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02 Jan 2017, 4:22 am

i'm sure there was lots of demand for IT 60 years ago, too.

you work on different things, clearly, but working towards advancements in technology is huge, and always has been.

are you an IT worker? what do you do?

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02 Jan 2017, 4:31 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:

i'm sure there was lots of demand for IT 60 years ago, too.

Not when there were only a few dozen computers in the world

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are you an IT worker?

Yes.

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what do you do?

I analyze software specifications and write test cases to confirm that all the changes have been properly implemented, then I record the results. If the results don't match spec I have to consider factors such as the spec writers intent and the possibility of user error before I raise a spec with the business analyst. In some cases the defect is with the spec itself, rather than the software.

At the moment I'm working on a Sharepoint database as a side project.

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02 Jan 2017, 4:34 am

It's unsurprising that traveling is so popular. People are lazy and traveling is the laziest hobby ever.

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02 Jan 2017, 4:55 am

^ how does someone come to that conclusion?

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02 Jan 2017, 5:11 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:

^ how does someone come to that conclusion?

Unlike most other hobbies, travelling does not require you to do any activity. Hotel deals with your living situation, restaurant deals with your meals, tour guide deals with any information you need to know. Any activity is optional.

Unlike, for example, jogging, where you need to do the action yourself.

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02 Jan 2017, 5:12 am

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The article was kind of cringeworthy tbh. She over exaggerates. I bet half of her relationships weren't even that bad.
She reminds me of those Buzzfeed people who act like something is waaay worse than it actually is.

But no, womens standards are no where near that high unless they're fussy like this woman clearly is. She was right on a few of the types of men you'll bump into as a woman, like as an example the man baby/mamas boy she was sort of accurate with but like exaggerated a little. Sometimes that isn't even a bad thing depending on the circumstances, but ofc if their mother is interfering in every aspect then it's a bit weird. She gives no detailed context in how they were bad to her because half of these guys could be on different levels of the groups she's put them into.

I think she was too brief in some of the points she made. If she'd have gone into proper detail of the men she had to deal with then it would make a lot more sense I think because she is generalizing a lot and teaching other women to do the same which is pretty horrible really.

I am not sure what her experience was wit those type of guys but I have noticed that people will make ridiculous standards when they have had a bad experience with someone who had that characteristic. Like someone didn't want to date anyone who is a musician because her ex was one and he would keep her up at night with his music and do it all the time and it would give her a headache and he would go "if you accept me and really care about my hobby, you will let me do it." I told her that was just an as*hole and nothing to do with being a musician and even other musicians chimed in trying to reassure her not all of them are that way and they rent a spot to practice their hobby so they are not disturbing anyone. I have seen people say how they will never date a gamer just because someone they were with only wanted to play games and ignored them and never did anything else so other people were telling her that was just a gaming addict.

Mine was I didn't want to date anyone who is always playing on their computer and doesn't have a job and doesn't drive because of my bad experience with one of my ex's but then I met my husband and changed my mind.

So they basically put people into categories or like labels of gamer/musician/whatever and then put a big naive stamp on it saying bad and then never bother with other people of those labels despite the fact they are completely different people? haha

I agree with you though, it seems to be the case with this girl that wrote the article.

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02 Jan 2017, 5:36 am

She sure does like putting people into categories. It's rather dehumanising.

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02 Jan 2017, 5:39 am

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This is why I love being waited on while I'm flying but hate going through airports.

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02 Jan 2017, 5:46 am

314pe wrote:

Kiprobalhato wrote:

^ how does someone come to that conclusion?

That's a naive way of viewing it. Not all travelling is like that. You have to carefully plan it and when you are there yoy have to make efforts to learn local culture and language. Especially as an aspie you have to be brave to go to new places and meet new people

I enjoy travelling but would never put someone down for not wanting to.

Also you could jog to the gate at the airport

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02 Jan 2017, 5:59 am

Alliekit wrote:

314pe wrote:

Kiprobalhato wrote:

^ how does someone come to that conclusion?

I didn't say traveling can't be active, but, unlike many other activities, it doesn't have to be active. You can always rely on someone else to make all the arrangements and you could find an interpreter to talk for you. But you can't pay someone to jog for you.

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02 Jan 2017, 6:28 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:

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if some of us lonely guys lived in 1950 we would have a wife and 2 kids.

things that are certain: worry of the current day being the last before earth is consumed in nuclear fire, education and living standards behind today's, possible social safety net not comparable to that seen today, lack of creature comforts taken for granted, risk of polio, risk of smallpox

things that are not certain: any one of today's modern loners having a wife and two kids

be careful of which you desire.

In the 1950s I could worked in a repetitive factory job making good money, which would attracted women a,one with my kind personality. My granpa was an aspie. He got a wife and 4 kids. I doubt he would have today. He was able to serv in the military. Aspies can't serve today. Repetitive factory jobs don't exist anymore. Life would been a lot better for me then.

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02 Jan 2017, 6:38 am

The risk of polio and smallpox only occurs if the anti-vaxxers have their way.

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02 Jan 2017, 6:40 am

RetroGamer's job is cool. He just thinks about the past too much. So what if you didn't date at 18 or whatever.

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02 Jan 2017, 6:40 am

Go study some physics and invent a time machine.

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02 Jan 2017, 6:42 am

I wouldn't give up my computer just for being in a relationship. I'll admit I moan a lot about them on this site, but be fair, I don't really have anything of interest to discuss here.

You can have your 1950's wives. I'll keep my 2000's computer.

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02 Jan 2017, 7:16 am

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Just look at what you're missing out on :lol:

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