How do some people get partners so easily?

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I had this conversation with psychologists about how people get partners easily and that. They believed that where the person is superficial and personally privileged like 'white, laid back' and that etc. It makes them influence decisions, women love guys who don't have intelligence. Hence they get domestic violence issues. This is a problem in Australia.

I wish the world is more intelligent than we thought so we won't have unsustainable relationship problems. Lots of innocent people like myself and other similar aspie guys who would love to have a girlfriend kept being overlooked because there are Type A personalities being dominant.

i've had this happen to me a lot and i can't stand it anymore, women will respond to my messages on online dating sites, engage me in conversation, but then when i ask them out on a date or ask their number, they don't respond anymore. Also, sometimes women do let me have their phone number, and they agree to go on a date with me but they end up flaking on me, ghosting on me, i can't stand it anymore. It bothers me a lot, because you would think if a woman was not interested in you, she would have ignored you in the first place, did that ever happen to you?

Yes. I've spoken to plenty of girls who engaged in conversation but when I asked them out, they said they didn't trust me or said it wasn't safe to meet strange men. Why then, were they on a dating site?

I've been ghosted a few times. One time I dated a girl and the day after she deleted me from her contacts. I had no other way of contacting her. The girlfriend I had for a few months said she wanted to remain friends after she dumped me. In the last few months she stopped responding to my texts.

I also got stood up by a girl. She claimed to be a teacher yet she seemed to be unable to sick to schedule. She stood me up about 4 times using excuses such as "I forgot" or "I didn't set my alarm and I'm still in bed" (she said this at noon).

When I complained about her standing me up she overeacted. She told me I was a rude obnoxious person for daring to complain about her standing me up.

I'm on the train and I can see the most perfect young couple making out in front me. The most gorgeous blond pashing a handsome young man.

Why is he with a girl like her? What did he do to get a girl that gorgeous. They both look to be about 20.

Now she's smiling, showing her perfect teeth and looking into his eyes.

Why him and not me? I know why. It's because I'm not as handsome as he is. It's because I'm not as fit as he is. It's because I'm not as charismatic as he is. It's because I'm not as young as he is. He's probably more educated than me. He doesn't have crooked teeth like me.

How can I blame them? It's not their fault. It's my fault. All my fault. I could have been s fit as him if only I'd exercised harder. I could have been more educated if only I'd studied harder. I could have been as young as them if only I'd started sooner. I could have started sooner if only I'd tried harder to to push through the social anxiety I had back then.

My fault. All my fault. I will never be a member of a perfect young couple like them. I may never be in. Young couple at all. Perhaps when I'm 40 I'll meet another 40 year old and we'll spend our few remaining decades together until senility takes us.

They're getting off the train now. I notice they get off in one of wealthiest suburbs in Adelaide. Very close to the beach. They're nearly home. As they walk down the platform he puts his arm around her narrow waist.

I mustn't say I want to be with a pretty blonde. Only a shallow chauvinist would say that. I mustn't say I want to be with a thin girl like her, only a misogynist troglodyte would say that. I mustn't say I'm more attracted to a 20 year old woman than a 40 year old woman, only a shallow prick would say that. I mustn't judge other people but I must accept their judgement of me.

ya, there are times over the years i hate being born male

Cry me a river.

From my experience, albeit limited, relationships are too much hard work to be worth the trouble. And coveting another person's partner has always felt wrong to me.

It's one of my hobbies but I think it hurts me more than it hurts them.

3 months, then we were close friends for month as we discussed getting back together. We did get back together. For a week. The whole process lasted from late January to early June.