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31 Jul 2018, 11:20 am

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I am sorry, must be different in the US, but in Europe men do touch women they fancy (not talking about harrassment!)
Is it a problem when a man is "domineering"? I mean men are supposed to be the leaders aren't they?
If a woman likes you,. touch is fine, if she doesn't like you...you can do anything she will not like you.


So the deal is, "Touch me. If I don't like you, you'll be declared a sex offender and go to jail. If I do, you can enjoy your relationship with me for the time being, but you'd better pray I don't change my mind later and send you to jail anyway", isn't it?


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31 Jul 2018, 11:22 am

The safest approach is to let the woman touches you first.



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31 Jul 2018, 12:07 pm

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Expect to spend at least $50 for two in a steak place.

Ehhh, was thinking about that but preferred to shut up. Maybe he should write in his profile no steak houses until at least the sixth date. :lol:



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31 Jul 2018, 12:39 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The safest approach is to let the woman touches you first.


No doubt about that. But it seems many won't touch you; they'll ditch you and find a man who does take the risk.


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31 Jul 2018, 1:09 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Expect to spend at least $50 for two in a steak place.

Not a bad date, though.


Wednesday special is $11 for 8oz and two sides. So not terrible and she doesn’t seem to like soda.



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31 Jul 2018, 2:06 pm

sly279 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Expect to spend at least $50 for two in a steak place.

Not a bad date, though.


Wednesday special is $11 for 8oz and two sides. So not terrible and she doesn’t seem to like soda.
That's good because drinks can really add up sometimes costing more than the meal.


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01 Aug 2018, 1:38 am

Peacesells wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Expect to spend at least $50 for two in a steak place.

Ehhh, was thinking about that but preferred to shut up. Maybe he should write in his profile no steak houses until at least the sixth date. :lol:


$50 for two is very cheap for a steak place. And also what about the red wine.



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01 Aug 2018, 1:53 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Expect to spend at least $50 for two in a steak place.

Ehhh, was thinking about that but preferred to shut up. Maybe he should write in his profile no steak houses until at least the sixth date. :lol:


$50 for two is very cheap for a steak place. And also what about the red wine.


I hope she doesn’t drink, she goes with her friends though.

My favorite steak place is $17 for a meal.



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01 Aug 2018, 2:30 am

Spiderpig wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The safest approach is to let the woman touches you first.


No doubt about that. But it seems many won't touch you; they'll ditch you and find a man who does take the risk.


Sexting before meeting the potential date destroys all these rules that Cannibal talked about, it makes things go faster physically - with zero risk. All of these did touch me (hands, thighs, shoulder) on the very first date when that happened. But with no-prior-sexting dates, things went slowly and to nowhere.



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01 Aug 2018, 2:52 am

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I hope she doesn’t drink, she goes with her friends though.

What do you mean?



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01 Aug 2018, 6:21 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Sexting before meeting the potential date destroys all these rules that Cannibal talked about, it makes things go faster physically - with zero risk. All of these did touch me (hands, thighs, shoulder) on the very first date when that happened. But with no-prior-sexting dates, things went slowly and to nowhere.


Interesting. My closest experience was getting sort of affectionate with a few women on a webchat, back in the mid aughts. I liberally used hugging and similar emotes on them, and sometimes they responded in kind. Only when I met them in person did I realize I'd never dare initiate any kind of physical contact with them. At most, I exchanged with them those duty kisses on the cheek and hugs where they put their hands on your sholders to keep you from getting any closer. Of course, I didn't go out with them one on one; it was a group meeting.

It took a while for me to come to terms with the radical difference between men and women when it comes to physical contact with each other: by default, the man desires it, while the woman is disgusted by it and would rather be left the hell alone.


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01 Aug 2018, 9:15 am

She'll probably want one of those daiquiri-type things.



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01 Aug 2018, 12:51 pm

Peacesells wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I hope she doesn’t drink, she goes with her friends though.

What do you mean?

She like most people goes to bars and pretakes in drinking alcohol



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01 Aug 2018, 12:58 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Spiderpig wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The safest approach is to let the woman touches you first.


No doubt about that. But it seems many won't touch you; they'll ditch you and find a man who does take the risk.


Sexting before meeting the potential date destroys all these rules that Cannibal talked about, it makes things go faster physically - with zero risk. All of these did touch me (hands, thighs, shoulder) on the very first date when that happened. But with no-prior-sexting dates, things went slowly and to nowhere.

Are you saying without sexting it won’t work out?
We haven’t talked about anything remotely about sex. I’ve avoided any such discussions



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01 Aug 2018, 2:34 pm

sly279 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Spiderpig wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
The safest approach is to let the woman touches you first.


No doubt about that. But it seems many won't touch you; they'll ditch you and find a man who does take the risk.


Sexting before meeting the potential date destroys all these rules that Cannibal talked about, it makes things go faster physically - with zero risk. All of these did touch me (hands, thighs, shoulder) on the very first date when that happened. But with no-prior-sexting dates, things went slowly and to nowhere.

Are you saying without sexting it won’t work out?
We haven’t talked about anything remotely about sex. I’ve avoided any such discussions


For me at least it never worked if no sexting before the 1st date, no 2nd date at all in the without scenario, I know I know...it's extremely freaking weird.

I think sexting already creates this 'chemistry' thing that a lot of women talk about - and when I meet them and I look what they fantasized about, the "chemistry" goes on. Also the sexting in prior scenario makes them see my naughty side, while in the without sexting cases I am probably just another normal below average guy, sexually invisible to them, nothing triggers their sexual thoughts.

I strongly believe, that 'chemistry' they talk about is the sexual sensation/thoughts or mental fantasy (for some fractions of moments at least) during the date. If the whole date period passes and nothing triggered that sensation or these thoughts then they would feel that there was no 'chemistry', and hence no second date.

I think aliens should abduct me and study my weird case. :mrgreen:



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01 Aug 2018, 3:02 pm

I'd think that when you're sexually invisible to a woman, it's not that she believes you don't have a "naughty side", but that she doesn't care, because you're not up to snuff.


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