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Wants him to be able to tske her out to eat.
I’m employed. I’m not s freeloader. Why do you people all think low payed workers are free loads just like unemployed men? Why? Cause you snobs who enjoy looking down your nose at someone? That’s why min wage employees hate middle class, that snobby attitude. It’s quite simple. If a girl wants to go do something I can’t afford she can go do it with her friends, if I wanted to go do something she couldn’t budget for I’d go do it with my friends. Why is that so flip hard.

You’re one of the few non driven women it seems. It appears most women are super ambitious while most men aren’t anymore. Worlds doomed.

Well I’m apparently stupid. I know a lot more about guns then my gun friends, and a ton more then most people, who to me seem ignorant but I suppose people would say they are stupid or lack intelligence for not understanding one subject. A lot of scientists are stupid then as they don’t understand guns, likewise politicians. I also know a lot about shaving , history, video games.
But no I never had the skill set for science, adhd and such makes that hard for me. Since science is remembering slot of random facts and long numbers. I get distracted. I enjoy learning about all kinds of stuff. I’m terrible at book reading it does r keep my anttention, science requires lots and lots of book reading then remembering all you read in those books years to come.

Gun people call a lot of “intelligent” people idiots lol cause you call a heat shield the shoulder thing that goes up and down, don’t understand how a simi auto firearm functions, don’t understand gun laws as they are, etc. and to them such people don’t seem intelligent.

But good to know I’m stupid no?

Sly279 - There is nothing wrong with having a modest house, one car, etc. The real problem is that we live in a culture that pushes success in life with having more and better things, not on what you do to get there. I live in a very small studio apartment to keep expenses down so that I can pay more towards my college loans. My apartment building charges $150/month just to be able to park a car here, so no car for me. I walk to work everyday instead of paying for parking. I get made fun of by my neighbors when I shop at thrift stores. They buy almost the same things at name-brand stores. I see no point spending money extravagantly for the same items just to play a "I am better than the Jones" game.

I have to be careful when I get introduced to people because of the misconception others have about doctors being "rich". Not all doctors are wealthy, especially those like me in higher education. I have had to explain this to others countless times, but many do not understand it. They look down on me because I did not become a medical doctor for the big paycheck. Unfortunately in our society, too much is put on earning large amounts of money and too little is put on what we can do for others.

I do however own a few classic vehicles that I have put into storage out of state. They are an insurance policy that I developed if the world goes to the trashcan. Always have a plan ready just in case the $*^# hits the fan. No one can fault you for that.

This is the point of contention between aspie men and aspie women,
I talk about women and you women see that description of gold digging. So you call women gold diggers.
I beg anyone to find a time where I’ve called women gold diggers? I never have. Never meet a gold digger. Since they go after rich people mostly. The women in my area are simply superficial and shallow. You are the one who sees them as gold diggers not me.
I see the world how it isl if a person says and does ___ I tske that as it is. Simple as that. I don’t make these women up, and I don’t make up what they say. They say what they feel freely and gladly. I simpread it then tell you all here. I’m just reporting reality that is all. If you want to see them as gold diggers that’s your choice.
I see them as the result of 20 years of society programming. Society needs people to buy buy buy. Or those Corp rich cats won’t make more money to sit in a bank account. How would corporations and the rich do if most people lived simple lives?

See there you ago again. I never said they only care about a mans job, car, looks and home. I don’t have any idea where you get that. Would most women date a guy who has all that but have nothing in common and doesn’t like his personality, no. But would they date a guy who has none of that but everything in common and love his personality, equally no, you’ve even admired they won’t date guys who don’t makemenoug or lacks a car.
No amount of personality will mean s**t to most women if the guys a loser. Especially if they won’t even talk to said guys in the first place to ever see their personality.

Women want the whole package. For most not just one of those things will make them date a guy, it’s the whole package that is required. But you put words in my mouth that I think women would date a guy based solely on his income, car and him and not care about personality or interests or looks, which I’ve never said that. Please stop doing that.

It’s all drivin by corporations and the rich. They need to sell sell sell to keep making money even though they have enough money for 1,000lifetimes overs.
Everyone has a smartphone that wants one now, smart phone sales are therefore dropping, so they pushing the upgrade yearly thing to push sales.
People buy new phones every year even though their current phone works fine, they buy new cars bi yearly though their car is fine but look the new model with slightly diff body design.

Anyways the problem is it seems most women don’t want a modest lifestyle I can’t afford trips to Europe every 3 months. I can’t sfford to eat out for $50-100 every day or week. I can’t afford s car, I can’t afford new electronics every year when my current ones work fine, my tv is a 2012 model 1080p. It’s not 4K it’s not curved it’s not 3D. It works fine and looks great to me. But most people would throw it out to dump and get s new 2,000 dollar 4K tv. Then they’d upgrade and pay more for 4K cable and services. All to be tops of the line to brag about it. I only got this tv because the PS4 wouldn’t work with my 20 year old standard definition tv or I’d still be using it.

