'm bi.

OK...
But are you absolutely sure this is for real and not just a phase? It seems many people are confused about their sexuality.

Well that's pretty offensive. I think I know myself better than you know me. I've known my sexuality for the past five years or so, and I've felt the same attractions toward males as I have toward females. How about your Asperger's? Is that just a phase? Will you get over it and be more social in time?

He just asked you, chill man.

Exactly.

Asking people if their sexuality is a phase is definitely rude and offensive. It's one thing to be confused about someone else's orientation, but it's another thing to invalidate them after they answer your question.

Plenty of people are confused about their orientation and there's nothing wrong with it, it happens. You people are acting as if being confused about one's orientation is a shameful thing.

No, the problem is that he acted skeptical about my own sexual orientation, as if he knows me better than I know myself. It comes across and condescending and unnecessary.

Why on Earth would he ask you if he thought that he knew better than yourself?

Dont overreact (and dont take offense on that either ) Literally everything is a phase, life is facetteous and whimsical.

As I understand it, sexuals do go through phases where what they find appealing does change and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. That being said, the initial quote she mentioned did sound fairly invalidating. It's the addition of "just" a phase that gives it that connotation.

Exactly. Even though people aren't always honest about this you pretty much need to take what they say about their sexuality at face value. If someone is a closet case, coming out is ultimately their prerogative whenever they feel ready(for example).

For some reason getting a boyfriend is just as hard and gay and bi men are by no means easier.

It's slightly easier to get attention from other males, as men take the initiative more often than women, but it makes little difference.

Many of the benefits of being Bisexual are lost because of our Asperger's.

For instance you'd think because it's two people of the same sex, you may be able to relate to them easier and understand them easier, but if you have Asperger's and find it hard to get along with or relate to BOTH sexes, than men are just as much alien to you as women...

I find it hard enough knowing how to have a heterosexual relationship 'the right way' and following all the social rules and stuff...

they usually say a relationship with the same sex is again easier because gender roles and such are taken out of the equation, but oddly enough when you really think about it there are probably just as many social rules and rules of etiquette regarding gay dating hidden under the surface of it all.

And don't even get me started on the Biphobia/discrimination from both gay people and straight people for your sexuality.

Maybe I should start asking straight people if they're going through a phase. I only ever hear people ask non-straight people if it's just a phase.