Why does getting a girlfriend have to be so complicated?

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hurtloam
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13 Jan 2017, 4:54 pm

Outrider wrote:
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So much reading. Why have none of you girls clued him in on how to read subtle hints from women, that a lot of time are not so subtle? For example, let's say this dude's name is Brian and there is this girl in his college class, lets say, June. June doesn't ask Brian out, but she smiles at him when he comes to class everyday. She tells him hi and asks how he's doing. She plays with her hair and looks him up and down. Men are expect to initiate the dates, but women; women are really the ones that initiate most of the time. Women are just so damn subtle.


Doesn't help that one woman's flirting is another's 'just being friendly'.

So there's really no point trying to give that sort of advice.

My first girlfriend gave me no signs I could discern whatsoever, my second? Well, we kind of had what you may as well call a 'semi-blind date' as we only met each other very briefly before I suggested to our friend to get me a date from her.


Yeah, this is really difficult for both sides to decipher. I think that those who have success are just thick skinned. They see what they want and they go for it. (Although that only helps if you're not too weird, sorry, but it's true. I say this as a weird person who has always been rejected).

There is no point giving that advice. One person's flirting is another person's friendly.

Even then some people put out signals just for attention and when you ask them out they deny they did anything to encourage you.

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14 Jan 2017, 1:41 am

white_as_snow wrote:
becuase females have very high standards.

according to females, guys most be:

tall
strong
tough
social skills
hitting the gym
many friends
good job
good life-cv
not virgin
good in bed
big p***s
not feminine
good looking
perfect haircut
good looking clothes
a car


good luck! i gave up when i was 14.
I have most of the qualities. Why am I still single?

I was talking to this girl on Facebook who said she was really surprised I'm not great with girls. She thought I'd be a ladies man. I'd ask her out except that she lives in Florida.


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14 Jan 2017, 1:43 am

hurtloam wrote:
Outrider wrote:
Hexen wrote:
So much reading. Why have none of you girls clued him in on how to read subtle hints from women, that a lot of time are not so subtle? For example, let's say this dude's name is Brian and there is this girl in his college class, lets say, June. June doesn't ask Brian out, but she smiles at him when he comes to class everyday. She tells him hi and asks how he's doing. She plays with her hair and looks him up and down. Men are expect to initiate the dates, but women; women are really the ones that initiate most of the time. Women are just so damn subtle.
Doesn't help that one woman's flirting is another's 'just being friendly'.

So there's really no point trying to give that sort of advice.

My first girlfriend gave me no signs I could discern whatsoever, my second? Well, we kind of had what you may as well call a 'semi-blind date' as we only met each other very briefly before I suggested to our friend to get me a date from her.
Yeah, this is really difficult for both sides to decipher. I think that those who have success are just thick skinned. They see what they want and they go for it. (Although that only helps if you're not too weird, sorry, but it's true. I say this as a weird person who has always been rejected).

There is no point giving that advice. One person's flirting is another person's friendly.

Even then some people put out signals just for attention and when you ask them out they deny they did anything to encourage you.

https://www.instagram.com/p/BPKw_pcjvnC ... llmcphail4
True but I think if I'm thick skinned and just go for it people will think I'm creepy. It's 2017. It's now immoral to be a creepy guy.


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