I’m not a mooch b cause I can’t afford to travel to Europe, can’t afford a car, or can’t afford expensive things. But people here and pretty much most women it seems call me a mooch because I can’t afford such things. I don’t desire such things. If s woman does why can’t she pay for them?
I’ll buy my food from A grocery store and make it st home like I’ve been doing and she can go spend $50 on a meal every night.

Why aren’t there any modest lifestyle women?

Because ambition is solely defined as climbing the career ladder. It’s only applied to careers now. That’s it. When someone says have ambition they always talking about work.
The route reason women want a career ambitious man is income,,ie money. So they can do extravagant things and buy expensive things they don’t need and twill throw away in year to buy new expensive things. Yay disposable capitalism won out.

It’s quite often express such non ambitious men wouldn’t be able to tske them on trips to Europe, Asia or Hawaii, take them out weekly or daily to eat out. Why do women desire these?

I honest feelmcommon sense living is dead and me and yiunoutrider are some of the last of an extinct human sub species who lived frugally and modestly. Humans use to be fine living in one area and never leaving it their whole lives. Generations would never leave it. They’d all live, and die in the same are never seeing anything outside that area. They had modest houses, modest pocessions and love each other. What happen to those people why did they all die out

Cause thy openly say I’m not a real man and inadequate.

Because im hideous.

Never had s woman be like oh you work retail that’s great must be a fantastic job to have.
Now they say what a loser that’s a job for teenagers getting job experience. Or just say it’s not a real job

Where does she say that? I've read that thing over and over again and just can't see it. Are you reading between the lines or is the problem my limited understanding of English? Am I perhaps misunderstanding the "Message me with a picture and your favorite food in the subject line and I will get back to you." -part? I thought it means she wants to know the man's favorite food, but is that not what she's saying?

I didn't say you were a freeloader, just that she mentioned a man's income because she wouldn't want someone who had a higher chance of becoming one. Also, you say "Why do you people all think low payed workers are free loads just like unemployed men?" What makes you think all unemployed men are freeloaders? Some could be stay at home dads too you know or just do all the housework while the wife pays the bills. I wouldn't call someone who does all the housework a freeloader, especially if they have kids and a big house. Also, while many unemployed people do live with society's money and so could be considered freeloaders, very big part of them aren't like that out of their own free will. Sure some are, but not all of them. Instead they actively look for jobs and do free training to companies so that they could have a bigger chance at getting an actual job and that their resume would look better.

Were you talking about me when you were talking about middle class snobs? If so, then I have news for you: when it comes to income, you're currently better off than I am. I'm unemployed, you know.



Nothing hard about that; in fact it makes sense. The problems come if you want completely different things from life than your partner.

The girl wants somebody who has some sort of income so that she won't feel compelled to support him.

She wants somebody who understands that sex is not the "be-all, end all." She doesn't want to jump in the sack right away.

She wants somebody who is drug/disease free.

She wants an older man than herself; perhaps she's looking for an "older brother/father" sort of guy. It's actually fairly common for a younger woman to want an older man.

She wants a tall man.

Nobody would think a 29-year-old is a pervert if he takes up with this 20-year-old person.

She doesn't sound too bad at all, in essence. I wouldn't be a "candidate"---because I'm her height, and I'm older than 41.

Sly is 29, and he's 6 foot 3. And he does have an "income." And he doesn't mind not jumping in the sack right away.
He fits in more than I do.

Near the end
“A guy who can take me to dinner no big deal”

You might not but other women do. They see any man not working for good money as a free loader. Even if said man left his job so the wife could move to another state for her job. There’s very few house husbands. Also I don’t but quite a few women here think so and clearly a lot of women in general think so. Whenever I vent or talk about this people always act like I’m a freeloader or a.p mooch , it’s why I won’t ever tske rides or accept gifts from women cause I don’t want them to resent me and think I’m a mooch.

I live off government aid. I can’t work full time and my part time job wouldn’t cover everything. I use to solely be in government aid I worked hard for years to find s job and this is the best I can get. Working retail at a store. I just hate that people here keep accusing me of wanting to or being a mooch

I’ll finish in the bus.

No that was directed at middle class snobs. Who look down on less paid people as nothing but mooches and freeloaders. More so at guys less so at women. I hardly see women call moochers or freeloders when they have their husband or bf pay for all their meals and clothing and vacations.

The second girl? My first post is two different women’s ads. I met some of the 2nd girls requirements but not the income and car requirements. Not to mention I’m hideous.

I don’t meet either of their requirements though. I’m not a real man after all.
I dont know if I’d ever jump in the sack if that means sex.

Her wanting someone drug and disease free tells me she’ll want sex rather quickly otherwise such discussions usually left til later. Only ever seen that on ads seeking sex.

Also she’s only 20 and says big but she’s probably average or thin in reality.

Best post ever.

That’s awesome. I’d love to meet you in a pub.

Missed that bit. She could mean she doesn’t want to cover his meal when his card gets declined, that’s happened to me. Seems a bit of a stupid thing to put in there though.

Except for the men to women ratio thing. Lopsided? It's lopsided on both sides. I am not a fan of online dating. I see online dating as a game more so than a way of having a serious relationship... Which is debatable, but in my opinion on the gray area, I don't do online dating.