How can I tell my girlfriend she is fat?

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^ She never gives up.

If she's NT then she absolutely will not fail to notice the drop in male attention.
So she already knows she's fat.
You will find yourself not paying so much attention to her as well.
And she will notice that also.
So there's really no point in trying to tell her she's fat.
She already knows what she needs to do.
If she doesn't do it then find someone else.
And if it really bothers you that much then this time find some thin girl that isn't likely to become fat as she ages.
For example, an A cup might not have much in that department but she's pretty much guaranteed to never get fat.

My ex put on a lot of weight and I didn't care because it was not my way.

Betrayal was the deal breaker for us.

I cannot comment about losing height as nobody cut off his legs - becoming shorter has never happened to any of my love interests.

So you are totally incapable to imagine the situation hypothetically and how would you feel about it?

I am not very tall either (5' 2") so everyone seems to be taller than me.
It is not something I pay much attention to.
Some of my ex bf have been short - I think. Or shorter than a lot of other men.
I did not pay attention as I was too busy enjoying the relationship and being with them.
But none of them 'became shorter' and if they did then I would not be put off.

If a girlfriend or wife happens to gain weight, I wouldn't, all of a sudden, seek to end it for that reason; that would be ridiculous. I certainly wouldn't tell her that she's "getting fat." I think she knows that for herself.

I'm 5 foot 4 3/4, 164.5 centimetres. I'm pretty short, and have been a bit tubby for most of my life (even though I ran 3 marathons in the 1990s). I've had women turn me down for my height----but many others weren't really concerned about it. I have found that people believe I'm at least 5 foot 7 when I stand up straight.

Is there a reason she is over eating? Is she stressed out? Maybe you guys can be more active together and buy less junk food and suggest you both eat less to save on groceries to save money and eat smaller portions together.

And just be honest with her, "Honey, I notice you have been putting on weight and I am starting to feel less attracted to you because I am not turned on by excessive body fat. I am worried you will put too much on you won't be able to do as much stuff together because of all that body fat." And if she dumps you, she does. You can't change her and only she can. There is no polite way of telling someone they are fat.

Everyone gets shorter as they get older but they don't get that much shorter. My grandfather shrunk like two inches.

Shows like My 600 Pound Life would be a reason for me to leave because that would be a deal breaker. I just don't understand how anyone can let themselves get so big and how can family members or their partners enable it by giving them food every time they want it and giving them such huge portions. If my husband was too big to move up the stairs or to get himself some food, I wouldn't feed him anytime he wanted and I would only feed him what I eat so he can lose the weight. If someone can't control their eating and even let me help them, I would be gone because I would not want that lifestyle because they are too selfish to not eat so much and not care about my anxiety or our bills and money because of how much it costs for groceries and how their weight would impact me and the kids. I am happy those people in the show do seek help and finally make the effort to lose the weight. Those TV shows make me not want to eat so much and the lower numbers on the scale make me want to eat more so that is how my weight is maintained.

One way to pressure a GF is to significantly raise your value on the dating scene.

This does not mean a guy should diet or work out. That won't help much. Instead, getting a job that pays substantially more income is the sort of stuff that really impresses most women. There are plenty of women who would love to quit their jobs to become stay at home soccer moms living in a single family three or four bedroom home in a nice neighborhood with a good school system.

That is such rubbish what sort of person would choose not to work? Female or male. All they would have is their husband’s merits to live off how boring sooooo boring.

Woman “when are u coming home?”
Man “I’m working”
Woman “but when are u coming home!”
Man clenches fits goes a slow purple red colour “I’m working, you know what puts food on the table”
Woman “fine”, sulks, “why don’t u love me?”
Man “I’m working, I’m f’ing working u stupid bztch”
Woman “why are u getting so mad”
Man “I’m working, I’m working, I’m working (hear the table getting hit with the fist)
Woman “fine!! !!”
Hangs up. Man takes 20 mins to get back to what he was working on, which would have only taken 5 more minutes to do.
Woman googles why husband doesn’t love her for 3 days
So yes get a soccer mon

^ Check Catherine Hakim’s studies.

I shall read and come back

Yes it's boring but some people don't want to work. I've spoken to girls who said they wanted a man to support them. I'm not saying they're in the majority.

Work can be pretty boring too. Work can be hard and stressful. There are certainly people who would choose not to work, both male and female.

Personally I choose to work not because I think it's fun but because I like the challenge and because unemployment used to kill my self-esteem.


I know single income couples but I've never heard a conversation like that! That sounds like a ridiculous scenario. Obviously the woman would understand why her partner won't be at home from nine to five.

How about you don't...

If you can see past her weight, this relationship is not lasting.

Sydney has a lot of pressure atm I don’t know anyone working 9-5 maybe 8-7 but add an hr commute it’s bad here