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Ah, I see, goss is gossip. This isn't really gossip, is it? It's a first-person story from Richard. Now, if we were talking about Richard in another forum, it might gossip. But we aren't. So it's relating.
And these relationships tend to run in patterns. Chase, catch, blah blah blah. If it's too easy, the person isn't worthwhile. There's something weird about this chase and catch game that I never got, because it requires dishonesty. I don't play that game.
We started talking about some things in the Adult forum, mentioning specific body types. I already know, from personal experience, from seeing others both regular friends and celebrities that people can change.
Weight can go up or down. In fact, everything on a driver's license can be altered. We can change our hair color, style, length, with dyes, bleaches, wigs, extensions. We can change our eye color with contacts.
We can change our appearance of height to a certain degree via high heels, boots, lifts, etc.
We can change our weight, up or down. We can add muscle and reduce fat or visa versa. With weight change, either way, our body appearance and even our face changes.
We can change our name, our address, and even our sex.
I know that I can appear like a homely homeless hag. Or a glamorous babe. It all depends on what I choose to do. And there were so many joys (the spiteful kind) that I had when I "transformed" into that attractive person. People that hadn't seen me in years didn't even recognize me.
Like a girl I used to ride bikes to school with every day in high school. Her jaw hit the floor. She still looked the same to me. Pretty much. My change was more dramatic.
No surgical enhancements.
Secondly, I'm smart enough to know that there are many causes of being a certain weight. There's set-point theory that is related to genetics. There's hormonal/metabolic problems, like thyroid. There are psychological problems, like hiding under fat to be protected, like when one has been abused. Oh, and there's really good food in the world, that is fattening, and many people LOVE to eat good foods. Lots of good foods. And have a cultural thing about eating lots of foods. "Eat, eat, you should eat more, you're getting too skinny."
One can look at Oprah or Anna Nicole Smith or Kirstie Alley to see different sizes on the same person.
On one Oprah show, there was a husband who told his wife that she better lose weight or he would divorce her. As he was totally turned off by her appearance, her weight.
She did lose weight. He fawned all over her, practically pawing at her. She was totally turned off by his attentions, his attraction to ONLY her physical appearance. She said that she was still the same person inside. And that he did not want her when she was fat. So didn't want him anymore, now that she was thinner, because he was so shallow.
People, you are a second away from a disability. I turned and twisted on my balcony 7 years ago, and my back hasn't been the same since. I am in constant pain. The last 4-5 days have been SO BAD, I have slept most of that time. The ONLY time I get relief is when I am asleep. Pain is exhausting.
No, I can't do the aerobics and free weights that had me in babe-shape. Without using up calories, the weight goes on. It doesn't matter what is eaten, if the calories are in excess of what is used, they are stored.
My goal is pain management, and being able to get in better physical shape (again).
Every single person here could become disabled, either temporarily or permanently via illness, accident, injury. And you will lose muscle and gain weight.
I do find it distressing to see a weight-bias. Since it can happen to any one of you.
30 May 2007, 6:56 pm
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