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03 Aug 2016, 3:10 pm

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I have seen many women who are spatially-efficient, and mechanically-inclined. I don't find this to be unusual, or necessarily a detriment to a woman's femininity.
Its not unusual or detrimental I agree, the notion that women need to be driven places is a stifling one I think, but there is that social expectation that he will drive.

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8O So I thought, yeah maybe we're gonna die.
lol, got to love that, bet you felt very alive afterwards lol.


Yes, now that you mention it, I noted it does have that effect. :lol:

But to be fair and give 'the rest of the story', she was then still new at driving and soon passed me in skill as she was more aggressive. She is better to this day.



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03 Aug 2016, 5:37 pm

Crap. Maybe I made a terrible mistake. Now I'm undatable :(

I was having money problems and I thought girls would rather date a guy without a big credit card debt.


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03 Aug 2016, 5:38 pm

What are you talking about? Did you actually sell the car?

Yes, girls would love a guy who doesn't have a large amount of credit card debt.



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03 Aug 2016, 6:19 pm

I already made arrangements to sell it. The running costs were too high. I didn't think girls would mind. Crap.

I guess I didn't really have any real prospects anyway so what difference does it make?

The last two girls I dated thought I just wanted to be friends and I don't know where to meet girls that isn't a dating site.


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03 Aug 2016, 10:13 pm

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This random guy wouldn't probably like your menacing tone, no matter his excuse. :mrgreen:

And that's probably why I'm single.



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04 Aug 2016, 1:21 am

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I already made arrangements to sell it. The running costs were too high. I didn't think girls would mind. Crap.

I guess I didn't really have any real prospects anyway so what difference does it make?

The last two girls I dated thought I just wanted to be friends and I don't know where to meet girls that isn't a dating site.


I have a car now - but I got my first late.

When there's a total absence it doesn't make a difference that's true, a car doesn't bring you prospects.

But once a prospect pops up (ie. clicking with someone on dating site) then it does matter.


I think it really matters a lot for the college days - sigh.



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04 Aug 2016, 3:32 am

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Wait... Drawyer, something tells me you have first hand experience of that.

I got it. You're Korean. You actually lived through that.
Yeah, I had lived through that. But in my case my two sisters were real life good models for me. I witnessed how hard they studied and how they eventually earned what they sowed. So I think I could accept harsh competition more naturally. I tried to do my best at that time as well. :D


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04 Aug 2016, 4:41 am

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When there's a total absence it doesn't make a difference that's true, a car doesn't bring you prospects.

But once a prospect pops up (ie. clicking with someone on dating site) then it does matter.
That makes sense. I have no prospects and I may not have prospects for a long time. The dating site thing isn't really working for me and I'm not sure how to go about meeting girls to date in real life.

If I was dating a girl I could easily borrow a car from one of my relatives but if I said the car was mine, I'd feel bad about lying so I don't want to do that.
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I think it really matters a lot for the college days - sigh.
The most important rule for getting girls at college is to attend college. At least you followed that rule :lol:


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04 Aug 2016, 4:43 am

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Wait... Drawyer, something tells me you have first hand experience of that.

I got it. You're Korean. You actually lived through that.
Yeah, I had lived through that. But in my case my two sisters were real life good models for me. I witnessed how hard they studied and how they eventually earned what they sowed. So I think I could accept harsh competition more naturally. I tried to do my best at that time as well. :D
Wow, I'm really impressed you could endure that. Kudos :D

That kind of thing inspires me to make better use of my time outside of work hours, instead of just browsing the web like I usually do.


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04 Aug 2016, 4:57 am

^ I think being realistic enough to make a good financial decision is more attractive than owning a car. Cars can be money pits, and accumulating debt for appearances sake would be a turn off for me.



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04 Aug 2016, 5:01 am

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I think being realistic enough to make a good financial decision is more attractive than owning a car. Cars can be money pits, and accumulating debt for appearances sake would be a turn off for me.
Yeah, the whole point of selling the car was so that I could pay the debt while not paying running costs on the car (also get some money from the sale). I'm a little embarrassed about having gotten into debt in the first place.


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04 Aug 2016, 5:10 am

Could you rent a car when needed? I know some people who fly home twice a month and rent a car for those weekends.
For them it's cheaper than owning one.



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04 Aug 2016, 6:52 am

^ I could rent a car, I could even borrow a car for free. Either way, I'd feel dishonest about telling a girl I owned it if I didn't. The best I could do would be to not mention cars and that wouldn't require me to bring a car in the first place, but even lying through omission of truth is still lying.

On most of the dates I've been on, I parked far away enough from the venue that my car couldn't be seen. If I arrived using public transport it would have the same effect, either way I'd have to walk to the restaurant or bar so car or no car, it wouldn't make any visible difference.

I might be able to buy the car back after 6 months or a year but I'm not sure I want to. It is a money pit. It's just sort of embarrassing not owning a car.


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04 Aug 2016, 7:01 am

Ever thought about leasing a car?



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04 Aug 2016, 7:29 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
^ I could rent a car, I could even borrow a car for free. Either way, I'd feel dishonest about telling a girl I owned it if I didn't. The best I could do would be to not mention cars and that wouldn't require me to bring a car in the first place, but even lying through omission of truth is still lying.

On most of the dates I've been on, I parked far away enough from the venue that my car couldn't be seen. If I arrived using public transport it would have the same effect, either way I'd have to walk to the restaurant or bar so car or no car, it wouldn't make any visible difference.

I might be able to buy the car back after 6 months or a year but I'm not sure I want to. It is a money pit. It's just sort of embarrassing not owning a car.

I didn't mean that you should pretend to own the rented car, but that as you mostly use public transport you had little use for your old car, it made more sense to rent a nice one when the occasion arose. I don't know, I'm just throwing ideas out there :)



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04 Aug 2016, 7:36 am

Amity wrote:
I didn't mean that you should pretend to own the rented car, but that as you mostly use public transport you had little use for your old car, it made more sense to rent a nice one when the occasion arose. I don't know, I'm just throwing ideas out there :)
Fair enough lol. I read to much into that hahaha. And you're right about me using public transport a lot, even when I have access to a car. It takes less time to get into the city by train than car. It doesn't make that much sense for me to own car car when I live a 5 minute walk from a train station.
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Ever thought about leasing a car?
Yes I did.

When my ex told me that she had leased cars, I thought about doing it as well. She said she did it because it was cheaper than buying a new car. When I asked about me doing it, she warned that I shouldn't because it costs more than buying a new car. It was then that I started suspecting my ex wasn't very smart.

I'll have to look into the costs myself.


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