Board index › Coping in life › Love and Dating

Marriage and child is no longer feasible [ranty]

Page 5 of 6 [ 89 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6  Next

Previous topic | Next topic

The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 42
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,147
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

08 Apr 2019, 7:56 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Grandparents are pretty important in American culture, too. Especially in "poorer" communities.

Many times, they serve as parents to both the parent of a kid, and the kid him/herself.

Mine gave me alcohol :lol:



Grandparents are usually the 'spoilers' , they would give the kid yummy candies that their mom or dad would prohibit.



kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 87,510
Location: Queens, NYC

08 Apr 2019, 7:57 am

Yep....same here in the USA!



IsabellaLinton
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 1 Nov 2017
Gender: Female
Posts: 72,423
Location: Chez Quis

08 Apr 2019, 8:01 am

Are you worried that your potential children wouldn't have grandparents for very long, Boo?

I had one set in the US, so I only saw them once a year. The other set imploded. Grandfather went into reclusive hiding for eight years and grandmother died from the grief of losing her husband. I didn't have a lot of grandparent influence per se, but I still have very fond memories of them when they were around. Are you parents much older than you?


_________________
I never give you my number, I only give you my situation.
Beatles


Last edited by IsabellaLinton on 08 Apr 2019, 8:02 am, edited 1 time in total.

Trueno
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 2 Jul 2017
Age: 69
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,788
Location: UK

08 Apr 2019, 8:01 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
Trueno wrote:
It's the second time today I've read on here that I seem to be hurtling rapidly towards death. Keep up the good work, guys.

My Dad's another gym lover (11 x a week) he has his gym's record for the plank, and he's 77. You're ok for a bit yet.


Cheers, fluffy

I'll keep checking I'm still alive each morning.


_________________
Steve J

Unkind tongue, right ill hast thou me rendered
For such desert to do me wreak and shame


kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 87,510
Location: Queens, NYC

08 Apr 2019, 8:02 am

Just don't get diabetes....make sure you don't get diabetes.....



The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 42
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,147
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

08 Apr 2019, 9:08 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:
Are you worried that your potential children wouldn't have grandparents for very long, Boo?

I had one set in the US, so I only saw them once a year. The other set imploded. Grandfather went into reclusive hiding for eight years and grandmother died from the grief of losing her husband. I didn't have a lot of grandparent influence per se, but I still have very fond memories of them when they were around. Are you parents much older than you?


Nope, my parents had my two siblings at a reasonable age in mid 20s and mid 30.

Except for me dad had me at age 41, and it was an accidental pregnancy.



Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 08 Apr 2019, 10:01 am, edited 1 time in total.

kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 87,510
Location: Queens, NYC

08 Apr 2019, 9:21 am

I know a woman who had twins at the age of 55. The father was about 20 years younger than her.



Trueno
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 2 Jul 2017
Age: 69
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,788
Location: UK

08 Apr 2019, 9:28 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Just don't get diabetes....make sure you don't get diabetes.....


All my diseases are entirely non-lifestyle related.

I don't drink (unless I can see the Mediterranean), I don't smoke, I don't do drugs. I eat healthily (diseases allowing ) and exercise. As some wag once pointed out... you don't live longer, it just seems longer...


_________________
Steve J

Unkind tongue, right ill hast thou me rendered
For such desert to do me wreak and shame


kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 87,510
Location: Queens, NYC

08 Apr 2019, 9:40 am

I'm lucky. I'm 58. And all I have is arthritis in the knees which doesn't always act up.



The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 42
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,147
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

08 Apr 2019, 10:13 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Just don't get diabetes....make sure you don't get diabetes.....


My brother has Type 1, dad has Type 2.
I regularly get myself checked for pre-diabetes once a year.



Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 08 Apr 2019, 10:50 am, edited 2 times in total.

kraftiekortie
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 4 Feb 2014
Gender: Male
Posts: 87,510
Location: Queens, NYC

08 Apr 2019, 10:39 am

If you don't get diabetes....and you don't smoke cigarettes....most people should be pretty healthy, at the very least, well into their 70s.

