Men Without Bachelor's Degree Not Marriage Material

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Story time, then I have homework to do.

Some of you (I won't say who) keep talking about a house husband. I believe I have talked about my ex-friend Julia before - she has a house husband. It's not all it's cracked up to be (for her). She is able to be the breadwinner since she is an LPN, but she doesn't make enough because she has to work usually 6 out of 7 days a week. She also decided that they had to get married because she is religious, but mainly because she got pregnant by mistake. Her "house husband" is a slacker in that area too. He had a job, but after moving here to Kansas from the East coast, he just never got another job after that. It's going on 5 years now? I quit asking her if he found a job yet because I know the answer will be no. You'd think that he could do all of the housework if she is working 6 days a week 12 hours a day, but no. When I used to talk to her, SHE was the one doing the dishes and the vacuuming and the mowing of the lawn - even put up the Christmas tree (by herself). She even told me that she almost had to go to the hospital after she was mowing the lawn because it was so hot she almost passed out. WTF. Where was her househusband? Chained to the MF bed?! She even couldn't rely on him to take THEIR kid to preschool. She ended up doing it after she got off of work. Over time, she stopped talking about how wonderful he was and you could tell there was some real resentment building up. She even tried ultimatums, but those never worked because she would always back down.

I would have no trouble supporting a "house husband", but I would rather have an equal. Thank you very much.

My housewife had no trouble mowing our yard with a riding lawnmower. You just need to buy the right tools for the job.

Housewife=a housekeeper you shag lol
Househusband=I'm afraid to live on my own so I'd rather settle and put up with sh***y treatment and being taken advantage of.
No offence intended to anyone.

I've lived in several households where both spouses work, and then one comes home and does almost all of the housework, childcare, meal prep, and so on. It doesn't tend to be the woman who would rather play video games or watch tv. Just sayin'. It may not make rational economic sense to want to be the woman in a household where both spouses work, since the other jobs may not get split up so that the benefits exceed the cost.

On the other hand, I read about some quality research which showed that women find men less sexy when the men actually do chores. So if you start to do more chores, guys, pay attention to the reaction. Some chores may enhance your sex appeal, like working with knives and fire or putting a mirror shine on shoes, while others may diminish it. I don't know which. Sewing, maybe? Some women probably find that sexy, though, so I'll just say take it on a case by case basis.

My observations agree with the observations made by the author of the article. I've observed that middle class people are more likely to be married.

This could be for a number of reasons

1. Middle class people may have more initiative to go out there and date. The same initiative that enabled them to get a degree and a high paying job may also compel to date.

2.Middle class people are less likely to have less anxiety. I'm not saying all poor people have anxiety but if you have to much social anxiety (or other forms of anxiety) to complete college and/or get a high paying job, you won't be in the middle class.

3. Middle class people are more likely to have grown up with both their parents. My single mum didn't give good dating advice because she never courted, she was courted, she always took a passive role in dating. I saw my dad on occasion but his drunken misogynistic advice didn't help. Middle class people are more likely to have a father who is both living with the and not an alcoholic. Advice from a good father figure can be helpful for figuring out dating.

4. A lot of middle class people actually met their partner at college. It's a big place with thousands of sociable young women. Sounds like a good place to meet your future wife. Someone who didn't go to college had less opportunity to be around thousands of young women. Working class men might work in a blue collar job that doesn't have many women in it.

5. Working class people can afford the wedding. I've known a fair few poor people who had long term relationships with kids and didn't get married. Are they living in sin? No. But with weddings costing $30,000 (according to cracked) and an engagement ring costing six months of a middle class man's salary before tax (according to De Beers) they just can't afford it.

(It never ceases to confuse me how middle class people tell me about the virtues of saving and being frugal and they blow it all on a wedding, a honeymoon and a diamond ring).

Oh please, I dated a guy who supposedly had 4 years of collage and that dude was hardly marriage material ... Yea I know the deal, even my mom told me I should marry for money over love. My dad said the same thing, its all about money.

I don't like doing housework. But I do help my wife. She gets mighty testy, though. She works as a nurse.

It's not fair for a woman to work outside the home, and have to do housework, too. I agree with that.

That's why when I marry next, I wouldn't mind having a woman who doesn't want to work, and doesn't mind housework.