Dr. Romie: more than half of married women have a backup man

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Yeah, in the essence that's the whole point of the diamond rings and big weddings.

Make her pay at least half of it and if she doesn't want to dump her as it should be. Case closed.

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Real story: A former coworker once told me "sigh, finally i paid the last installment of the wedding loan". She had twin kids who were already in elementary school, and no, they weren't born before her marriage.

Having someone in mind who you already had a relationship with, platonic or otherwise, and keeping in touch with them is different than initiating and cultivating a relationship while you are married for the sole purpose of a backup plan.

that's the closest description of hell if i ever saw one. now add some Croatian folk music throbbing your ears, and there it is, the ninth circle of hell.

If you try to make her pay at least half of it, I'd expect her to dump your ass before you even finish the sentence. Remember: if you don't want to pay it in full and more, some other suitor will.

And why should I care? He can have her.

The thing is, no one is forcing the guy to marry a woman who is selfish and self-centered. He is perfectly capable of choosing to not participate at any time. If anything he's more at fault for not opening his eyes and being aware of the incredibly poor choice in mate he has made.

I think you're making more "generalizations" (read, outright insults) about the vast majority of women who ever lived than any man on these forums.

Oh, because you don't get to dump her.

These petty "I dumped him, he didn't dump me!" arguments are nothing but solace for the weak-minded. Besides you get to say "Ok" when she says that she dumps you.

Probability wise it would be very very very difficult to find a woman who isn't into these things (What her friends are gonna say?). Look Luhluhluh, I dunno if you'never noticed that in your life but most NT women are very group-thinking , each is very influenced by what other women and imitate the others - look for example the toilet example in outings when women all go to the toilet in the same time, even if they were 10 persons! It's crazy! As if some borg-style signal got broadcasted to their brains.

In a sense, they're very culture-based and community-driven as well, I can give plenty of examples, here's a few:
- I have dated a lot of East Asian girls, one thing that they ALL have in common: they're so paranoid to be exposed to sunlight! Some would even wear long sleeves when going to the beach and none of those Asians I dates ever does any kind of sunbathing (which I don't like either) . Why? Because they want to stay so white, all of them also use whitening products. They're very obsessed with whitening and hate to get slightly darker. I find this ironic because many of them come from island countries with the most beautiful beaches on the planet.
- On the other hand, Lebanese girls are OBSESSED with sunbathing and getting a tan, the darker the better, as if it's a summer-must ritual, once it's April/May they rush to the beaches for tanning even though the sea water is still too cold for swimming at this time of year, I ask them why do they go and they tell me it's for tanning, they wouldn't swim in cold water (imagine how boring is that). Sunbeds are also very popular. My Asian gf/exes also noticed how opposite the Lebanese women are to Asian women when it comes to the tanning thing.

These are just two examples are how community-driven women are in general, the wedding and marriage rituals are also similar, there is also the craziness about 50 shades of grey books, all these are examples. Can you think of examples of such extreme hive-thinking in men?

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That's lazy. Even if "the average" woman wants something, you're not dating an average. You're looking for an individual.

I get it. You guys want to put every woman in a category and say we're all terrible so you don't have to take any responsibility for your own crap decisions and behavior. It's easier to blame everyone around you rather than admit you make terrible choices.

Do you really believe that most guys have a long list of choices? Usually it's either the few choices or a lifetime celibacy.

Do you really believe that most guys have a long list of choices? Usually it's either the few choices or a lifetime celibacy.[/quote]

That's your problem, not ours. Your overall outcome may be improved if you thought more with the brain in your head and not the one in your pants.

So you criticize our generalizations, yet you make one big generalization (Men think with their dicks).

I was talking marriage/LTRs choices.