The "old voice," I have found, is usually caused by cigarette smoking. Many non-smokers even in their 70s continue to have a "young" voice.

The trouble is: In the 1960s, VIRTUALLY EVERY ADULT smoked cigarettes. And also drank alcohol.

If you watched a sitcom from that time, cigarette commercials/adverts were the norm (though people usually didn't smoke on screen, unless they were in movies). The wife used to make her husband "drinks" on sitcoms when he came home from work. It was seen as being routine.



BenderRodriguez
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 9 Feb 2012
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,343

08 Apr 2019, 11:30 am

David Lynch had his youngest child at 66 and at 73 he's as sharp as ever, never lost a strand of hair in his life and keeps smoking like a chimney with impunity. Yes, I'm fully aware he's not "typical" in any imaginable way :lol:, but he's definitely not the only person making the most of this time of life.

Trueno wrote:
It's the second time today I've read on here that I seem to be hurtling rapidly towards death. Keep up the good work, guys.


You're obviously in no danger :wink:

Leaving aside any chronical/genetical conditions, there's no reason to fall apart in your 50s or 60s or even 70s and I've personally met a surprising number people who were living independently and kept sharp and physically active into their 90s. A lot of people seem to mindlessly indulge in excesses, unhealthy physical and mental habits and that will, of course, take a toll on both their bodies and minds. In most cases, you'll get plenty of warning signs before it gets too late and one can have a significant influence on how they're going to fare in their old age.

Not to mention that strange and extravagant idea: people are different.


_________________
"Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored." Aldous Huxley


BenderRodriguez
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 9 Feb 2012
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,343

08 Apr 2019, 11:33 am

Lost_dragon wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
When they reach 18 I would be already around 58-59. How is that fair for the child? And even if my to-be wife is younger by a decade, how that would be fair to her as well?


It felt weird reading this as a 19 year old with a 60 year old father. My mum is 58. Personally, I don't think this is unfair. I know that the age of people's parents can vary greatly, a few people I know have grandparents that are the same age as my parents. Others have parents the same age. Most seem to have 40-45 year old parents.

Despite their age, they've always been able to keep up with me. Which isn't too surprising, considering that they are big health fanatics. Especially my dad, whenever he says that he's going for a short walk, what he actually means is I'm going for a long trek through the countryside. :lol: Trust me, I've been on these short walks with him and they almost always take the entire day. My mother is also active, she goes to the gym and lots of dance lessons.


Thank you for chipping in, Lost_dragon, it's nice to hear the other side of the story!


_________________
"Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored." Aldous Huxley


The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 42
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,147
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

08 Apr 2019, 12:14 pm

Anyway it is not like I have a potential wife partner, so this whole discussion is really just rheteroic lol, and probably won’t happen even if I change my mind to want it.



Benjamin the Donkey
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 7 Mar 2017
Age: 61
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,392

08 Apr 2019, 10:24 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I'm lucky. I'm 58. And all I have is arthritis in the knees which doesn't always act up.


I'm 55 and all I have is autism.


_________________
"Donkeys live a long time. None of you has ever seen a dead donkey."


The_Face_of_Boo
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 16 Jun 2010
Age: 42
Gender: Non-binary
Posts: 33,147
Location: Beirut, Lebanon.

09 Apr 2019, 7:34 am

Besides the f- autism..

- I had a very severe abdominal migraine from toddler age till around age 9, only after a neurologist diagnosis that it got treated with Periactin (all other doctors assumed it was an abdominal problem) , it was very effective.

- Severe ulcers caused by the abdominal migraine, mainly caused by the repetitive vomiting.

- Scoliosis , I can't perform certain exercises like abs workout.

- Tinnitus at age 36 which is considered young for it.

- Diabetes in 2 close family members.

- Ulcerative colitis in one close family member.

Naah....my genes suck, better not to transfer them.